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Would your partner do this?

28 replies

Whostolemychocolate · 30/08/2020 22:55

If you'd had an arguement and you were upset sat downstairs in tears would your partner just sit upstairs after calling you a prick and a fucking joke! Quite happily sat up there watching football on his phone !

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Tanfastic · 30/08/2020 22:56

My h would never call me a prick or a fucking joke.

Namechanger87851 · 30/08/2020 22:58

Yeh my ex would . EX been the word

MsEllany · 30/08/2020 22:58

I can’t imagine he would say either of those things to me, if he did I suspect he’d leave the house to calm down.

Are you ok?

clpsmum · 30/08/2020 22:58

My ex partner would have yes hence why he is an ex. You are worth more than that OP do not put up with it x

WorraLiberty · 30/08/2020 22:59

DH and I tend not to go with personal insults when we have a row.

Having said that, I know a few people who do.

Either way, if you've both fallen out it's unlikely he's going to come downstairs and make it up with you right now.

Tunnocks34 · 30/08/2020 22:59

My husband doesn’t call me names. No matter what we argue about.

If I was upset to the point of tears at an argument it would indicate a serious problem in our relationship too.

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Whostolemychocolate · 30/08/2020 23:06

I'm okay thankyou just so hurt, his mother can be so nasty yet he doesn't get it. I need to walk away but feel so guilty

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Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 30/08/2020 23:10

Yes I could see that happening in here, but then we both have pretty sharp tongues when arguing, and I am quite an emotional person, and he's not in the slightest.

DustyMaiden · 30/08/2020 23:14

Not twice

WeirdlyOdd · 30/08/2020 23:14

We never use personal insults (except when we're obviously joking around). If someone called me names like that during an actual fight, I'd probably leave him.

Merryoldgoat · 30/08/2020 23:16

Nope. Never. We don’t go in for personal attacks and I’d end of with someone who treated me like that.

My husband and I have been together 15 years and never uttered anything approaching that to each other.

MaudebeGonne · 30/08/2020 23:18

No, he wouldn't. We have been together for 18 years and have never called each other names in anger. Not out loud anyway.

Hellokitty82 · 30/08/2020 23:26

Anyone who thinks that's ok needs to be dumped
Don't just sit there get packing!

GreyHare · 30/08/2020 23:31

I've been with husband for 28 years and he has never spoken to me like that, we have had rows yes, but he has never disrespected me like that, and I would leave if he did.

PyongyangKipperbang · 30/08/2020 23:31

Current partner? No.

Ex Partner? Definitely yes.

He would sleep the sleep of the dead (if only) after hitting me in the face.

Note EX

TheUnquestionedAnswer · 30/08/2020 23:35

sounds exactly like my ex...except when he went on his computer as if nothing had happened he was messaging OW... not DRFC supporter is he Grin

LivingMyBestLifeNOT · 30/08/2020 23:35

My EX did this. Been divorced 3 years

Stannisbaratheonsboxofmatches · 30/08/2020 23:36

My exh would have done. In fact I think it’s part of the pleasure of it for them - really upsetting you and then being completely unconcerned. He would quite happily go to sleep after being very nasty (not violent but upsetting) or a good old favourite, smiling happily into his phone.

JM10 · 30/08/2020 23:37

Well we don't call each other names when arguing, so no.

Assuming you didn't also call him some names then I think you need to value yourself more than this op

JulesCobb · 30/08/2020 23:44

Op, the issue here isnt that he isnt downstairs comforting you. It is that he said those things to begin with.

Leave

scubadive · 30/08/2020 23:47

My ex would happily get on with his life while I cried upstairs, it’s the nit caring that’s so hurtful, I doubt he’ll change.

HowFastIsTooFast · 30/08/2020 23:54

If DP spoke to me like that he wouldn't be sitting upstairs. He'd be at his Sister's or a mates, surrounded by his worldly belongings.

Thanks for you OP.

honeygirlz · 30/08/2020 23:56

Why do you feel guilty? My ex did this and it was yet another sign that I had to leave.

Would your partner do this?
Shizzlestix · 31/08/2020 00:06

Do you have dc? Why do you feel guilty?

GreenPlum · 31/08/2020 00:11

This sounds familiar. Divorced seven years.

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