Where's Xenia, she'll sort all this out!!
ROTFL!! Why is gassing on the net a famle thing?? Ive found it to be quite the opposite. I have a whole bunch of "buddies" on my AOL messenger thing ALL men, never really found the women have anything to say that interests me. No really, but you guys are different and im pleasantly surprised that i while the hours away on here with a bunch of feisty likeminded parents!
As for men not being comfortable changing nappies WTF?? My DP changed DDs nappies from day one, why wouldnt he - i have to admit that he will pass the buck on the horrible poo down the leg jobbies but he is actually so blardy disorganised and a little bit squeemish that it really is easier if i do it. My DP ADORES his little girl and likes doing all the girlie things with her (although she isnt actually that girly - neither am i). I do remember my MIL saying that if she were out and her children soiled their nappies her DH would leave them for her, and looked quite miserable about DP changing DD's nappy. I put her straight about that - told her i thought that was outrageous and that it wouldnt even have occured to DP to not do it, i remember the first time he did it, he arsed it up big time as he was scared of pressing too hard with the cotton wool, bless him. But i guess that is a generational thing. Saying that, my father always changed mine, bathed me, sat with me when i was sick etc etc.
IF the OP isnt actually a troll and feels she wants to play the martyr to her lazy arse husband then thats up to her, but dont be trying to disguise it as a masculine v effeminate new age man. My DP is as masculine as they come (built like a brick shit house, tattoo'd, builder) and has no problem with any of the baby stuff, he has even come along to M&T with me and has offered to take dd on his own when i have been sick ( i said i couldn't put him through that!).
I certainly don't hold with the notion that all men are hapless fools, i love men (and not just in a letchy pervy way!). Women and men ARE different, but not thankfully when it comes to being parents, they have equal amounts to offer. I guess the only thing that differs with us is DP is loving the fact that DD adores trains and tried to pull me into the model shop yesterday saying choo choo choo choo, and im a bit well, YAWN!!!