How much money in wedding card?

[MummytoP18]

My partner is going to his friends wedding, me and our daughter are not attending as due to covid it’s a small 30 person church ceremony followed by drinks etc at his parents home. I’ve only been to close family members weddings before where we have bought a nice gift but since I don’t really know the couple we are opting for money in a card. How much would you put in?

£50 ? I suppose it depends how long they've known each other and what you can afford ?

i normally give 50 if invited to the full day/night and 25 if just a evening guest

What does your DH think? How close is he to his friend?
50 quid sounds ok to me unless he is a very close friend.

I m not sure I understand.

Surely your DP knows the couple well or he wouldn't be one of just 30 people invited

So why isn't he choosing a gift? I am not sure why you think it falls to you? I really would not put money in a wedding card, it seems pretty crass to me, sorry.

50 is reasonable if he is going alone, if he is one of just 30 he is clearly important to them

I would leave it to DP to decide what to do.

I think that last time I did something like that I just sellotaped half-a-crown inside the card.

But it was a long time ago, and there was a war on.

It depends...but I'd say £50 in this situation.

His job to manage this, not yours. I agree that shoving money is a bit crass but that'll be his crassness not yours.

£50

If they have asked for money then that's ok
I mean I wouldn't but if they have it's fine
I normally spend about £100 so would give that

@WhoWouldHaveThoughtThat

I think that last time I did something like that I just sellotaped half-a-crown inside the card.

But it was a long time ago, and there was a war on.

How much is half-a-crown in today’s money?

I'd say anything from £25-£100 depending on your financial situation too, i always think that's important to remember if your hard up and they know that personally I'd feel awful to receive £100.

Saying that we have a really rich uncle who put £500 in a card and although very wealthy we aren't close and were shocked

Probs about £70 for one person.

Money in a card is hardly crass. It's what most couples would prefer these days!
I usually opt for anything between £50 and £100 depending on my relationship with the bride and groom. Leave it to your dh to figure out.

Between £50 and £100

I'd probably give £50 too.

And money is much more common as a wedding gift these days & isnt thought of as crass by most people anymore.

We’re not super well off so usually put £40 in between the two of us and most wedding gifts we received from couple friends our age were similar.

Sorry, but you must all have money to burn!! £20 is fair enough. I don't spend £100 on my own kids birthdays so wouldn't spend it on a wedding gift for adults

If we’re not that close I put £30 in, if close and plush wedding £50.

I always think how much the day is likely to have cost them per head!

@ZigZagPlant

If we’re not that close I put £30 in, if close and plush wedding £50.

I always think how much the day is likely to have cost them per head!

My wedding cost us about £125 per head...hardly anyone gave us that much!! I definitely would have been surprised if people had given us anywhere near that. Apart from a few rich aunts/grandparents, most people gave us money/gifts costing around £50 if a couple was attending. Some gave us nothing, which was fine too.

Close friend normally £100
Family £250

@modgepodge

That’s why I said I try. You can’t know unless you’ve outright asked.

I tend to put in £50 as a base, up to £100 if close to the couple. But whatever you can afford is absolutely fine.