To NOT have another mum ring me and demand I keep my son away from her son in class, because HER son hits mine?

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She rang in outrage 3.30 pm on a friday afternoon. Again she had been told her son had been nasty to mine, and she demanded I say the following to my son: "Can you STOP playing with X because X's mum says so?".

I am pretty shook up, she was very rude. Her son is my sons best friend in class, and sometimes they squibble. And sometimes her son pushes mine, kids do that. My son is also the only child her child plays with. She says she rather her son have NO friends in school, than a friend that provokes him to nasty ness, as it will not be good for his record.

She also referred to an incident last year where her son had pushed my sons drinking bottle up his mouth so my sons lip split, and this ended up on her sons record card "So thank you very much for that one" she said to me!

I rang the school after wanting to hear what happened today from his teacher, but got to talk to Headmistress. I have a meeting with her on monday morning to discuss. Dont really know what to think about all this.

This woman is demanding my son and her son is not talking in class. They should be completely separated, as her son needs to focus on his grades and his school work. They are in year 1. Opinions please?

Wow - as everyone else has observed, she is as mad as a box of frogs.

One point that you might make to the school is that they should not be telling her which other child was involved in the incident (assuming that they did) to avoid problems such as this.

Not sure I would want a face to face meeting with the woman - think that might just provoke greater excesses.

Good luck with your meeting with the school.

Thanks guys. I think the fact that Headmistress eyes were welling up just about says it all. Her take on it is that this is a mum near breaking point, and they can offer her help. Fingers crossed that she can find a way of parenting her boy without so much aggression.

On another note, she went to evening Mass last night, and spoke to another mum about this (who is my friend), and regrets the way she handled the situation. My friend gave her sensible advise, and I hope that the fact that she feels that she can confide in her will in part help her somewhat.

Sounds like a horrible situation Starry, but it seems to me you are doing everything you can to sort it out in an intelligent way.

That poor child, and his poor Mum too. Glad to hear she is asking for advice, and hopefully the school can help her.

Hope it goes well.