What are you still salty about?

[AmberTurnerCo]

Years later

I would not getting a wagon wheel in year 5 over 18 years ago.

One time I was staying with my Great Aunt and a couple of my friends came over. They had moved to a new house and their mum had a new baby. My Aunt was going to drop them back home and I said that I would like to come along and see their house and new baby.

However they had other visitors coming over later and my aunt said that I needed to stay at home to see them.

I was a bit cross, but when I found out my mum was going along to see their house, but I wasn’t aloud it made me very cross and upset.

I felt like I missed out and it wasn’t fair that my mum got to go and I didn’t.

One Christmas when I was about six, DB and I got chocolate coins.

He ate all his, I saved some.

The next day he cried because I had chocolate coins and he didn't.

DM gave him half of my remaining chocolate coins.

@Frlrlrubert

One Christmas when I was about six, DB and I got chocolate coins.

He ate all his, I saved some.

The next day he cried because I had chocolate coins and he didn't.

DM gave him half of my remaining chocolate coins.

No! That is so off!

You know someone said up thread that they were going to bring this thread up as proof that teachers are evil, I think there are a good number of mothers being evil.

We used to live in a block of flats. When I was about 10 my neighbour 2 floors down stopped me and screamed in my face that she was sick of me making a noise on the stairs.I apologised and promised to go quietly.

The witch stopped my mother and accused me of calling her a slut. My mother came home and slapped me hard on the face. She wasn’t interested in my explanation.

I remember complaining to my mother’s friend, she told me to actually call her a slut seeing as I’ve already got walloped for it.

I never did.

The same neighbour claimed that me and my sibling would be either prostitutes or/and alcoholics.

Vile woman.

@recklessruby and @SharonasCorona - we should have a support group! I never found anything with my name on it either. My name can be spelled two different ways, and my parents chose the less popular way - and I don't think I have ever seen anything with my name, spelled right, on it - even as an adult. If I remember correctly, there were things with the shortened version of my name on them, but my mum was absolutely adamant that my name would NOT be shortened, because she hated the short version, that I would have been in huge trouble if I'd bought a pen with it on.

As an adult, I made the choice to use the shortened version, when I went to University as a mature student - new start, new me, new name - and now only a few people know me by my full name. My mum has once written to me using it, but cannot use it in conversation. You'd think that, at 55, I could choose what people call me, but no. I guess I am a bit salty about that too.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius I was going to ask if you learnt to love your less commonly spelled name when you grew older but given you now go by the shortened version, I’m guessing not!

I actually love my name and I’m kind of glad now that it’s only the top 90th name in the UK, even though it means cheap plastic goods don’t bear my name

That a horrible woman at work bullied me and made up lies about me that I had to leave.

I spent ages researching and writing an essay for my geography homework in Y9. I'm a good writer and didn't write like a 13 year old at all. I then let my friend, who hadn't done her homework, make bullet points based on my work.

She got a merit for hers. I got a nasty comment about stealing work from the internet. Still pisses me off to this day that I didn't say anything!

I was bullied about my weight for years during secondary school by a group of girls in the year above. It was relentless and vicious. It stopped for a year when they left year 11, however promptly started again (and with a vengeance) at college. It took me a year to pluck up the courage to ask for help from my form tutor who replied "well happy... you're not exactly slim" with a head tilt. The ground could have swallowed me up. No help was forthcoming and I put up with it until they left.

Another - not long after I married dh, perhaps a year or so, some of his family visited from America, there were lots of photos being taken when all of a sudden dfil pipes up - happy could you step out and we'll have one just of family" I was

Another - the day after I had ds1 by c-section and after 3 days being induced, in-laws pitched up on the maternity ward to meet the baby, again lots of photos taken. FIL pipes up "we won't share the ones with you in happy you're not looking your best". Still had my catheter in at that point I think. Hadn't yet slept all night with new born. Hair and make up was not the top of my list of priorities.

When I was 8, I was playing out with the girl who lived next door but one, anyway she stole my shiny jigglypuff pokemon card when I’d placed it on the pavement so I could put my roller blades on, and then denied it.

Still can’t stand the bitch lol

When I ran into my dd1s yr 5 primary teacher (dd1 was in high school by this time) at toddler gymnastics (we both had a young child) and she asked how dd1 was. Dd1 was struggling in her grammar school and I said so, her response was "oh well, some children just aren't cut out for it", No she was struggling because she was refused the help and accused of lying and so it took us longer to get her the help she needed.

This bitch had accused my child of making up her struggles (she was later diagnosed with autism and dyspraxia), still pissed off with it, also pissed off that I didn't say something more to her about her deplorable lack of understanding and empathy.

Sleeping in the car all cosy and Comfy after being at the Dundee Tel watching the show Queen.
Must've been about 7. My brother had been sleeping but woke up and puked all down his side of the car
We stopped at the side of the road and mum opened the door and took my jacket off me and put it on my brother.
I was freezing and so pissed off. I hate sick and I think I refused to wear the jacket after that because it had touched my brother and his sick

When I was a teenager my mom's MIL (that woman is not my grandmother) knitted and gifted me a pair of socks as a Christmas present. Then after a few days she called my mom asking give the socks back because her daughter wanted them. I was wearing those socks at the moment she called so my mom told that to her and offered to pay for them, but MIL said she didn’t care and she would come and take them off my feet!

What a nice lady!

