OH selling things I brought him

[quarantinekween]

When I met OH 3 years ago I didn't have much money I was a single mum at the time. And I saved money up to buy him some exspensive trainers I didn't need to but he brought but me lots of nice things so I wanted to return the favour.

We're moving house next week and he's selling a few things and he's just gone and sold the trainers and I feel really hurt by it. He's saying stop being silly but I feel gutted.

AIBU I feel really sad.

They're shoes....

Let it go...

This wouldn't bother me tbh, he's had them 3 years. Dh has sold on stuff and I have too. I've kept all jewellery he has bought me but I wouldn't think twice about selling a pair of 3 year old trainers

He’s selling three year old trainers? I’d be more worried about who tf is buying them
Well that was my first thought when I read the OP but then I got to the bit where she said he has 50 pairs and I am sill reeling a bit from that. Potentially these have hardly ever been worn. I assume he is some sort of collector?

I think he was being unreasonable to put expensive trainers on 'his Christmas list' when he knew you didnt any money

Well the OP did say she didn't have to get him those but she wanted to because he had got her lots of nice things. We don't know what else was on the list. Maybe he had already included some nice affordable items on the list expecting her to go for something like that and then she decided to go for the trainers anyway.

You made a lot of effort to get him what he wanted and then he binned them off without a seconds thought.
Well he has kept them 3 years it's not like he had them on eBay by Boxing Day.

I do think YAB a bit U OP. Lesson learned don't go buying gifts you can't really afford.

50 pairs of trainers? Fifty!

@Timekeeper2 thank you for understanding me

He keeps all his training in amazing condition as he wears a different pair everyday so they still look brand new he's probably wore them three times..

How can they be sentimental if you didn't even pick them yourself? He wrote a list, you got what was on the list, he doesn't wear them anymore? He's also selling other trainers. Honestly I think it is childish! No red flags for me here.

Lol no. You're overreacting big time.
First off you should have never bought the trainers if you couldn't afford them wether they were on a list or not. Say no.
Secondly, they're trainers. He's had them 3 years, that's enough time to appreciate them and now get rid.

@notheragain4

How can they be sentimental if you didn't even pick them yourself? He wrote a list, you got what was on the list, he doesn't wear them anymore? He's also selling other trainers. Honestly I think it is childish! No red flags for me here.

Completely agree

Clothing and trainers are fair to sell on. Not sentimental or 'forever' things. It was his Christmas list, a consumer item, not a carefully thought out purchase with a big emotional element. And it's three years on.

I understand OP. I think you're getting an overly harsh reaction on here. Something similar happened between my DP and I recently and I was really hurt, too. I get it completely, when you scrimp and save and put a lot of hope and effort into something being loved and valued, and I'm sure you're feeling a bit like it's been thrown back in your face. I have shoes and other "non sentimental" items that people have bought for me that are far older than 3 years, and wouldn't think to sell them because 1) I asked for them and still like them and 2) I wouldn't want to offend even if I didn't like the gifts anymore. Since it was your first big gift to him I think it is a matter of sentimentality, or at least it is for you, and those feelings are perfectly valid! It's especially infuriating as he asked for this item so you'll probably be doubting yourself when you next buy him presents because you feel a bit like you've got it wrong despite him explicitly asking for these shoes, right? I get it completely. You sound a lovely person who was just trying to go above and beyond for someone you love, I don't think that warrants such harsh criticism. Next time don't stretch yourself financially, and pick presents from the lower end of his list. He can obviously afford expensive items himself since he has such a large collection, so leave that to him and get him boring socks and slippers instead

@BadTattoosAndSmellLikeBooze they were fair comments - the two words have completely different meanings.