Summer born Reception starter collywobbles. Anyone else or AIBU?

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DD turned 4 in June and is starting Reception soon. I’ve been very up for it till now but now I’m having wobbles. She’s so young! And we’ve spent the past six months in a country where everyone starts at 5, so they think we’re mad.

She’s very sociable, curious, loves playing, learning etc, so on paper she’s really ready for it.

At the same time, she just still seems so little and with all the Covid restrictions we won’t even be able to take her into the classroom. And she has a medical condition which affects her toileting (sometimes small leaks of wee and poo) which just makes it a bit more complicated.

Anyone else feeling the same or do I just need to woman up?

I have an August baby and he was fine. They play a lot in reception. He really enjoys school and has excelled in reading and maths. A lot of his friends are also August born which is nice.

This is why many countries, including the ones with the best outcomes, don't start kids in school until 6 or even 7.

This is not really true in a lot of cases though. My family live in one of the European countries often cited, and although my nieces and nephews started at school nearer 7, they could already read and write, spoke 2 languages, were learning musical instruments etc.

It was not all nursery and forest play like some seem to think on here.

My August born started school before she turned 4 as we are a late August term start area. We didn't have the option of deferring and still starting in reception as this was brought in a couple of years later.
She started well, though her confidence is low and I think this has an impact- she was full of confidence when she started. She has issues with maturity levels even now and I often wonder whether she'd have better if we had been able to defer her.
Its difficult op. But your daughter will be fine. And cold feet at this point is normal even in a normal world...

I feel the same OP, my DD turns 4 at the end of August and when applying in January I considered deferring her for a year but her nursery keyworkers felt she was ready for school so they talked me out of it. Then Covid happened so she’s missed out on almost 2 terms of nursery and I’m now quite worried. She is very excited to start school though. I’m not too worried about her being behind as I think most children catch up in the end anyway. I’m an August baby and left school with all As and have a good degree whereas my best friend's birthday is October and she really struggled at school. I’m more worried about the social side of things.

The UK start school at 4? Where I live we don't start "big" school until age 7.
DD is 6 and is still in kindergarten.

Mine is also a June baby. She starts mid-September for one hour a day for three days and parents stay with them. They start half days the following week and don’t go full time until at least mid-October IF we want them to. We can go part time for as long we feel they need to.

So personally I have no concerns for mine, but we’ll see how she settles. Hoping to possibly keep her part time until Christmas.

@unicornsarethebest will your daughter be able to read/write/count/do basic maths by the time she leaves kindergarten? I don’t really understand kindergarten, I always assumed it was the American equivalent of reception (the first year of schooling in the U.K., where children are 4-5) but obviously not if it goes up to 7!

[quote MsQueenInTheNorth]@unicornsarethebest will your daughter be able to read/write/count/do basic maths by the time she leaves kindergarten? I don’t really understand kindergarten, I always assumed it was the American equivalent of reception (the first year of schooling in the U.K., where children are 4-5) but obviously not if it goes up to 7![/quote]
Yes she can do all of that. In Korea up until age 7 learning is more playing and singing based. Once they get to elementary school that is when they start the formal lessons.
However our school system is much more strict than the UK though especially once they get into middle school.

I’d feel the same. It’s one of the reasons I’m so happy I live in Scotland now were kids don’t start school until they’re 5 or older. When my dd turned 5 she could have started school the following August, but as she was a February birthday we were able to defer her until the following August. It was strange for my partner and I (English and N. Irish) to get our heads around at first but she’s 8 now and it was the best decision ever.