aibu to think mn should be for mums and not dads.

[2hot2cook]

id like to think that when i come on here for a quick chat im talking to other women. ive noticed some men on here and thats actually putting me off. some of the topics we talk about are very intimate. i cant understand why men would want to come on this website, maybe the name should be changed to parentnet. aibu.

Hey Stormie, your books are ace.

I agree with you, 2hot2cook. I don't want strange men knowing about my funny shaped fanjo, that I really enjoy wearing satin undies, that I used to bite my toenails, but I can't reach them now, and that I once pinched my boss on the bum thinking it was someone else. So I don't tell anyone those things on a public forum that you don't evenhave to be registered to read.

Doh!

2hot are you from The Victorian Times?

zippit; would rather my dh out fixing the car than talking on here. i do believe in traditional male/female roles. have never seen a man comfortable changing a nappie, and never will.

Oh you have to be a troll. Is it a traditional female role to be gas-bagging on a computer forum?

you are not for real?

you might beleive in them, but that does not mean it is right for everyone

if you don;t like the fact men are involved in parenting, and that means they can post on a parenting site, to be blunt..that is your problem.

am a bit at this whole divide. are they not your Dhs children too?????

the world of internet discussion boards, for me, stretches back just over a decade and women were in a minority then, so traditionally it is a male preserve

Is parenting not a masculine thing to do then?

Cos the only men I know with zero interest in ever parenting are all gay.

Perhaps you need to broaden your horizons a bit 2hot?

Find a sahd at mother and toddler and chat to him?

You will find that plenty men are comfortable with caring for babies, some men are even better than women at it!!!!

Look, 2hot, you are entitled to your opinions. But we are not going to agree with you because your views are outdated, misogynistic, and insupportable in 2007. You are being horribly sexist and you are making me uncomfortable.

You will never see my Dh changing a nappy, but that's because I'm never going to put a video of it online.

He changes them quicker than I do.

YABU. There's no male equivalent of Mumsnet and I often think my DP would really benefit from coming on here himself. Might have to name change if he did though!

Don t mind men posting on here. Certainly would not put me off using MN. I may not however be as interested in what the men have to say as the women seeing as I have a very opinionated DH and FIL and get quite enough of their male views on anything and everything thank you very much.

2hot, you should come round to my house. My dh changes most of the nappies here! I don't think he enjoys it any more than the rest of us do but he does it.

I'm assuming there are websites out there that just cater for women (handbag.com?) but this isn't one of them. I'd suggest you find somewhere where you feel more comfortable posting.

Waves to tripbot - long time no see!!!

Quick Hijack - we are watching Series 7, Toby has just 'fessed up

lulumama; its not about division at all, its about excepting what men are good at and what women are good at,(its much more of a female trait to chat all day.)
i think all this "new man" thing is wrong. if my dh ever starts using moisturiser i'll divorce him!

what utter tosh, didn't some study show recently that men gossip much more than women?

you are maknig this far too simplisitc, in my opinion

we are parents

men are parents too

you;d not last 5 minutes with my DH, gym 5 times a week, moisturises, takes an interest in clothes, buys clothes for teh DCs, wears accesories...and has input into our childrens' lives

being a parent is not a woman only role

by making it so rigid, you are going to exclude your husband from your childrens' lives

what if you , god forbid, got poorly, and had to be in hospital for a few days.. it would be a very poor show if your DH could not change nappies, feed and clothe and nurture his own children

So, my dh is good at

Cooking
Ironing
Gardening
Cleaning
Listening to dd sob about her love life
Taking care of ill children
Telling me to get off mumsnet and study (exams on Wednesday)
Doing everything while I study!!

And he uses E45 each morning and looks bloody good off it!!

Whereas I'm crap at most things -

parenting is hardly about nappies, but if it was then surely men do change them..that's just normal and unremarkable

why should men be better at fixing cars? i know men who are crap at that..in fact more often than not they are crap at that

I'm surprised you've even found a man who so wholly subscribes to such a limited role

I retract my 2hot is not a troll post

2hot - have you agreed to stop using magic because your husband says so? Don't you get the slightest urge to wrinkle your nose? Just a little bit?

I just allowed a small amount of wee to escape, thanks Habbibu

Vacua - a man could have read that! Have you no decorum?