To take DD's DP to task...

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I'll try to get everything out here and not drip feed...

DD became pregnant at 19, considered not progressing, I offered support, to take the child etc but expressly said that I would support whatever decision she made.

FFWD... scan shows twins, DD decides to continue with pregnancy. Goes into early labour (33 +3) ECS without partner present, just me. DD suffers terrible PPD (was HG during pg). Goes home with her DP and leaves me holding the babies in SCBU.

I raise the DGS until they're 6 months as a single parent, minimal financial support from BPs and no visitation.

At 6 months DD and her DP (children's father) arrive and take beloved DGC away from me. No explanation, left me broken hearted.

I took all of DGC things to DDs home (several hours drive away) and DDs DP refused to let me in, to let me see my beautiful DGC.

FFWD several years, DD and I have repaired our relationship, we're absolutely fine and enjoy a fabulous relationship. DDP has NEVER apologised for his behaviour and never even thanked me for what I did (DGC would have been taken into care had I not stepped in).

AIBU to expect an apology from DD's DP for his hideous behaviour, or should I just rejoice that I now have a wonderful relationship with DD again as well as my gorgeous DCG?

I feel that DD's DP is a dick and should not have (literally) slammed the door in my face when I travelled to take everything I had here for DGCs after they took them without warning.

I'm sorry for the long post, it's something that has had an awful impact on my MH and family relationships.

Please give me your unbiased opinions?

Swallow your pride and hide your resentment. You've made up with your daughter for now and that's good. Do everything you can to maintain that relationship, even if you have to bite your lip, so that you can be there for your grandkids. Your DD and her DP don't sound like the sort of couple that are ever going to be stable and your DGC need you to have their backs. Play the long game and as far as he goes remember the old addage about keeping your friends close and your enemies closer.

I’m surprised SS didn’t push for an SGO. Ours did, but it’s been worth it. They don’t get to swan in and take my GD back.

If you had parental responsibility there must have been court orders involved. Thst doesnt tally with them being able to walk back in and remove them.

Honestly he doesn’t matter, just focus in your dd and dgc. Don’t get drawn into his drama because that’s what he wants you to do so he can give a concrete reason for freezing you out to your dd again.