To work in the same place as my daughter.

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I may be working in the same place as my daughter. Same dept and possibly the same office. I feel awful as I know she doesn't feel comfortable with this even though she has stated she's ok. This is more of a WWUD. Should I turn the job down or would you accept it.

@HoratiotheHorsefly

Sorry but I don't think you should turn it down.

Your daughter is an adult and you're being made redundant. She should understand that right now jobs are few and far between and you need employment.

This absolutely!

You can keep looking, but why not take something that has been offered?

Why did you apply for a job where she works in the first place?

I used to work for the same company on the same floor just a few desks away from my husband, did it for 2 years and no-one even knew we were married or knew each other.

We kept a very strict delineation between work and home as decided we did t want any of our home life to affect work and if we spoke to each other all day we'd have nothing to talk about in the evening.

Would you be able to keep that separation?

@HoratiotheHorsefly

Sorry but I don't think you should turn it down.

Your daughter is an adult and you're being made redundant. She should understand that right now jobs are few and far between and you need employment.

This ^^ with bells on

If your DD has a problem with it, she needs to get over herself!

You absolutely shouldn't turn it down. You're redundant and need a job, and presumably apart from your daughter this job is a good fit. Plus she said it was ok, take her at her word. As an adult she should be able to cope with the idea that your need to earn a living trumps her wish to have a certain persona in the workplace.

A mother and daughter used to work with me - one in accounts, one in marketing but seated relatively close to each other in open-plan office. The daughter was asked to refer to her mother by her first name at all times, to help differentiate between work and personal life.

Worked really well without any issues as far as I know.

I may be working in the same place as my daughter. Same dept and possibly the same office

You need clarification before you decide

Where I used to work, there were lots of family members working together.

To be honest, I would take the job. You've got bills to pay and now is not the time to be picky. You can always keep looking for other jobs while you're there.

Take the job. I also like my space but I wouldn't mind at all if my mum would work in the same place as me.

Worst case, you two run into a problem and need to talk it through, surely that is not that difficult?

What do you mean she acts silly at work? How do you know this? That sounds like such a put down. And then saying she can’t do it when you’re there, like she’s a child and you’d reprimand her.

She’s an adult. What makes you think she acts silly at work?

I used to work with a father and son. It was a small non-profit organisation, only 12 employees. I don’t know who worked there first. They played it down to the extent that I didn’t officially know for months and I only suspected to start with because they had the same surname and did look a bit alike. They called each other by their first names and maintained a professional relationship. It was fine.

You could at least try it and see how it goes?

I worked with my then teenaged DD, she was 17 when she started working in the school I was working in. At work we used our first names to address each other and had different friendship circles etc and took breaks at different times to allow each other freedom from our personal relationships but we travelled to and from work together. At these difficult times I think you need to do what you have to do and if that means working in the same place as a family member then so be it.

I would not want to work alongside any of my family, but I would choose that over not being in a job at all. Given the very large increase in unemployment we are about to see, I'd take the job.

Why did you apply in the first place?

How big is the office? Are there many jobs open to you? Can you afford not to work?

If you’ve got the pick of the jobs or you work as a hobby, fine, don’t.

Otherwise take the job and expect your daughter to be an adult and a professional.

I once worked with OH in an open-plan teaching situation! There were days when we had had a row and only spoke to each other in the classroom.

I'd rather my mum and and myself be in work than unemployed whether it meant working in the same place or elsewhere.

I worked in a supermarket when I was a student and there were 2 sets of mums and daughters on the same department, one tried to have their breaks together the others preferred seperate break times. There were also people who were couples too.

I worked in the same company as my mum for a short while (different offices but a “small business”) and time be honest I hated it.

Not because I felt spied on - but because it sort of felt like people wouldn’t say things around me etc.

If you can turn it down I would but appreciate you may need the job.

Take it and see how it goes?

Do the employers know you're related? If not, I guess it might be sense to have a quiet word with someone relevant. They might even see that as a good reason to make sure you're not in the same office, if you explain you don't want to tread on each others toes.

I've worked with a mother and daughter and a mother and son. In both cases they called each other by their first names (no "Mum" in the office) and they didn't interact much at work.

For those asking why I applied for the job. The industry is huge and we had both agreed I should apply as the chances of working together was minimal. They were requesting 80 new starters. It's only now I am told what department I will be in. And it's the same department, floor and office. Huge open plan and probably no where near her. Yes I do need a job as I have 2 small children still at home.

I work with my mum, and 2 sisters!! I like being able to see them during lockdown, we can have a laugh (yes even our mum)

If you need a job then why not take the job but keep looking for something more suitable should you not wish to work with your daughter. Surely she wouldn't want you to be without a job purely because she works there too.
If it's not good for you both then you can use it as a short term job while you find something more suitable.

@HoratiotheHorsefly

Sorry but I don't think you should turn it down.

Your daughter is an adult and you're being made redundant. She should understand that right now jobs are few and far between and you need employment.

Agree.

I worked in the same place as my DM for a couple of years. Wasn’t an issue at all. Why would you turn down a job when you are being made redundant?

I would take the job. If it's a big call centre chances are you would never see her.

If you need it, you take it. Sounds like a call centre?
If so the distance is naturally there.

That being said, I'd be livid if my mum took a job at my place - because i know she's a fucking twat and would make out she knew everything and was above everyone else. So ironically - its her behaviour and how it would reflect on me that id hate.