aibu to think mn should be for mums and not dads.

[2hot2cook]

id like to think that when i come on here for a quick chat im talking to other women. ive noticed some men on here and thats actually putting me off. some of the topics we talk about are very intimate. i cant understand why men would want to come on this website, maybe the name should be changed to parentnet. aibu.

Can I ask again what Vacua asked earler, do you still feel the same about men posting?

2hot, do you mind my asking if there are any cultural/religious reasons for your concern about chatting to men on Mumsnet? It's just quite unusual to come across posters for whom this is an issue.

vacua; still not happy with men using the site.
dh is more than a paypacket, but just the way it is. rather him working hard, than at home sorting out ds school uniform or whatever. maybe missing out, only time will tell.
but yes vacua, back to my point, not happy with men on here, sorry.

The if you're not happy with men posting on the site, I suggest you find a different one, as we have been pretty much unanimous about the fact that we like the fact that men contribute and that this is a site for parents - quite apart from the fact that you can't tell if someone is a female even if they say they are.

FWIW - I am 46 and dh is 48 - but my parents were the same in taking an equal reposnisiblity nin bringing my brother and I up - and mum worked full time too.

Dh also changed lots of nappies - we used to argue over whose turn it was

marina; excellent question! no its nothing to do with cultural/religious beliefs, but that could be an issue for other mn users. im not a fool, but really am surprised men use this site?

You're just going to have to get used to it 2hot or find somewhere else to chat because the men aren't going anywhere. Sorry to be so blunt but that's the way it is.

there are things I wish men wouldn't do

like spitting

Men use this site because they have something to contribute. They are parents.

Just becasue your dh is not an involved parent or a new man does not mean that other aren't.

You said you would divorce your dh if he wore moisturises - well, I owuld divocre my dh if he weren't equally involved in the bringing up of his child.

was that a question?

Well clearly men are welcome from this thread

Maybe you should try babycentre or somewhere a bit fluffier?

the men on here are great, why would you wanallyt to change things?

get em out of power in most of the governments of the world, but on MN they show their best colours,

long live men!!!

I think it's great to have male posters giving their perspective on parenting issues 2hot, and we have some really interesting, lovely men posting here.
But I can imagine that there are posters who might feel uncomfortable about it, and cultural/religious reasons sprang to mind as a possible reason.
IMO there is nothing wrong with being cautious and discreet about what you yourself post but you are honestly missing out on all that Mn has to offer by being so anxiously focussed on our handful of dads .
Come on over to the knitting threads we never see any chaps there!

god, too much white wine at lunch.

WANT

justjules; not a problem if no children, your a women.

prettybird; rather my dh working hard to provide a good life for his family, than have a dh that sat talking to other women on mumsnet

Justjules, can I ask why you're on a parenting website if you're not a parent? I'd have thought it would get very boring discussing children if you don't have them. I'm not saying you shouldn't, just interested.

2hot, what would he be missing out on? Don't you feel that you are "missing out" on a career then, you make staying at home to look after the children out to be a sacrafice. I've put my career on hold to look after my DD, i miss my work, but i dont feel that i am missing out, however i do worry that DP misses out by working so hard. So does he.

ARe you for real?

Lyra, we have women here who are hoping to become mothers, through conception or adoption...we've got one member that I know of who had a pregnancy scare, liked the company and stayed anyway...I think we have some childcare professionals who don't have children of their own
There are lots of reasons for them to be here...just as there are for dads

Of course, thanks Marina.

Lyra, we have lots of posters who aren't parents - child-minders, nannies, some aunts - they're involved WITH children though.

2hot - you want a board called WomenOnlyNet then

lyra, my initial thought was that, i SO did not want to discuss parenting issues before DD. BUT this site really gets its teeth into some serious non parenting issues too, relationships, families in general oh and not to mention saucepans and shoes!!! Also, perhaps she is thinking about becoming a mummy in the near future

mumsnet has a lot of support for those TTC,who have miscarried, are adopting or wnating to start families, a good place to get useful info before you have childrne

x posts !

Heck I wish it had existed when ds was born

I wish I'd found when long before I did. I used to post on a Babyworld antenatal forum
But I haven't been there in years.

Found it, not found when.