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Original poster

Kids sleepover?

32 replies

Sundiamond · 27/08/2020 06:31

I have a primary school age DS. He's been asked for a sleepover to a friend.

Virus wise, I can't decide what I think about this - we've had playdates with kids. They've come here, DS has been there. He's done lots of summer clubs with kids.

Us adults have been much more cautious, still SD, not eaten or been in a restaurant/bar etc. No holiday etc etc.

My gut is to let him. Good gut? Or Bad gut?

OP posts:
Lovelivelaughcry · 27/08/2020 07:10

Let him! No different to all the other activities you've mentioned

Grobagsforever · 27/08/2020 07:12

Mine have had sleepovers, ours kids have suffered enough during lockdown, they deserve a return to normal childhood experiences.

MyOtherProfile · 27/08/2020 07:14

Mine are older (secondary school age) and have done sleepovers in the garden in separate tents. No inside ones yet and I'm not sure I would agree yet.

AnnaMariaDreams · 27/08/2020 07:14

We have. Not just now, under local lockdown- but when it’s lifted and before it was introduced. Just one child though so following the 2 households rule.

Original poster
Sundiamond · 27/08/2020 07:15

@MyOtherProfile - I would feel differently if they were older. We know the risks of transmission are higher

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Jessicabrassica · 27/08/2020 07:20

[quote Sundiamond]@MyOtherProfile - I would feel differently if they were older. We know the risks of transmission are higher[/quote]
I don't think transmission risk varies with age does it? Is it not just the severity of symptoms?
Although, transmission rate probably massively increased if there's snogging involved.

MyOtherProfile · 27/08/2020 07:24

I don't think transmission risk varies with age does it? Is it not just the severity of symptoms?

This.

Original poster
Sundiamond · 27/08/2020 07:28

Yes, sorry, my ignorant way of relaying info. I understand it's severity of symptoms etc

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BrutusMcDogface · 27/08/2020 07:29

I said no to my daughter Sad

Rainallnight · 27/08/2020 07:30

It’s against the rules.

Mindymomo · 27/08/2020 07:35

It’s very difficult to decide. He’s going to be back at school soon, so will be back with friends and as you say he’s been going to clubs and seeing friends and if he really wants to go, it’s hard to say no.

Jessicabrassica · 27/08/2020 07:38

Dd has had one. Well 2. With one person. Her mum and I are close friends. We've formed a bubble. There's is one of 2 houses I've been in. I figured mh benefits to the girls far outweighed and cv risks.

beela · 27/08/2020 07:42

It's not against the rules, as long as it's one household at a time, but we said no to both our primary age dc at the start of the holidays. It just didn't feel right at the time. I think I'd be OK with it now though.

Sh05 · 27/08/2020 07:43

I would let him have it now before school starts, we've no idea how opening schools is going to go so before rules are tightened, whilst rates are low, let him have his sleepover

Sh05 · 27/08/2020 07:44

My dd starts reception on the 9th, as soon as local lockdown is lifted she's having a one night sleepover at my sister's. She's waited so patiently and is looking forward to it massively

ineedaholidaynow · 27/08/2020 07:52

You are meant to social distance though if you have someone from another household staying in your house. I assume that won’t happen with a sleepover.

Also many of the rate increases are being linked to mixing households indoors.

I know many people are going with the idea that as children will be mixing with many others at school they may as well give up with social distancing outside of school, but what schools need are for people to follow the guidelines or even reduce mixing even if within the guidelines as to try and keep the virus out of schools, or it is going to be a very disruptive winter term,

Original poster
Sundiamond · 27/08/2020 07:59

@ineedaholidaynow - I get that. I do. It's why we've been so careful. I want to be responsible. Equally, we have an only child, he's done 6 months being really good. It feels like we could potentially allow him this one sleep over without feeling we're sending a bomb up local infection rate numbers.

I don't know. It's a minefield.

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Potterpotterpotter · 27/08/2020 08:02

My daughters been to several sleepovers and I took a friend of hers away with us last weekend. She’s been to a few parties too.

I would say yes.

ineedaholidaynow · 27/08/2020 08:04

And that is why it is going to be a disruptive school term

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 27/08/2020 08:59

@ineedaholidaynow

And that is why it is going to be a disruptive school term
Indeed. So many threads recently re not bothering following the guidelines now schools are going back. Never mind the staff, vulnerable family members/children.

More and more selfish behaviour will take place I predict now going forward.

oopsiedaisy2 · 27/08/2020 09:09

My kids don't have to socially distance from 30 other kids in their class which are mixed through the day next week so yes they can have a sleepover with their friends in the same class one at a time.

DamitJanet · 27/08/2020 09:32

I wouldn’t. I know many are taking the stance that they’re mixing at school so why not, but to me the fact that they’re mixing with others at school (a positive thing IMO) means it’s important to be more cautious in other situations to decrease the over all risk.

Reallyworried69 · 27/08/2020 09:35

Mine are older teens and both will be in a bubble of 250 kids from next Tuesday. They've both been really good for the last 6 months, but I'm struggling to see how it's ok to not SD for 30 hrs a week during school, but I can't let DD have a dozen friends from the bubble over for an evening to celebrate her 18th. I think SD for teenagers certainly will end next week. And I don't see why not. There have been 8 new cases recorded in my medium sized town in August. Life has to resume. So obviously yes to the sleepover!

ineedaholidaynow · 27/08/2020 10:57

I hope those who are having sleepovers etc won’t be on here complaining when their schools close.

frustrationcentral · 27/08/2020 11:03

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss , there's also a lot of people on here who make up the guidelines to suit their opinion. Currently, unless in an area where it isn't allowed, two households are allowed to stay with each other over night, as long as they social distance and maintain a hygienic situation. No where in the OP's post did she say this wouldn't be her intention.