To shave my toddlers unibrow...?

[cactusdog]

I feel truly awful asking and I hate that it's even in my mind but the truth it he has one. DS 2.5, has a unibrow. It's not massive and bushy but you can see it.
Someone once made a comment about it when he was 8 months and I have irrationally hated that person since. However it did make me realise that it is noticeable.

So my question is, would you do anything about it? And if so, when?
Surely if I start now and it is just part of his routine then it won't raise any questions, but if I wait until kids start to make fun of him, then he asks, will that impact his self confidence more?

I wish it wasn't an issue and I know it's not a big deal in some ways, but also kids are mean and we've got to live in the real world.

Has anyone else had this experience?

Is he regularly having his hair cut? I'd just ask the barber/hairdresser to go over it when he has his haircut. It's not a big deal to do it!!

@MeadowHay all the 'hairless white ladies'? That's a bit of an assumption there (and an incorrect one in my case). You think because I don't think a 2 year old should be shaved between the eyes that I must be white? That's just weird.

Agree op. Next they will be claiming cutting his hair is abuse too.

Because what’s the difference between cutting his hair and taking out a few random hairs on his brow.

If you catch it early enough to be honest you might save him a life time of dealing with it himself.

And a mono brow is shit, kids are teased for it, sure not at two, but he’s not going to be two forever.

Just get it dealt with it’s a few hairs and no different from getting his hair cut.

I just can't believe the people on here that would shave, pluck or wax a toddler.

No wonder people are so fucked up with anxiety and mental health issues. If you start with this shit at 2 years old then there is no hope.

I just can't believe the people on here that would shave, pluck or wax a toddler

Goodness me, calm yourself down, you’re being hysterical

She’s talking about taking a little electric trimmer to probably half a dozens hairs between his eye brows. It’s hardly a big deal.

It’s not like she’s suggesting rolling him bodily in wax strips and ripping them off.

My daughters been having hers waxed since she was 6. Her choice.

Off topic a bit but Peblexox

I have a ginger dd (20 mo) and I am fully aware that as she gets older her hair colour may be the cause of ridicule or joke etc.

Its lovely you will be looking out for her but two out of three of mine are redheads, both now teens, boy and girl. This has never been an issue. I think things have changed hugely from when I was growing up in 70s and 80s.

@RunningAwaywiththeCircus

(But well done for making me feel even shittier about his difficulties than I already do. Really appreciate that.)

Now you're making things up as you go along, I said nothing about your child's needs, FYI daughter is also autistic with SPD so I would never do that. I just don't believe we should go out of our way to make bullies and a*holes feel comfortable, whether it be a unibrow, their race, gender, disability or anything else. How do we expect anything to change if we do that? If all humans throughout history did that what kind of world would we be living in now?

@Bluntness100

Thanks for your concern. I don't need calming down and I'm not hysterical.
We are all allowed an opinion and I gave mine.
Just think it's a sad world where a toddler has to be either shaved, plucked or waxed to fit in with the stereotypical idea of normal.

OP can do as she wishes but she asked for an opinion and I obliged.

Who is benefiting from shaving a two year-old's eyebrows? It sure as heck isn't the two year-old. Which of his friends will be critiquing his image? So what's the point of risking ingrown hairs, distressing a child. For what? A few hairs?

I'm not hysterical, I'm the voice of reason in an increasingly image obsessed world.

Eyebrow shaping is not a thing for toddlers. Why are people pretending it's a completely normal suggestion.

I did

Dd even when she was first born she had a unibrow
Not a few thin whisky hairs but a full on Dennis Healy

She took over keeping her eyebrows in shape from a youngish age.
It has calmed down now as she has had it waxed several times in her teens

@SmileyClare
100% agree. This world is overly obsessed with looking perfect. So much anxiety issues in teens caused through thinking they are not perfect, and yet we are thinking it's ok to shave a 2 year old's eyebrows

Is this a joke? Surely its worse to have stubble between the eyebrows at 4 then to have that fluffy hair that is clearly natural and on most kids

@RunningAwaywiththeCircus @Raynasmum2015 I let my dd who has sn have her ears pierced when I'm really not a fan of it on young children because I knew it would give her some kudos amongst the girls at school.

I don’t think I would. If when he gets older he expresses that he doesn’t like it then fair enough, but I wouldn’t when he’s this young

Please do not do this- you will give him a complex, and shaving hair now will make it thick and bristly- not something a young child should have on their face.

He’s practically still a baby: this is not a problem. Leave it until secondary school at the earliest. Please bring him up not to be ashamed of his looks.

@Bluntness100 you know it's ok for people to disagree with you, right?

I know all this 'goodness me', 'you're getting hysterical' nonsense seems to make you think that you sound so reasonable but talking down to posters in this way, as you seem to have a habit of doing, is just tiresome at best.

Because what’s the difference between cutting his hair and taking out a few random hairs on his brow.

She’s talking about taking a little electric trimmer to probably half a dozens hairs between his eye brows. It’s hardly a big deal.

Well if it's only six hairs it's probably not that noticeable is it? And if it's more than "a few" then removing them will be a bigger job and PPs are not being "hysterical" over it.

12yo DD has a monobrow, and seems blissfully unaware of it (although to be fair, her hair is light & fine). If it bothered her, she'd have started plucking away at it as I did to mine from the age of eight (think Gallagher brother/Pat Mustard levels of hairiness in my case).

This makes me so sad to read.

My toddler who is a similar age has a unibrow and I've always thought it was adorable. It's going as she gets older and we always joke we will miss it.

Your child is a child. They don't need to conform to Western beauty standards and certainly don't need you giving them hang ups about it from this age.

[quote formerbabe]**@RunningAwaywiththeCircus* @Raynasmum2015* I let my dd who has sn have her ears pierced when I'm really not a fan of it on young children because I knew it would give her some kudos amongst the girls at school.[/quote]
My daughter actually asked repeatedly if she could have hers done!

Warm up the area with a warm cloth, then pluck.

On the other hand, famous unibrows: artist Frida Khalo, Bert from Sesame Street, basketballer Anthony Davis, Madonna's first daughter (who also has a moustache).

I'd wax it when he has his hair trimmed. Do that, so to him it's just part of grooming and haircut, not specifically do it in isolation. If you see what i mean. No one blinks at a haircut, so just add it into that routine.
If fact, many barbers offer those kind of extras to guys in their shop. Brow tidy, ear wax, nostrils, face steam etc etc.
It's no big deal @cactusdog

My dd is starting at reception next week. She has some dark upper lip hair. It's only noticeable if you're up close but I do worry she'll be teased. I'm not going to remove it unless she asks (which wouldn't be for many years).