AIBU to be pissed off at husband sending DMs to random girls on IG?

[alesscolleen]

AIBU to be pissed off at husband sending DMs to random girls on IG?
It's really annoyed me 🙄 moreso coz his profile photo includes me and our son. It feels petty but I am still irritated thinking about it.

YaNBU

I havr recieved many a DM from random men on insta. My pictures are boring and include my kids so god knows how many DMs young gorgeous women are recieving from sleazy- sorry- men

Tell your "d"h this is coming from someone who recieves random messages from men on insta- its weird creepy and just uncalled for.

What has he been saying?

@alesscolleen

AIBU to be pissed off at husband sending DMs to random girls on IG? It's really annoyed me 🙄 moreso coz his profile photo includes me and our son. It feels petty but I am still irritated thinking about it.

Of course you're not unreasonable.

What is the content of the DMs? I presume it's not inquiring about business opportunities and potential synergies.

I’d be pissed off ... just curious though ... what do the DMs say?

This would 100% would bother me. I don't understand why men feel the need to message other women. What explanation was offered?

Urgh, what the fuck is wrong with men? Why do so many of them thing women are on social media because they want to be hit on by random middle aged nobodies?

I'd consider it as a precursor to cheating; it's no different to him trying to hit on a woman in a pub.

When will men like your husband realise that it’s creepy and unwelcome?

YANBU

Yanbu, I'd lose my shit. What a creep! I hate it when men randomly dm me, my first thought is always what a creepy dickhead then I block

What on earth do you mean, it feels petty and you're annoyed? Why are you putting up with that shit? Life's too short to constantly look over your shoulder wondering whether he's cheating on you.

He's doing it because he wants to and either doesn't care that you know or thinks it's worth the risk because he either doesn't care if you dump him or he knows you won't and the risk is worth putting up with you being a bit mardy for a bit.

Hinestly, you can do better. Not all men are like it. It's not something were all secretly putting up with behind closed doors.

You do know that's a fishing expedition don't you op? He's seeing which of the girls will bite. It's the prelude to cheating. He's actively looking for someone to cheat with

Divorce him or do the same

The men who do this are sleazy and embarrassing. If the women don't reply, it's cos they think he's a creep. If they do, well not difficult to imagine it starting to stray into affair territory.

So you're either married to a creep, or a cheat. Or both. You're not being unreasonable at all.

My exh did this a lot on Twitter. Always messaging some girl or other that he'd just followed. I wasn't allowed to be pissed off because 'it's normal and you're being controlling..' same with fb and then ig. Fwiw it's not normal to be constantly messaging random girls on social media. Not only is it often unwelcome, it's also creepy and if it's pudding you off he needs to have a word with himself.

*pissing you off, not pudding!! Damn phone outing me on how often I write about dessert 😂

Why on earth would you even have to ask? Your husband is being a total sleaze.

What’s happened to your self esteem that you think this could be ok?

Divorce him.
The kind of man that does that does not deserve a wife.

He would very quickly be an “ex” husband if was mine. Don’t tolerate this kind of shit, you are better than this.

Oh OP do you really need to ask? It's gross when single men do it, but a lot worse that he is your husband. Sorry, he doesn't deserve you.

Eh? What's he doing that for? That's not okay.

I hate men* who do this! I used to get so fucking many and I'm honestly nothing special in the looks department. It was always "hi beautiful" or "your smile lights up your whole face and enhances your beauty" . I am not kidding; I am not and never have been a beauty! Seriously, quite the bogtrotter on a bad day. What the hell do they expect to get out of this? "Oh look, a stranger contacted me on my non sexy or flirty page. I shall forward him pictures of my boobs and vulva forthwith"!

I'm not on SM any more. This is one of the many reasons why!

YANBU.

*And it is almost all men IME. I can count on one hand the messages I got from women and not one of them was creepy or flirtatious.

My DD used to get a lot and was friendly back. It quickly went to offers of sex, nearly all the men were in relationships.

He's looking to cheat, either in person or via a bit of sex chat.

Is this for real?

Who in their right mind would put up with that utter sleazebag behaviour then question if they're being petty or not.

He's fishing to see which women take the bait... next move flirty and eventually onto more..

Ask him how he would feel if you messaged random men - or perhaps he doesn't care anymore

It feels petty to be annoyed that your husband is messaging other women?

Irritated?

I'd be incandescent!

WTAF is he playing at?

Of course, you aren't being petty - he's being disrespectful to you. That is very sleazy.