I live with dp and his parents. Were due our first baby very soon. Maybe I'm being very caution since I'm a ftm, but I'm constantly getting stressed about our living situation. Not only is nothing set up for the baby yet, the house has a major rat and fly problem. The rats keep us up at night they are so loud and so many. They come out into the house from the walls at night, chew threw things, eat our food and leave droppings everywhere. Just to make matters worse were pretty sure ones died as now we have an infestation of flies. These flies are horrible, theres about ten of them in the kitchen, they swarm over your head, land on us, land on the clean cutterly we eat with, crawl over the sides we cook on and are all over our food. I understand that we live in quite a rural area so this is beyond anyones control but thinking about bringing a baby into this environment when flies are all over the babies things already is stressing me to the max. I find it horrible already that when I go to sleep at night the flies linger over our heads and go on our bedding. They also have a dog that is over a year old now and still bites. I know it's not the dogs fault but everyones attempt to get him to stop biting seems half hearted. Sometimes he is told off and sometimes he isnt. If I bring any of this up as a concern I get told off by my dp. Apparently the dog biting isnt seen as a real problem since it's not actually malicious or draws blood, but I've tried to explain just because it doesnt hurt our adult hands doesnt mean it wouldn't do serious damage to a baby. Presumably the whole family will want the dog to meet the baby asap since they are besotted by the dog, but it only makes me anxious and I'd rather keep the dog away. I've tried suggesting we keep the back door closed to limit the amount of flies that get in but that only gets thrown in my face. Weve tried fly traps, rat traps, you name it. I'm at the end of my tether any suggestions on how to handle these problems are more than welcome please, otherwise I may be having this baby away from dp at my own parents house which isnt ideal for our parenting situation but I just dont see any other solution and I'm tired of always been shouted at when I "complain" about these issues. Help!