To ask for a hand hold regarding pregnancy

[LampGenie]

So, 43, post chemo, and going by the dates 7 weeks pregnant today. This is a great surprise obviously - we hadn’t used any barriers for over 5 years as we were told during a fertility assessment there was so little chance without IVF so had written any chance of a second off. Going for a viability scan tomorrow. Only people who know are DH and my mum so nervous and in need of a hand hold.

Now part of my thinks for this little person to have made a home in me, it must be a fighter and this is an absolute gift. My other side thinks this is mental, it could be seriously disabled in ways we can’t even scan for and what do I do if something is picked up considering it is such a miracle to get to this stage even??

Also, there was a thread not long ago where the OP asked if people regretted having a ‘last chance baby’ and many more people said yes than I thought would. So... if anyone from that thread is reading this - why did you regret it? Was it the additional needs of the child? Additional cost? Sleepless nights?

TIA x

Forget the other thread. Those were very different situations.

Your situation is kinda like a miracle. Whatever they tell you tomorrow and your response to it will tell you enough.

Only your heart knows what you want.
I hope the results are what you want them to be op.

Life is miraculous.

Not a dissimilar story from me OP & wishing you well tomorrow xx

Wishing you so much luck for tomorrow 🍀🙏🏻🤞🏻❤️

Wishing you lots of luck for tomorrow.

I think planning a last chance baby is a different thing to a surprise baby that happens at the same point in your life

BTW I know someone in your situation a few years back - she'd been told her cancer treatment had put her through menopause. She was offered termination because they were worried the cancer would return (oncologist wasn't worried about it recurring BTW the obstetrician was - she decided she'd rather listen to the oncologist about the cancer and the obstetrician about the pregnancy) - she had a healthy baby (and still in remission for the cancer)

Wishing all the best for you OP.

Lots of luck and reaching out my hand for you to hold

Handhold

Handhold - all the best wishes in the world x

Best of luck OP 🍀💐

Very tentative congratulations from me.
Hand hold and fingers crossed for you and DH.

All my fingers crossed and sending a prayer up for you OP. It is indeed a miracle. Thinking of you today and hoping everything goes well

Thinking of you today xx

What other people experienced is irrelevant
Ignore those thoughts and focus on what lies ahead for you and your family

Handhold x

Thank you for all your hand holding... Just as an update - the sonographer could see a heart beat, a yolk sac and everything else a little 7 week old embryo needs. It feels like a real miracle....

Congratulations. I hope everything goes swimmingly for you.

Gaaaw! Congrats OP

Lovely news op

Congratulations OP! So glad everything went well.
Wishing you and DH all the best and a healthy happy pregnancy.

Congratulations OP xx

Congratulations OP! If you're worried get the harmony test - it's private only but it's very accurate and might give you some peace of mind.

:) :) yes - harmony test all booked in already to make sure

Best of luck with everything!

awww, congratulations. What a surprise.

I read between the lines that you are very worried about additional needs. I have a child with a chromos disorder and saw that you wrote that you are booked in for the harmony test - 'to make sure'. I am not sure how aware you are but the harmony test only looks for some very few and common disorders such as T21. The waste majority of chromosome disorders cannot be detected with antenatal tests.

If you cannot contemplate a child with complex SN, then I would think hard about going ahead esp given your age and your medical history. I might not be a popular post but you asked about having a child with SN.

Wishing you all the best