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What are you still salty about?

793 replies

AmberTurnerCo · 18/08/2020 01:23

Years later

I would not getting a wagon wheel in year 5 over 18 years ago.

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TheMarzipanDildo · 18/08/2020 13:50

I’ve realised I’m salty about so many things but most of them would be really outing because I’m such a moaner in real life Grin

WestendVBroadway · 18/08/2020 13:56

Oops , sorry posted too soon. @Beautyoftheirdreams, are you my older DSis? She also pestered our parents to let her have her ears pierced. When they eventually relented my DM said I could have mine done too before she changed her mind.Sis was sooooo bitter!

Ameanstreakamilewide · 18/08/2020 13:56

Children have a really keen sense of justice, don't they?

So many of the posts are genuinely heartbreaking to read.

Bad zest to all the parents and teachers who should have known better.

TheAdhesiveDuckDeficiency · 18/08/2020 14:00

When I was in year 7 I handed in a geography project early for extra credit. The teacher lost it and the projects of a couple other kids who’d handed it in early too.

When the due date came around she wouldn’t hear that we’d already done it. She phoned my parents to tell them I was lying about doing it and then made me bring money so she could photocopy a new one since I ‘lost mine and the school shouldn’t have to pay for a new copy’.

She eventually found the original ones but didn’t bother to really apologize.

It’s 23 years later and I’m still annoyed about the injustice of it.

Pinktornado · 18/08/2020 14:05

Ooh some of these are making me furious on your behalf!

Evening adult art class and I painted the best painting I’d ever done in my life - it was a still life and looked like a photograph. The art teacher came over and in front of the class scoffed and said, ‘We’re not trying for a photographic style in this class’ and before I could stop him swiped my brush and painted thick black lines all over it. I was in shock and didn’t speak. Other students came to ask me if I was ok at the end of class. I wasn’t and I never went back. I’m ashamed to say I haven’t painted anything since (10 years).

Also art themed a ‘friend’ at high school asked to read over my A level art essay. Then when I asked for it back she claimed she’d never seen it. We were taken to the Head of school and she still denied it. Because my art teacher was ‘arty’ she made us write our essays by hand so it was the only copy.

At Uni a tutor gave me feedback on my draft essay saying it was ‘excellent’ without many improvements to make. I took him at his word then he awarded me 54% for my final score! Not an excellent mark by any stretch of the imagination!

This is cathartic! I could go on and on!

CarolVordermansArse · 18/08/2020 14:05

We had a horrible deputy head who finally became head. For some reason she started picking on me for things I hadn't done, accused me of dying my hair in the sinks after school for one thing. I did colour my hair from a young age but at home and with the knowledge of my mother.

I got on well with all the other teachers, especially one, and one day she had asked me to collect a book and take it to the classroom for her. Lessons had started and corridors were empty as I made my way to the classroom, book in hand, until I saw the Evil One approaching. Immediately told me to get to the classroom, which I was doing, didn't allow me to explain why I was there, wouldn't let me speak. She just glared at me and shouted 'Go'.

So I did. I got my things and I walked out of the front door of the school and down the path. Just as my mother was arriving for work in the kitchen. She had an intense dislike of the woman anyway and the ensuing row was heard for quite a distance in the nice quiet school.

I wasn't picked on again by Mrs. Helen Price but I never forgot the nasty old bag and it still rankles that I never got a chance to say something.

iklboo · 18/08/2020 14:09

Children have a really keen sense of justice, don't they?

I did lead a small revolt against Brown Owl, likening her making us buy all the stuff for and make shell animals for the church fair to a sweat shop (I blame Blue Peter). I was asked to leave for 'not understanding the spirit of the Brownies'.

I didn't care - it had clashed with It's A Knockout on tv and I'd much rather have watched that.

SaltyAndFresh · 18/08/2020 14:12

Not a lot really, I've let that shit go. I've really got my fucking salt on with teacher-bashing on Mumsnet, but I vent with subversive needlework of all things. It doesn't affect me as personally as it used to (but I'd hate to be an NQT/RQT right now).

