To shave my toddlers unibrow...?

[cactusdog]

I feel truly awful asking and I hate that it's even in my mind but the truth it he has one. DS 2.5, has a unibrow. It's not massive and bushy but you can see it.
Someone once made a comment about it when he was 8 months and I have irrationally hated that person since. However it did make me realise that it is noticeable.

So my question is, would you do anything about it? And if so, when?
Surely if I start now and it is just part of his routine then it won't raise any questions, but if I wait until kids start to make fun of him, then he asks, will that impact his self confidence more?

I wish it wasn't an issue and I know it's not a big deal in some ways, but also kids are mean and we've got to live in the real world.

Has anyone else had this experience?

Most people very against it don't have kids with a unibrow I have noticed.

I do and I’m totally against it.

And all the people saying ‘I only do XYZ to make my child more attractive so the mean kids don’t tease them’ - where do you think the mean kids learned that looks are important? Your kids are probably the mean kids.

Intrepidintrovert

So if you dress your child in nice clothes and have their haircut regularly to make them look better it's making them mean?

I've not told my DS to shave his unibrow. He may have been teased because kids tease each other. I just said yes I'll help to shave it off and it does look better.

I would.

It's totally up to you, maybe wait though as my DD was born with a unibrow and I had horrible comments from certain people until the age of 2/3 as she grew up it is now totally unnoticeable it was more fine baby hair than anything else. She's now 8, if I look with a magnifying glass I'll probably see it but otherwise you can't tell at all.

Don't shave it, wax it or take him for electrolysis to get rid of permenantly before it becomes an all consuming problem and all you see when he walks in to the room is his unibrow....

SmileyClare Completely agree, though dyeing and bleaching little kids' hair for supposedly social reasons and 'making kids' lives easier' has sadly been around for a while in some circles. I was bleached from 4, shortly before starting school, for years and I've seen it younger, mainly by mothers who say it makes their kids look better and it'll help them make friends. It's ridiculous how these things develop.

Cut carefully with nail scissors when he is asleep.

If you shave it it will get thicker!

This is a myth

@RunningAwaywiththeCircus

What if he actually was Middle Eastern?

He is Middle Eastern (but not Arab - don't worry, the racist parent couldn't tell the difference either).

And what you say is all very well objectively, but I don't want my DS (who also has SN) to be on the frontline of the war against racist twats. Any more than I particularly want to strut around in my undercrackers to make the point that women should be able to wear what the hell they like.

It's my job to protect him. And that's what I am trying to do.

What we should be doing is teaching our children to stand up for themselves against bullies, not change themselves in order to fit in.

I don't think it's unreasonable OP, if it stops them from being picked on.

However the blade to face is a bit of a worry.

If you choose to do it, use the razors with the guards.

Kim Kardashian shaved her kids mono brow. Not that that's a very good example.....

No. Brows are all the rage these days. My son has a really hairy back and neck but I just think it's beautiful!!

Ahhh love all the hairless white ladies getting all self-righteous about this I would suggest your time would be better spent teaching your own kids about this kind of thing and how people are varying degrees of hairy etc. It's not hairy kids doing the bullying of hairy kids after all.

I get you OP. I'm hairy too. I resent my mother for not taking any interest in assisting me with that despite me expressing that I wanted to do something about it. The teasing began for me when I was about 10 iirc. My mother is white British though and like these other PP couldn't relate at all (my DF is from the ME and I got his family's hair genes). I have a pretty big complex about my facial hair tbh and I doubt it would have been this bad if my DM had helped me remove more of it earlier as I wouldn't have spent so many years focusing on it, hating my appearance and being teased about it.

My DD is 2 and seems to have got my hairy genes but DH's fairer, thinner hair too. Which I'm glad that at least her hair isn't as noticeable as my dark thick hair. Although I know this could change as time goes on. She has a monobrow too. I've got no intention of altering it but when she asks to - which I can guarantee she will - I will be helping her to do so. My child doesn't exist to teach your children a lesson about standing up to bullies!

[quote RunningAwaywiththeCircus]**@Raynasmum2015* if that’s what works for you, go ahead. But you won’t because it’s not your* DC. My DS has enough to contend with - unusual background, Muslim father in C of E school, different looks and SN - he’s my concern, not common or garden racist fuckwits.[/quote]
So teach our kids to pander to racists, thats what we should do is it, well I grew up as the only black girl in my school so I'm sure you can imagine the names I was called, especially in the 80s and early 90s, but I was taught to stand up to racist bullies, not give in to them and I am very grateful my parents taught me that.

I love how you assume I am must be white I am actually black and was the only black girl in my whole school, imagine how that was 25-30 years ago? Its about your child or mine existing to teach racists a lesson, its about teaching children to stand up and be proud of themselves! Why is that so difficult to understand? I'm glad my parents didn't teach me to roll over and bow down to racist idiots on the school playground!

I’d do it. And I suspect it might even weaken it. I’d not hesitate. Have to be honest. Not sure I’d wet shave it, more give it a trim with those things you get for ladies facial hair, like mini electric razors, Beard trimmer things.

I went to school with a girl with a mono brow and I was one of the few kids nice to her. Everyone else was mean. And I was the one who plucked it out for her because she asked me to, we weren’t close friends, she didn’t have any, but I was one of the few who always made time for her and one day she approached me with some tweezers and asked me to remove it.

So I did.

Kids are mean as fuck. So are adults. And that’s why I’d remove it in a flash.

Someone once made a comment about it when he was 8 months and I have irrationally hated that person since

Are you going to edit your baby's face every time someone makes a comment about it ?

And for goodness sake it’s a few hairs, It’s a two second job. With one of those little pen size electric trimmers.

Honestly some folks get hysterical over nothing.

Buy one of those little precision trimmers from amazon, something like this, will take a couple of seconds and it might not even come back once you’ve done it.

www.amazon.co.uk/Eyebrow-Trimmer-Funstant-Facial-Hair/dp/B07V6KVPGT/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&crid=3D2OP6HFMU4NT&keywords=ladies+precision+hair+trimmer&sprefix=precision+trimmer+ladies%2Caps%2C178&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&qid=1599161454&sr=8-5

Thanks @Bluntness100 I do feel people are getting a bit hysterical, especially someone comparing it to child abuse!

I would buy some wax strips from Superdrug and wax it. It won't hurt.

You could do it as part of a haircut with a small, safe razor or trimmer...I mean boys haircuts usually tidy up the edges so I don't think removing it as part of a haircut would be a big deal. Lots of hysteria on this thread.

For goodness sake, it's a few hairs well quite Bluntness which is why it should be left alone until he's older. It's a non issue which Op has blown up in her mind because of issues she had in adolescence with her own mother.

I find all the hair removal suggestions really silly. He's a feckin baby. Wax strips are not recommended for children. The skin is far more delicate and sensitive.

It's all completely unnecessary. 2 year-olds can't even talk, let alone be "mean" to each other about their eyebrows. You're all mad.

I would. You're not exactly giving them a tattoo. Mums have toddlers ears pierced, so a tiny bit of shaving isnt a big deal. those pen shaver things look really handy.