Me or my friend?

[Chairlove]

Off for Sunday lunch. She wants to walk there, no issue with walking. But she wants to drive there first, leave one car, drive back and then walk the 1 hour to get there. Once we eat, I am to take the kids back in my car while she walks back.

It’s a nice place, where you dress nice. It’s drizzly, it’s a 15 min drive there and back. I don’t want to be sweaty, frizzy haired eating my lunch whilst wearing trainers.

I suggested we eat lunch then go for a hours walk or meeting her there. Nope she wants the walk both ways and help with the kids on they way there.

So who is being unreasonable?

Your friend is being unreasonable that sounds like a very strange request

She can’t force you to walk there if you don’t want to.

She is, I think. Either walk there and back or drive there and back. She can’t have it all tailored for just herself. The to-ing and fro-ing with the cars is an ask too much. Imo.

You drive, she can walk!!
Wave as you pass!

I’d just say to her that you’re making your own way there and back and you’ll see her there at the time the tables booked for.

I’d genuinely reply, “Too much faff. Happy to walk both ways, drive both ways or walk after lunch. Not fussed for the business with the cars though.”

Soi why doesn't she walk there, you met her there, then she walk back and you go home??

That’s so fucking weird! Why does she want to do that?!

I think she wants her kids to walk there but not back. She wants to walk back and wants OP to take the kids back, using the car faff method, so she can walk back without having to worry about the kids.
Nice idea but like I say, puts a extra level of fuckaboutery on a nice lunch out. I wouldn’t be keen to agree.

So she essentially wants a nice leisurely post-lunch walk while you take care of her kids for an hour?

I still think that’s utterly batshit!

What a completely strange idea!

Go for meal, have a walk round after, get in car, go home.

Is she paying for your lunch to compensate you for the babysitting you'll be doing?

She's taking the piss...

Does she want to announce on SM that she is super fit /ditching the car for environmental reasoning? In other words a faker???

I think she wants the exercise and this is they way she is doing it. It’s faffy. I suggested lunch and it was a catch up that’s turned into a marathon walk there

She might want the exercise and I guess she can ask...but you’re totally okay to say no. I would. She can take a walk anywhere anytime, no need to have you scuttling around with surplus faff to arrange one. No. It’s a no.

are they her kids or yours? Just say you'll meet her there, if she wants to walk you're not stopping her.

Ridiculous. It would be a no from me.

She wants you to take her kids home with you?

Sounds like a lot of messing around. It’s not up to you to ferry her kids around surely. I would just tell her you’ll meet here there. You can drive yourself and turn up looking dry and unfrizzy. Let her sort herself and her kids out.

Just tell her that you are not walking, and will meet her for lunch.

I agree. Just say you’ll meet her there. Job done.

Way too much faff. Just tell her you’re driving there and back. She’s welcome to walk if she wants to but she can’t expect you do the same.

Is is her kids she wants you to drive back or your own?

If your driving her kids back who is looking after them for the 45mins it'll take her to walk it

Jeez almighty, who puts this much thought into burning the calories off the lunch they haven’t even eaten yet? Tell her to have salad for her lunch so you can both drive there.

You drive yourself there, and meet up with her after her walk.