SaltyAndFresh · 18/08/2020 14:14

Oh I know, an NQT getting a job I desperately wanted, then leaving before Christmas. I ended up doing a bit of supply there and hated it so didn't take a permanent job, but that one still stings.

MrsToothyBitch · 18/08/2020 14:15

When I was a school chorister at the school I attended for sixth form, we got teased a lot for being geeky- none of the cool kids did choir in my year. Still, in Upper Sixth, the senior choristers got invited to black tie dinner for School Founders Day- it was a religious occasion. No one else did. There were 4 of us girls and we were so excited about the chance to dress up & be special for once with the few equally nerdy choir boys. It's not like we went to many parties. It was the one perk we'd looked forward to. Except our UVI year was some "anniversary year" and instead of an exclusive special dinner they did some mass attendee canape reception with the school patron the Duchess of Gloucester which the whole choir was required to attend. In cassocks. Still livid. Still hate the Duchess of Gloucester.

Also my year 1 teacher was a cow. We had to go up to her to get our activity book marked. She was taking reading groups and I was shooed away each time I went near her. I was incredibly shy AND a goodie goodie. I couldn't assert myself at 5 and I was too scared of her temper to go on ahead. Ages later she saw I'd only done one page and went bananas anyway. Same horrid bitch used to complain I read too much, too and got through the levels too fast. My mum, for all her faults was utterly horrified when I revealed some of the stuff that happened in that class years later and believed me. She'd have believed me at the time, too but I was too ashamed to tell her - and she is still very upset about it.That teacher did me so much damage, I am still affected. Fuck you, Mrs Parker. I'm not sorry your marriage broke down, your longed for adoption got called off last minute because of your divorce, you broke your back and spent time in a wheel chair and then had a nervous break down you miserable, unhinged bitch. The damage you did has lasted a life time and you deserve to know how it feels.

We also had a vile teacher in upper juniors who would take yr3-6 registration. We got registered all together before assembly with a teacher. Late comers came in during assembly and teachers kept an eye on it but didn't usually blame the kids. This teacher would get angry and lay into and interrogate 8/9 year olds about things beyond their control like traffic, family morning routines, complicated multi-school school runs etc. She'd never have dared do that to the parents. I remember even at 10 feeling disgusted. Same witch also played favourites. The mum of a non-favourite overheard the disparity in treatment once and managed to catch her out. It improved after that. Grin

The same child in my year won every "treat" going. School were perfectly aware of Josie* always winning prizes for fun things like easter bonnets her mum made (no attempt to look like a kid did it or pick a proper winner) etc and she always got picked to hand out bouquets, help visiting dignitaries cut ribbons etc. Looking back they clearly picked a chocolate box pretty winner/model for the school mag but there was no attempt made to vary it and it was obvious. Very dispiriting and unfair for small children. Her mum always went on school trips, too- other people's parents would offer and never get to go, she always ensured she went and never stood aside to let anyone else have a turn, even when kids cried about it. This stopped when my mum told our yr 4 teacher of "some ill-feeling on the playground amongst both the girls AND their mothers".

A lighter one: Dad was born in 1934, grew up in Wimbledon. Child of the blitz. Aged about 5/6 so early on in the war, his elementary school requested sweet coupons to get the whole school sweets to keep them happy in the shelter in case of a day time air raid. They never had to take shelter, never got their sweets and he NEVER got any recompense for his sweet coupons! He is still bitter!!

Squoon · 18/08/2020 14:21

A friend punched me in the stomach at primary school. I told the teacher, but friend said that i was chasing her so the teacher made me apologise.

We were playing Tag at the time. I was 'it' and about to catch her.

