Would your partner do this?

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If you'd had an arguement and you were upset sat downstairs in tears would your partner just sit upstairs after calling you a prick and a fucking joke! Quite happily sat up there watching football on his phone !

My h would never call me a prick or a fucking joke.

Yeh my ex would . EX been the word

I can’t imagine he would say either of those things to me, if he did I suspect he’d leave the house to calm down.

Are you ok?

My ex partner would have yes hence why he is an ex. You are worth more than that OP do not put up with it x

DH and I tend not to go with personal insults when we have a row.

Having said that, I know a few people who do.

Either way, if you've both fallen out it's unlikely he's going to come downstairs and make it up with you right now.

My husband doesn’t call me names. No matter what we argue about.

If I was upset to the point of tears at an argument it would indicate a serious problem in our relationship too.

I'm okay thankyou just so hurt, his mother can be so nasty yet he doesn't get it. I need to walk away but feel so guilty

Yes I could see that happening in here, but then we both have pretty sharp tongues when arguing, and I am quite an emotional person, and he's not in the slightest.

Not twice

We never use personal insults (except when we're obviously joking around). If someone called me names like that during an actual fight, I'd probably leave him.

Nope. Never. We don’t go in for personal attacks and I’d end of with someone who treated me like that.

My husband and I have been together 15 years and never uttered anything approaching that to each other.

No, he wouldn't. We have been together for 18 years and have never called each other names in anger. Not out loud anyway.

Anyone who thinks that's ok needs to be dumped
Don't just sit there get packing!

I've been with husband for 28 years and he has never spoken to me like that, we have had rows yes, but he has never disrespected me like that, and I would leave if he did.

Current partner? No.

Ex Partner? Definitely yes.

He would sleep the sleep of the dead (if only) after hitting me in the face.

Note EX

sounds exactly like my ex...except when he went on his computer as if nothing had happened he was messaging OW... not DRFC supporter is he

My EX did this. Been divorced 3 years

My exh would have done. In fact I think it’s part of the pleasure of it for them - really upsetting you and then being completely unconcerned. He would quite happily go to sleep after being very nasty (not violent but upsetting) or a good old favourite, smiling happily into his phone.

Well we don't call each other names when arguing, so no.

Assuming you didn't also call him some names then I think you need to value yourself more than this op

Op, the issue here isnt that he isnt downstairs comforting you. It is that he said those things to begin with.

Leave

My ex would happily get on with his life while I cried upstairs, it’s the nit caring that’s so hurtful, I doubt he’ll change.

If DP spoke to me like that he wouldn't be sitting upstairs. He'd be at his Sister's or a mates, surrounded by his worldly belongings.

for you OP.

Why do you feel guilty? My ex did this and it was yet another sign that I had to leave.

Do you have dc? Why do you feel guilty?

This sounds familiar. Divorced seven years.