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Would this piss you off!?!?

58 replies

permgrrrrrrr · 17/08/2020 22:03

Backstory as follows......!

Been with DP 4 years. I have a 9 yo from another relationship. Last summer we moved in with him but things deteriorated due to his behaviour (sulking/abusive/ generally fun sponge) and 12 weeks later We moved out again and I finished it. I wavered and we got back together again and Since then DC and I have been back with my parents (over an hour away) and we started going back to weekend visits as we had done before. I am so uncertain I really want this relationship but I'm just not sure.

Then the virus and lockdown hit. We haven't seen each other since jan now. In the last month we've really disconnected to the point where it was virtually ended. Yesterday I had a nostalgic moment and we were talking etc as we used to and I said to him I was booking Harry Potter tour in October and did he want to join us. He made lots of correct noises, said he'd seen some events we should have gone to this weekend and it'd be good if we could see each other this week to which I agreed.

Today I messaged him to say I was booking and should I get him a ticket to which he say actually no, he didn't want to drive down (never been a problem before) and was worried about the crowds. Sorry but no.

Now, if everything was fine and dandy this wouldn't be an issue, but we are seriously on the crux of splitting and contrary to what he says, he doesn't seem that fussed!!

Oh I suspect IABU but needed to vent. Sorry everyone!!

OP posts:
BadTattoosAndSmellLikeBooze · 18/08/2020 01:54

He sulked and refused to speak to me if I did something wrong. He wouldn't let me put the heating on when it was cold as it cost money or spend 5p on carrier bags.

Sulking, silent treatment, controlling you... that’s abuse.

Just get rid. He’s a loser. You’ve escaped living with him, now just cut all ties. Some men are good at making you feel confused because they manipulate and play games. All of those men are bastards. Raise your expectations.

theBelgranoSisters · 18/08/2020 02:11

He's so not into it.Just get the message and move on instead of putting your Dc through moving in/moving out scenarios and the upheaval.

Gemma2019 · 18/08/2020 02:25

Let this die a death now and just block him on everything. You did a really great thing by moving straight back out again - a lot of people would have let it drag on. You can do better than this man.

gingerbiscuits · 18/08/2020 10:13

Ditch him & move on! You're clinging to a shitty relationship that doesn't really exist anyway. I'm sure you & your child are worth far more than this loser!

permgrrrrrrr · 18/08/2020 15:23

I've ended it. Thank you all for your support.

OP posts:
eatsleepread · 18/08/2020 15:29

You and your child come first. This all must be very confusing for him/her.

Sunrise234 · 18/08/2020 18:51

Well done OP!

You might be a bit upset right now but I promise you you’ll look back and wish you’d left him so much sooner!

It’s nice to see a happy ending and a poster with so much self respect!

LadyLairdArgyll · 19/08/2020 22:30

well done OP, I hope you're okay Flowers

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