Porthcurnodreaming · 18/08/2020 14:24

In about year 1 I drew a Peacock for a drawing competition. I forgot to write my name on it and it won first prize, someone else claimed it as their own. Still pisses me off Grin

recklessruby · 18/08/2020 14:30
  1. Age 7 and at a new school due to father s work. This was in England. I had an aberdonian accent. Mrs cooke was horrible to me and told me to speak properly! She didnt pick me to be an angel either (the swan Christmas) as angels are pretty and blonde not girls with red hair. On the last day mum gave me a box of chocolates for this teacher (God knows why) and i ate the whole bottom layer before handing it to her and off to summer holidays Grin
JoJothesquirrel · 18/08/2020 14:31

I had zero talent as a kid but I made up for it in enthusiasm. In some play they brought in special drama/music people. They had chosen the leads but I was asked by this drama guy did I want to learn how to be a proper understudy because he knew I learned all the lines and stage directions and helped with sets and props (I was slightly unbearable) I was delighted and beaming until our choir teacher cry gently pointed out that I’d still need to be able to carry and tune and at least hit a few of the notes. All handled gently and with dignity in a couple of private conversations. I told my mum quite pleased with how close I had come to being an understudy. Next rehearsal she walked in and asked the assembled cast who were the understudies? And had I ever been asked? And did I have any lines? Then she pulled me out for lying! No idea why possessed her to do that.

Second one I feel out with a kid in school, nothing major, personality clash but they happened to be the head of languages kid. I got stuck in bottom set french and German for standard grades and highers despite getting A’s. Was the so weird that it was allowed to continue. There were kids in the class unable to name colours while I was writing essays.

But I got my great mothering achievement as ds’s vigilante justice. Age 6 supplies were kept in a pot in the middle of the tables in class to be shared. The girls at his table each kept hold of a rubber and the boys had to ask to use one. And they only got to use one, the manky uselsss one. Ds was refused a rubber all day, got in trouble for messy crossed out work and when he told the teacher, the girls said the table didn’t have any rubbers. At play time ds nipped back into the classroom and removed all the rubbers from the table. After playtime the girls complained they’d been stolen (not master criminals) by ds. Ds reminded the teacher there were no rubbers to have been stolen. Except with a lot more shouting and crying from everyone. Was very hard to sit in that meeting and not tell the teacher she had been out smarted by 6 year olds twice!

bendybarbarabee · 18/08/2020 14:32

Not getting into Cambridge. It’s been YEARS and I still cheer for Oxford in the boat race Envy

sherridan · 18/08/2020 14:51

I've got a couple of school related ones. I moved schools when my parents divorced and my mum asked me, aged 8, to pick up a free school dinner application from the office. I was a shy, quiet child and still very upset about the divorce, which was a rare thing then. The horrible secretary demanded I explain why I was entitled to free dinners before she would hand the form over. No idea why she had to embarrass me rather than just let mum submit the application.
I once stood for election as class rep against a much more popular girl and the result was a tie. The teacher announced that the other girl could have the role, no discussion was allowed.
My art teacher lost my GCSE coursework folder that I had handed in at the end of Yr 11, full of lots of A graded work that I was really proud of. She denied all knowledge (she didn't lose it, it 'went missing'). The coursework was worth a substantial part of the final grade and there was no time to do it again, so I ended up with a C instead of my predicted A. I was gutted about the grade and more gutted that an adult wasn't prepared to take responsibility for her mistake.

OhMsBeliever · 18/08/2020 14:51

I took a jar containing some leaves and a couple of snails into my class in reception year for whatever project we were working on. I never got them back. The teacher stole my snails. I bet she kept them for herself (or set them free in the great outside) I was very miffed and wondered where they'd gone for a long time!

My year 2 teacher. I've always struggled with maths and part of it has been because rather than see I was having difficulty with it I got told off for not doing enough work and sent to sit outside on my own to complete the work I didn't understand. I was too shy to say anything. And as a consequence I always felt stupid and like I couldn't ask for help as I'd be told off and told I was stupid for not knowing. I still feel the same now and find it incredibly hard to ask for help or even to answer questions unless I'm 100% sure of the answer, in case people think I'm thick.

When I was at junior school there was always a dance competition at the school disco. I was a crap dancer so never won, which never bothered me. But the same few people always did win.
I walked past the table where the judges sat at the beginning of the disco, well before the start of the competition, to see the prize labelled already with the name of one of the chosen golden children. Most unfair for all those other kids that put effort into their dancing!

