Asking for petrol

[BabyfaceHen]

I am driving a 'friend' (although not a proper friend, more someone I am in the same career with and we know of each other), but we message regularly,
We have a course on the same day next month and it's a 2 hour drive away. Around 105 miles.

I am driving as she feels too nervous to drive and i've said that's fine because it'll be cheaper for us both anyway as we can just half petrol.

However, how do people actually ask for petrol on the day? As many of my actual friends "forget" to give me petrol and I don't have the balls to ask.
Whereas this is quite a bit of a journey so I dont fancy paying all the petrol and money is tight atm.

Also, how much petrol would you ask for for a journey that is 2 hours and around 105 miles away? I dont want to ask for too much or too little

Also, I regularly drive 100 miles each way to my hometown. If you have an economical car is £20 round trip. If not £30. That's all motorway.

Costs me approx 13p per mile in fuel.
A 210 round trip would cost approx £27 in fuel, plus wear and tear and you are doing the driving.
I'd text in advance and tell her it will be £15 for fuel.

so i'm guessing it's going to cost me about £20 considering when I used to drive 50ish miles last year to work it was costing me almost £10 a day,

Christ, 20 quid for 200 miles?That's good!

Honestly I am rubbish at guessing petrol costs, I don't really make long journeys often

It wouldn't even cross my mind to ask for petrol money for a journey I was doing anyway. If I was offered it I would say no.

See I would happily pay for the luxury of not having to drive especially if getting picked up and dropped off!

@premiumshoes but she would have to pay full price to drive her own car?
If I knew I could have a free ride by her driving me then maybe I should have just asked her. I'm tight with money atm so no I dont want to free nilly take people around so they can get somewhere for free whilst I pay

Is work paying for the course or are you paying it yourselves?

If work paying then they should pay petrol. If you both paying individually the course fees then split the petrol costs

Myself I don’t mind paying for petrol if the other person pays for parking. If stupid parking costs then 50/50 for petrol and parking

@RandomMess me too! I always give petrol as I know cars can be expensive to run and, even though people can be driving that way, theyve made an effort to drive me

It wouldn't even cross my mind to ask for petrol money for a journey I was doing anyway. If I was offered it I would say no.

This. It would be nice if the passenger bought a coffee, but I would have no expectations.

@Ontheboardwalk it's nothing to do with work, i just mentioned work as that's how we know each other

If your car is fairly new, it’s costing you both fuel and depreciation while she is saving fuel and depreciation.

If someone was driving me 200 miles I would expect to give them £20 toward fuel plus I would insist on buying coffees if we stopped at service stations. Am guessing the course will supply lunch but if not I would also buy lunch (sandwich and a packet of crisps level not Michelin star level!).

I often share petrol costs with friends. Start journey with full tank, do journey and fill up again at the nearest garage to the end of the trip. Other person pays half that amount.
Job done.

[quote BabyfaceHen]@premiumshoes but she would have to pay full price to drive her own car?
If I knew I could have a free ride by her driving me then maybe I should have just asked her. I'm tight with money atm so no I dont want to free nilly take people around so they can get somewhere for free whilst I pay[/quote]

Yes I know that. But she is going with you. So how much it would cost in her own car isn't relevant.

I am not saying your shouldn't ask her, just that it ain't something I would consider.

Isn't not ain't

@Al1Langdownthecleghole i suppose that's shows were all different,
This thread isnt a debate about whether people should give petrol or not.

We have discussed that i'll drive as it'll make it cheaper for us both so I wanted advice on asking for petrol not people announcing they wouldnt ask for petrol as I havent asked "should I or should I not as for petrol"

@premiumshoes yes but the thread is about getting petrol,
I am asking for petrol as I am driving a 200 mile round trip, so yes I expect petrol even though we're both going that way, we're all different and just because you wouldnt ask for petrol doesnt mean I have to not ask

You're going anyway. I would be embarrassed asking anyone for petrol money if I was going that way anyway.
Either tell her you cant take her or do a kind deed. Simple.

To be fair you asked if people actually asked for petrol money on the day and I response for wouldn't cross my mind. You have discussed it with her so I don't see why it's a problem to ask on the day.

@Howcanwedoitall i would be embarrassed not to give petrol money,
She can drive herself if she wants to, she said she'd rather not drive so I said I would drive,
There's nothing embarrassing about asking for petrol money on a long journey.

@premiumshoes

I didnt ask if people ask, I ask "how do people ask on the day"

There's nothing embarrassing about asking for petrol money on a long journey.

This rather answers your OP, doesn't it. Just ask her.

[quote BabyfaceHen]@premiumshoes

I didnt ask if people ask, I ask "how do people ask on the day"[/quote]

I misread that.

However I don't think there sis anything wrong with people, and it's not just me, saying they wouldn't ask. It's a talk forum.

I fill it at the start of the journey and refill as we near home and each pay half.

@premiumshoes yes and there are other people saying they would ask,
So i'm just interested in how they ask to save awkwardness,
Good for you that you wouldn't ask but I would ask so I just wanted some advice on how much and how they would bring it up