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Original poster

If you are remarried, how did you meet your current dh?

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BaskingMad · 26/08/2020 20:52

Another thread about how shit online dating is spurred this. Not aibu but this gets most traffic so...
If you divorced and happily remarried, how did you meet your current dh? Did you know each other beforehand? Through work? Online?
Please share your story, i’m divorcing and the future seems bleak, hope i can find there is hope in the end!

OP posts:
toucancancan · 26/08/2020 23:13

Great thread! Please avoid all 'online dating nightmare' threads on here. I'm single now but had a great few months with a guy I met online last year. You just need to apply the same instincts and standards you would have when dating someone you might have met in a bar or club when you were younger.

Tillygetsit · 26/08/2020 23:14

On a night out with work colleagues in a grotty club!

DeeDimer · 26/08/2020 23:16

Online dating 10 years ago. Been married 6 years now and I'm a very happy old girl!

ToeTouchingTitties · 26/08/2020 23:19

Divorced my not so DH after 3 years of marriage, then met my DW on a lesbian dating site. That was 17 years ago when internet dating was really starting to kick off. We have two fantastic DCs now.

MissFritton65 · 26/08/2020 23:19

My husband and I met in 2003 via a very old dating site .....Friends Reunited....very few people realised there was a dating section. We were both 38, I was a divorcee with 2 children and he'd never been married or had children. He proposed after 7 weeks, we married 18 months later and have just celebrated our 15 wedding anniversary and probably never been happier!

IToldYouIWasFreaky · 26/08/2020 23:22

I've never been married but I was with my ex partner for 12 years and we had one child together. He had an affair and left me. It was awful, my life literally fell apart. I spent 3 years rebuilding it, then started OLD and then nearly 4 years ago met my wonderful partner on Tinder. He also has one long-term relationship under his belt so it's second time round for us both. I was 39, he was 43 when we met.
We have a brilliant relationship, as I think we really appreciate what we have. We know what the pitfalls are in relationships and we work to avoid them.

Original poster
BaskingMad · 26/08/2020 23:26

These are great, thank you for positivity. I’m nearly 40 (25 at heart but aren’t we all?..) and hoping it’s not too late. There’s got to be more

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Terrace58 · 26/08/2020 23:32

I married my good, long-term friend, which is what I should have done in the first place, but I was young and stupid.

2toe · 26/08/2020 23:38

He walked in to the place I worked, as soon as we saw each other we knew how it would turn out.

99victoria · 26/08/2020 23:40

Met my husband online. I'd been divorced for 3 years, 48 years old. My husband was 50 and had never been married.

We've been together for over 10 years now - married for nearly 9 years

namechange123779 · 27/08/2020 00:10

Met my husband at work, I was 100% not interested in meeting anyone & to be fair I was a nightmare! He persevered , now we've done 15 years together 8 married, it's not perfect he's untidy 🙄 but it's a good marriage, wishing you lots of luck xx

PomBearWithoutHerOFRS · 27/08/2020 00:37

In a nightclub. I was heading to the toilet, desperate for a wee, and he was in the way. I looked deep into his eyes and uttered the immortal words "move or I will pee on your feet"
20 years and 3 children later, here we are!

NeverHadANickname · 27/08/2020 01:03

We met playing an online game. I had no intention of using it to find someone, was happy being single and turned other people down who were really very nice and I could imagine could have worked together if I had wanted to. Decided I wanted to chat to some people and play a game to relieve my boredom and we got chatting. 3 years later and I moved country to be with him and we have a baby together.

Vinosaurus · 27/08/2020 08:31

Was out with a girlfriend for dinner - mainly to cheer me up after some recent disastrous online dating and met now DH in a bar we popped in to on the way home. My friend saw him and his mate and decided he looked a good fit for me so engineered a meeting between us, and the rest, so they say, is history. Married for 5 years this Sunday.

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BaskingMad · 31/08/2020 19:44

I’d like to bump this for more happy ending stories.
Stbxh has completely withdrawn and immersed himself into work.
Some days feels like there’s no hope for me but surely there can be more to life than being in loveless soul destroyng marriage. I hope.

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minnieok · 31/08/2020 19:50

Old, not married because I need to get round to sorting out some rather essential paperwork first, getting divorced, just didn't bother as get on fire with exh, just not wanting to be married

JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 31/08/2020 19:55

Dh and I met at work after my first husband cheated whilst I was pregnant. I visited the office to show them the new baby and dh was working there as a temp. He thought baby ds was the cutest and 13 years on he's still taking care of ds

sparklefarts · 31/08/2020 19:56

1st husband met on holiday

2nd (still together) through work

SnowWhitesRestingBitchFace · 31/08/2020 19:57

Both married before (mine was an emotionally abusive, compulsive lying gambler and his cheated). We met through friends having crossed paths a few times over the years. We also worked for the same company but on different sites. I genuinely never thought I could have a love like this. I thought it was just something that happened in films. Both already had dc and now have 1 together.

DollyDan · 31/08/2020 20:05

Aged 45 after a 15 year marriage and then a relationship with a horrible narcissist who tried to destroy me, I met the love of my life at a party, he is the best friend of my friends husband, have known him over the years but never really spoken to him, he has totally rocked my world and makes me so very happySmile say yes to all invitations (I very nearly didn’t go!)

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 31/08/2020 20:36

I liked a facebook post in a music group! Thats all I did...we got chatting about how cool this band was and that was it ..he came to my hometown for the day for a coffee and a look round a new place 150 miles from him!!.Three weeks later he came for the weekend,never left.That was 10 years ago and he is still here! We also have an 8 yr old daughter! I was simply scrolling on face book like you do and ended up with a husband and a child.I was I can assure you looking for neither! I was single and had been for 3 years since my long term partner had died and I was doing ok on my own.You just never know where and when OP! It shocked the pants off me when I found a new friend who turned out to be so much more...

downwardspiral1 · 31/08/2020 20:39

Lovely thread. I am in the same boat - divorced with three dc and wondering if this is it for me relationship wise (51 so don’t know if that makes things harder). Hope not as I also really want a loving connection - my first marriage was very difficult and ended in an awful divorce.

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 31/08/2020 20:51

Forgot to add not that it makes any difference but I was 38 and he was 45 at the time back then..so we werent teenagers!!!!

KitchenRollHuggers · 31/08/2020 20:52

Divorced

Met new partner online, Plenty of fish.
His amazing

Florencex · 31/08/2020 20:55

I am only married once, so is DH.

I have a few friends that are on second marriages, they all met via OLD and typically were mid to late 40s or so when they remarried.

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