MiL a-salted a birthday cake

[CurtainWitcher]

DD's birthday get-together for a few family members in the garden.

I made a lovely (if I do say so myself) big, decorated Victoria sponge, which is DD's favourite.

DH handed a slice to MiL, who immediately asked for salt. She then shook salt ALL over it, before eating it.

It's not the first time she's salted sweet food. She says it's the only way she can "bear it".

Aibu to suggest she doesn't ask for cake, if she's going to cover it in salt?

Her blood pressure will go through the roof. She should stop doing this.

This is what I don’t get. Why does no one in MIL’s family give a shit about her health?! Her son should be so worried. My mum has had a bad tummy for 4 days and we’re all concerned and running around to the pharmacy and calling NHS111 for her.

YANBU That is definitely weird behaviour!

I dont think you are bothered by her putting salt on it. I think you are bothered /in-salt-ed that she doesnt like your cooking and can only eat it with salt...

Maybe she should see a doctor if she does it with everything but if she doesn't. .. well.. she is allowed to put salt on sweet food id say

My DH used to put salt on doughnuts. A bit odd to me, but entirely acceptable.

Sometimes I put cheese on cake ducks.

I like the salt better than the sweet. Too sweet makes me feel sick.

I really want some salted caramel now....

Ooo or sea salt dark chocolate on top of salted caramel

Is she on glue?!

It's a bit odd but it's not going in your mouth is it?

YABU. Another one trying to control what people eat.

Done this myself - and describing it as a lot of salt is subjective. Leave her alone-that would be sl incredibly rude of you

Putting salt on cake sounds absolute vile, imo.
However, in Pakistan...they put salt on fresh fruit like guava, watermelons, oranges etc.
A fruit salad consists of cream, fruit, orange juice and a spicy masala to all mix in. It's not unheard of adding salt to things others might balk at.
Personally, I am not a fan of it....but something I did like when I went there is the fermented yogurt/milk drink, that's eaten with an afternoon meal in the hot summers and has salt added to it. It's lovely!!

Yep and then they complain about illnesses and being overweight! Resistant to change my MIL calls it 😄 i haven’t put Salt in Pasta or boiling potatos for years!! 😄😄

Adding salt to cake because she enjoys it that way - bit unusual, but each to their own, and there are lots of popular sweet/salty combinations.

Adding salt to cake and then making a point of forcing it down while saying it’s the only way she can bear it - rude and rather, I don’t know, attention-seeking? Either lacking social awareness or deliberately making the host feel uncomfortable.

I remember a friend once watching me drink a cup of mint tea - just hot water poured over fresh mint leaves - and commenting “ugh, that must be cloyingly sweet.” It was one of those moments that sticks in your mind because it was so odd - partly because she ate plenty of actual sweet stuff herself.

I think pineapple on pizza is vile and that people who like it are mad, but I cannot imagine getting into tizzy about it. The thought of eating animals and fish disgusts me- dead bodies, you want to eat dead bodies, ugh- but I manage not to have strops about other people doing it. As for being offended that people don't think the food I have presented them with is perfect and that adding anything to it would be a travesty- I cannot imagine being that arrogant.

@unmarkedbythat

I think pineapple on pizza is vile and that people who like it are mad, but I cannot imagine getting into tizzy about it. The thought of eating animals and fish disgusts me- dead bodies, you want to eat dead bodies, ugh- but I manage not to have strops about other people doing it. As for being offended that people don't think the food I have presented them with is perfect and that adding anything to it would be a travesty- I cannot imagine being that arrogant.

But if someone was at a family bbq with you and they didn't like dead flesh (aka meat), would you not be if they took a beef burger and then smothered it in maple syrup saying "it's the only way I can bear to eat meat"? Would you not say "why did you take it then? Here, have some halloumi or a vegetable skewer"?

Her taste buds, her choice. Incidentally why is putting salt on a cake bad for your health, but putting jam/cream/anything else sugar laden on an already sweet base ok?

Each to their own re salt on cake. 🤷‍♀️ weird yes, but up to her.

But you wonder why she has to take a piece if she can't "bear" it otherwise?

Maybe because it's birthday cake? But tbh then i'd only take a sliver anyway to show willing ( and need less salt )

She sounds a bit over dramatic and I think you need to ( with respect) step back a bit Op. It sounds like she's getting under your skin.

I think pineapple on pizza is vile and that people who like it are mad, but I cannot imagine getting into tizzy about it.

So if you cooked homemade pizza for guests at home and one cracked out a tin of pineapple from their bag and asked you to slip their slice in the oven for a few minutes with it, you wouldn’t be put out at all?

So if you cooked homemade pizza for guests at home and one cracked out a tin of pineapple from their bag and asked you to slip their slice in the oven for a few minutes with it, you wouldn’t be put out at all?

I genuinely wouldn't - why would I want my friend to go without something they enjoyed simply because I wouldn't enjoy it? It makes no sense to insist that someone pretends to prefer food the way you like it than letting them have it how they would like it.