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AIBU to ask if what YABU about today

34 replies

Hangingover · 18/08/2020 13:11

Do you ever get into thought patterns that you fully know are BU but you can't seem to shake it off??

For example, I'm currently looking for a job but as soon as I sit down to look I go into a "woe is me" thought spiral and stop looking after 20 minutes. I completely know IABU and stroppy and childish but my brain is like "screw you, imma keep feeling this way anyway".

What are YBU about today??

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Hangingover · 18/08/2020 13:12

There's a rouge "if" in the title Angry

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Finfintytint · 18/08/2020 13:17

I am being unreasonably angry today at the manufacturers of my new fluffy bath mat. I was advised by their label to “ wash separately” but I knew best and now the other items in the wash are covered in fluff. IABU.

OilBaron · 18/08/2020 13:19

I've got loads of work emails to deal with. I am really pissed off that people keep emailing me on my work account, during work time, asking me to do work-related stuff. I know I'm BU but Angry

HowFastIsTooFast · 18/08/2020 13:25

Same as @oilbaron!

Also I'm feeling unreasonably sorry for myself because I haven't had a full day off since the 2nd August and may not have another until beyond the end of the month. This is down to my own decision to take on a part-time job and accept every shift they offer me so I can build up my savings after a rough year, but still it seems very unreasonable Hmm Wink

OrigamiOwl · 18/08/2020 13:28

I am being unreasonable about a work social event.
Back story is I'm one of two supervisor on a team. The team organise social events and don't invite me and the other supervisor...okayish. But they socialise with our linked team who do invite their two supervisors. So it is literally me and the other supervisor who never get asked. But they will talk about social events in the office... Put stuff on Facebook about "great to spend time with the team" all that stuff. So basically we just get excluded.

This time we have been given an invitation to an event... But it feels so much like a pity invite that I've turned it down.

I probably an being unreasonable and should look at it as that is nice we've finally been invited (it is different event to the normal things they do)...but it just feels like I've been thrown some scraps.

JuniperFather · 18/08/2020 13:29

IABU, constantly, about people posting in AIBU asking for something which would perfectly serve the requirements of the Chat forum.

Or asking some query about property transactions when it should be in that forum. Etc etc..

I know it's unreasonable, but when the forum is named to guide you as to what to post...?!

curly100 · 18/08/2020 13:31

@OilBaron

I've got loads of work emails to deal with. I am really pissed off that people keep emailing me on my work account, during work time, asking me to do work-related stuff. I know I'm BU but Angry
I'm being unreasonably annoyed with people accepting the fee proposals I've sent them meaning that I'll have to do the work (which is well within my capabilities but I really can't get motivated at the moment).
notheragain4 · 18/08/2020 13:33

I am irrationally enraged that my coronavirus test has been lost and I have dinner plans tonight and tomorrow. I've been told they "might" arrive today. I am pms-ing and in the middle of moving house with a solicitor ignoring my emails so this test has been the straw that's broken the camel's back and I'm angry and upset and feeling totally overwhelmed. I just wanted a nice evening in this shitty stressful time and the shit testing system has fucked me over and might even make me self isolate for 10 days as it could be too late to retest.

I know I'm being unreasonable but I'm PISSED.

year5teacher · 18/08/2020 13:34

IABU about the fact that my flat feels SO CRAMPED AND UNTIDY AND UNCLEAN even though I cleaned it all two days ago. To be fair, the flat is small and I have loads of random classroom projects around so that’s not helping, but I just feel like I need to CLEAN EVERYTHING IMMEDIATELY.

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Hangingover · 18/08/2020 13:37

Aaaah I love this. Let it out ladies.

I am also BU because I accidentally washed my airpods on a 90 cycle today and DP insists they should be left to dry for 24 hours before even attempting to charge them. He IBU because he's failed to factor in how EXCEPTIONALLY impatient and irrational I am.

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ComplexPTSDmaybe · 18/08/2020 13:39

IAB repeatedly U about my DS1 and his dad and his girlfriend. In fact I was going to post a thread on AIBU but knew I would get flamed for it. But it is literally driving me nuts.

