Is he too young?

[Ruminmycoffee]

I'm 40 (f) Wibu to date a man in his late twenties (28 ) do you think he's too young? Too much of an age gap ?

Depends what you (and he) are looking for long term.

Someone to meet with for meals, days out, fun etc or long term marriage, house, kids.

If both on same page then go for it!

Personally, wouldn't. Too big an age gap for me, and different outlooks. But you are both happy to do so, then I'd say go go for it

Go for it.

If you were a man you wouldn’t even be questioning it.

OP I'm 14 years older than my dh. When his friends adked about the age gap he said its a nightmare going out with a 6 year old!

I'vebeen thinking the same thing, I'm 42 dating a 33 yr old from work. He's amazing 😍😍😍....... And the sex 👌👌👌, talk about stamina!!!!! Xx

I think it's fine. The age gap between DH and me is about the same, though he is older. You're both adults. If you are compatible, why not date and see where the relationship goes?

Half your age plus 7 is the rule
So you're fine. Have fun!

You won't be dating him when you're 50 so it won't be an issue.
Go for it and have fun!

Go for it! No one would bat an eyelide if you were a man and he a woman. There will be some life experience differences but that doesn't have to be a bad thing. Some 50 year olds are like giant man-children. Some men in their 20s are mature. Do it! (assuming you do actually want to but are letting unreasonable social ideas about younger men and older women hold you back).

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I've been thinking the same thing, I'm 42 dating a 33 yr old from work. He's amazing 😍😍😍....... And the sex 👌👌👌, talk about stamina!!!!! Xx

Quite possibly the most un mumsnetty comment I’ve seen in ages 🤣 lol.

Go for it OP. I’m 28 & id date a 40 year old in good nick

@managedmis

Nah shag him

and then come and tell us all about it :)

I was 27 when I met my now dh he was 39 ... been together nearly 9 years . Go for it!

How old are the children? If you get serious, were children being in your life a thing you were thinking about

Theres 10 years between me and DH, it has never been an issue.
Age is just a number.

If you're just looking for some fun, crack on. I would never want to be a step mum so the fact he's got two (presumably also quite young?) kids would rule up anything serious/long term for me.

If he already has 2 kids he probably loces having an older woman. Same age woman wants to get married and start a family he has been there done that. You can both benefit from this. Will definitely take you into your sexual prime aswell 😉

My DH is 11 years younger than me. Been together 22 years . He was 20 and I was 31 when we met Age is a load of bollocks. He's much more sensible than I am . The only thing that may be an issue long term is if he wanted kids and you didn't. Apart from that I would say ...go for it

Happily married to OH with a 9 year age gap, if it feels right it is right. Enjoy yourselves.

What do you want from this? What does he want?
If you’re on the same page, why not?
I met my husband when he was 18 and I was 29.
That was a considerably long time ago now.
This wouldn’t normally work, and I took a lot of convincing at the time, but he was not the average 18yo and it weirdly went well. I’m certainly glad I gave it a try.

When my mom was 52 she had a fling with a guy age 35. They had fun. He was literally a childhood friend of my brothers and pursued her for years. They remained close friends until her death. Emmanual Macron, anyone?

No, it's not wrong, he's a proper adult!

However, I think it's unwise

It's not too bad now, but as you get older that's a big gap. When you're 60, he'll only be 48 and that's a big difference in life stages.

No problem if you BOTH just want a bit of fun, but often one falls hard & gets hurt.

DM is 61 and her DH is 50, they've been together for 24 years (since she was 37 and he was 26, so when she was your age, he was 29 - very similar).

No one has ever raised so much as an eyelash as far as I know, in fact I think it's kept my DM younger - she certainly looks years younger than her similarly aged friends.

I say go for it!

My husband is 13yrs older than me, I was 23 when we got together, been together 12 yrs and married for 10.
Go for it!

What I would say is if you want a long term relationship and to live with someone, finding that in your late 40's is more difficult. If you want a few years of fun, go for it.

I had younger fuck buddies in my late 30's/early 40's, 23-27 year olds. The sex was great and spoilt it when I got with someone my own age tbh. My expectations were too high. It's a time period that I don't regret, I'm sure on my deathbed it will be my fondest memory. But I don't ever want to live with someone again.

Rarely do age differences at your age range workout, younger male, older woman work out. Hos children will add extra complications, unless that's what you now want.

Sex changes during the peri-menopause and post menopause, so make the most of your 40's.