An extra petty one:

When I told my teacher I had decided to become vegetarian aged 9 and she told me I was a "silly little girl" in front of the whole class. I'm in my thirties now and haven't eaten meat since.

My mum made my sister and I party dresses, she was good at sewing and creating clothes from patterns which was nice, but for the fact that she always made us wear them even by Year 5 and 6 when all the other kids were wearing fashionable stuff. So shaming... But the worst thing was going to a relative's house for our holidays and mum and relative asked us if we wanted to go to a party. Of course we said yes we would. Mum produces these home made party dresses, which she had obviously known she'd need as we wouldn't normally bring them on a holiday...

So we arrived at some stranger's house in these deeply unfashionable party dresses, mum just goes away leaving us there. The hostess was clearly miffed that we were there and made us sit on the sofa in one room for a couple of hours, listening to the other kids playing party games in another room. The proper party kids all went for party food and the hostess said to us angrily, "Don't think you're getting any party food!" We had to sit there in the hostile atmosphere for all that time, listening to others having fun.

For the life of me, I cannot think WHY we attended the party of people who were strangers to us - never even saw the birthday child, whoever they were - and why they were so angry with us, the two children that were utterly baffled at the way we were being treated. I still cannot fathom it to this day, it seems such a bizarre thing.

In a way I can forgive the hostess's annoyance, I would be too at having two strange children foisted on me (but I wouldn't show it to them), but she was really incredibly mean to us when we hadn't done anything wrong, it was all on the adults that had arranged this!

I applied to go on Blockbusters. I did not get selected.

@TheNoodlesIncident I wouldn’t forgive the bitch, how dare she take it out on two children! Have you asked your mum who they were?

Something similar happened to me, a distant relative invited me and sibling to a theme park (we were 8 and 10) and then the rest of the family treated us like inconveniences. We were very well behaved children, and knew we weren’t wanted. Couldn’t wait for the day to end.

It’s so unfair to to take frustration out on children. The others didn’t want us there but they should have been annoyed at the relative, not us kids.

In Junior school we had a teacher who would go up and shake your chair if you did something wrong. He would grab the back of it and keep shaking hard. Boys or girls.

I was engrossed in what I was copying once and didn't realise the lesson had ended and the next one begun (same teacher and classroom) and the first I knew was when he bellowed at me and started shaking my chair. I just sat there afterwards and looked down because everyone was staring.

He took medication (one of the girls was convinced it was to make him shout louder) and one day we were told he had died. Wondered why he was a teacher but things were a lot different in those days.

It took me a year to pluck up the courage to ask for help from my form tutor who replied "well happy... you're not exactly slim

I don't know why teachers used to condone bullying so much. I know they're not always that great dealing with it now but they used to be really awful. When I was 8 I did something to someone in my class. I genuinely have no idea what it was. Anyway, the girl's mother stood outside the school gates telling every child what I'd apparently done and telling them to be nasty to me. I wasn't very popular anyway so they were only too happy to oblige. At some point I got fed up with the nastiness and knocked on the staffroom door to be told "I hope that it isn't you Cologne". Well thanks for the support, teacher. I think teachers used to take the view that if you were bullied you'd done something to deserve it. I was crap at sport and good at schoolwork, which was never a good starting point for popularity.

I recently found out that the girl concerned had died suddenly (not covid related) - I had nothing against her and it was tragic she should die so young (48) but it did bring the memories of that day flooding back. Apparently the mother died about ten years ago.

A gorgeous stray collie dog followed me home from school one day (in the 70s, so well before chipping).
I fell in love with him and wanted to keep him. My parents wouldnt let me and after no one claimed him, he was given to a neighbour who kept him locked up outside on a chain for the next 11 years.
Every day I went to sit with that dog and took him treats and brushed him and cuddled him. On cold nights I would stay awake worrying about him. He was my soul mate.
My parents then went on to buy me a bloody useless chihuahua for Christmas one year. They couldn't understand why I wasnt grateful. "Well you wanted a dog".

@ThaGugaBlasta. I applied to go on countdown and wasn't selected. I'm still bitter especially when I watch it and do better than the contestants

My Brown Owl was also dinner lady at my primary school so when I saw her I gave her the brownie salute and she reported me for sticking my fingers up at her!! She was believed despite my being a shy and retiring child and I was banned from going to a Christmas party, I’d swear at her now if I could and why did my mum just believe her!!!

My dad was given 2 albums (CD) as a gift from a client of his one Christmas. One was S Club 7 (who I was obsessed with at the time) and the other was Westlife (I've always hated boy bands).
On Christmas morning, he gave me the Westlife album because it was 'for girls ' and my twin brother got the S Club 7 one. My brother didn't even like them but refused to swap. It was devastating and I still remember over 20 years on!

Remembered another one. I had been with my then boyfriend (now DH) for 4 years, we had got engaged and booked the wedding venue.
FIL and his girlfriend got married. It came time for the photos (not professional as no money for photographer, so just everyone taking photos of groups). FIL asked for a family photo of his side - FIL, new SMIL, DH, SIL, her husband and their children. I was asked to stay out of the photo as I wasn't family. Yet they were happy enough for me to help with all the wedding prep as SMIL's children refused to help and SIL lived away.
Still pisses me off to this day as we don't have a nice photo of us all with SMIL who has now passed away. I blame FIL as SMIL was lovely but always bowed down to FIL.