Not me, but my best friend, this still angers her! Grin Let's call her Dora. She was always good at doing her homework. I was not. Blush One day I copied her science homework, obviously taking great care to make it slightly different. But 2 other friends, Jane and Michelle, also hadn't done their homework so also copied it. Me, Dora and Michelle sat together in science, Jane sat elsewhere.
I got my homework back when it was marked and it said "Well done Michelle, this is the third homework of yours I've marked" Oops! Except Dora was pissed off that the teacher thought she had copied the work, and that it was Michelle's. And that Jane had gotten away with it because she didn't sit with us.
This was in the early 90s and my friend still mentions it sometimes. Grin

Coriandersucks · 18/08/2020 14:52

Mrs quiggan - we were doing a fun run at school and you got a teacher to tick off when you had completed each lap.

Me and my best friend were going round together and Mrs quiggan loved my friend and hated me for some reason (she had hated my sister too). She ticked off my lap then ticked off 3 laps for my friend ‘because I like you’ she said. So my friend got out of doing a load more laps!

She was one of those teachers I was desperate to run into as an adult so I could pull her up on that but not done so yet.

Porthcurnodreaming · 18/08/2020 14:59

Oh and also, I had two hoody jumpers go missing from my house.

To this day I don't know where they went. I was dating my now dh and I thought he may have taken them in his bag by mistake.

I don't know whether they got stolen from the washing line.

Still bugs me now where they went.

MaskingForIt · 18/08/2020 15:02

This thread is brilliant. When Theresa May talked about “tackling the burning injustices in our society” this is the stuff that matters!

Derekhello · 18/08/2020 15:04

@52andblue

That’s so horrible what a nasty woman 😔 as a pp said I want to buy u you a whole pack to make up for it 🍩

Sarahlou63 · 18/08/2020 15:05

@Sarahlou63

That, aged about 6, I won tickets to go and see a pantomime on ice (can't remember which one) in a competition on the back of a cereal box and I couldn't go because I had a cold Sad
Just remembered. It was Jack and the Beanstalk. 53 years ago.
Carycy · 18/08/2020 15:05

I was told I would get the lead in my fair lady in a drama school show so turned down the chance to be in another show. Her director then decided he didn’t want me as I had a mild lisp and they gave it to someone who had nowhere near as good a singing voice as me. She gave me the part of mrs pierce as she felt guilty I think. But it made it worse for me I think as I had to perform with her in the main song. They also used to get me to sing the part in practice if she wasn’t there which was like twisting the knife. Had I been more assertive I would have told them to stuff it.

52andblue · 18/08/2020 15:06

@vampirethriller
Ah! - thanks!
(looks down at thighs, realises has been making up for lost doughnut ever since...) Funnily enough she only died recently (in her mid '90's). I saw it by complete chance (moved well away) and thought: 'no loss!'. She did two other things. Firstly when I failed my 11+ she told my Mother I would 'never amount to anything' (not wrong...but still mean)
Secondly, I started my periods aged 10. I'd had no sex ed (late 1970's) and had no idea. Was sitting on the library carpet, and stood up. to a stain on skirt / carpet. My Mum was called in. She told me there was a discussion about paying for the cleaning of the carpet (it was new). No idea if that bit is true and teacher was lovely about it but horrid Head was not. We had to do Yoga in leotards. If you had 'started' you had to wear shorts over them. Guess who was pointed out to the class (who'd noticed anyway!) by the Head for wearing shorts?
No idea why she picked on me, but, even 40 yrs later, I think she did?

@iklboo - your sandwich sounds even worse than my doughnut actually, as it was your MUM :0 Hope you get lots of nice sarnies now!

The stories about being 'not white enough to play Mary' (ignorant as well as racist!) and 'the little IRA girl' are just jaw droppingly horrible.

Derekhello · 18/08/2020 15:11

I would’ve been about 5/6 and when the teacher thought you were ready you used to go on to the next level of reading book. You had to read to her then she’d decide. Week after week I’d be so excited thinking I’d progress I can remember knowing I knew the book off by heart and was ready but she didn’t let me for ages...truly horrible woman and really nasty. Tiny village school with just her and one other teacher, the Head who was just as spiteful. I didn’t learn to read at school either my Gran taught me as she just didn’t bother with me. Would love to go back in time to tell both of them just how bloody cruel they were. Cows.

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