DS1 (17) has just released a single with his band that is very unexpectedly doing very well (national radio, talk about the band being signed etc). His dad and his gf are now splashing how 'proud' they are of DS on social media and are all over him. They have never taken him on holiday, never dropped off or collected him from school, never been to a parents evening, never lived with him (ex smashed up the room when I found out I was pg with DS so I ended the relationship immediately) , he doesn't have a bed at their house (he sees them every 2-3 months and sleeps on couch), he isn't included in their DC's lives or family at all and they didn't buy him so much as a birthday card for his birthday last month.

I have paid for every single guitar lesson. I have raised this child alone for 17 years and now they are 'proud' of him? DS doesn't give a shit and just rolls his eyes at his Dad and has the measure of him but it is grinding my gears. The only person with anyone with any right to be 'proud' is DS who has frankly worked his arse off musically. AIBU I know.

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Hangingover · 18/08/2020 13:47

Fuck that complex I'm on your side! Yes ok it's obviously better for them to be proud than indifferent/scathing but YANBU to feel annoyed, I would be!

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motivationalpigoftraal · 18/08/2020 13:49

I am annoyed that DS has left his school work to the end of the holidays again so we can't go camping this weekend. I want to go camping anyway but that's not possible, he has to do the work.

Happynow001 · 18/08/2020 13:51

@Hangingover

Aaaah I love this. Let it out ladies.

I am also BU because I accidentally washed my airpods on a 90 cycle today and DP insists they should be left to dry for 24 hours before even attempting to charge them. He IBU because he's failed to factor in how EXCEPTIONALLY impatient and irrational I am.

Actually it's unreasonable that he is not buying you a nice new, dry set immediately! 🌹

ComplexPTSDmaybe · 18/08/2020 13:52

Thanks Hanging I think it is because they have been indifferent to him for so long (and I have worked so hard to shield him from that) now they are suddenly interested in him? No way, he was amazing and worthy of their attention long before this stuff came up. I am worried that they will just drop him again when (most likely) not much comes of it.

FawnDrench · 18/08/2020 13:57

IABU to feel disproportionately enraged and frankly seething about the following:-

My dog persistently "exploring" next door's frontage area despite me repeatedly telling her not to do this.

DH coming home from work early when I want yet more "me time" even though I get loads already.

Feeling obliged to wish people "happy birthday" on Facebook because they wrote the exact same to me on my birthday the other day, which was pleasing to read at the time.

Sunbird24 · 18/08/2020 14:08

IA very unreasonably sitting on the sofa in my dressing gown when I know I should be tidying either the house or the garden (changeable weather!) because this is the first week I’ve had home from work since February. I could easily have sorted a whole room by now so I’m being cross with myself but unreasonably still not getting off my arse to start doing it!

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Hangingover · 18/08/2020 14:08

it's unreasonable that he is not buying you a nice new, dry set immediately

He said he would as a birthday present of they won't switch back on. Thoughtful bastard.

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Happynow001 · 18/08/2020 15:30

@Hangingover

it's unreasonable that he is not buying you a nice new, dry set immediately

He said he would as a birthday present of they won't switch back on. Thoughtful bastard.

🤣😂🤣

imissthesouth · 18/08/2020 15:51

IABU that i've got a training course with work i'd much rather not attend, busiest part of the city and an hours drive away🙃

Choppedupapple · 18/08/2020 15:53

I’m ill, genuinely have an infection and I’m on antibiotics but I’m sat here feeling guilty about not working. Like really guilty

Marshmallow91 · 18/08/2020 16:20

I smoke too much and eat too much shit, and I'm annoyed that I'm not young, fit and healthy today.

paap1975 · 18/08/2020 16:26

Hanginover, put them in some rice. It draws out the moisture

Whataroyalannoyance · 18/08/2020 16:30

I am rage refreshing my emails. Waiting on one from an employment solicitor that I've had to get involved after being make redundant. ( sham redundancy)
Just email me!!!!!!

Feellikedancingyeah · 18/08/2020 16:32

AIBU to be desperate for a haircut as it's not been done since February and to want an empty house for one day