We have a VERY nosey neighbour. Watches us in the garden, watches us coming and going, comments on EVERYTHING, if we’re out there she tells us how to BBQ, play with our pets, set up pool etc. How to jet wash patio, where we should put garden furniture and worst of all if we’re in the garden she skulks behind the fences/hedges etc and eavesdrops/stares (witnessed by us and guests and then she’s daft enough to bring it up in conversation what she’s overheard).
Occasionally she asks to come into our garden to trim plants a certain way, or on the guise of she needs to dig up a root or something -can she do it from our side and then invariably she interferes with our arrangements. We ALWAYS say no to the back garden but she has done it to the front twice.
We don’t let her onto our property anymore.
She has now taken to climbing up a ladder so she can look right over the fence, into our home and is pulling clumps of tree/hedge etc so that it’s back on her side And cutting it to appease herself. Which means rather than a natural order of growth we have straight lines on our side.
I’ve asked her to stop interfering with our side of the fence, but she says it’s her tree/hedges and so she has the right to do this. I can and DO trim it myself .
She is argumentative, and I do think there may be a mental health issue involved. None of the neighbours near her are exempt from this behaviour (interferes with workmen, visitors, deliveries, bin days etc.)
Was I wrong to tell her to leave our side alone though she was doing it from her side of garden.
She once told my husband that he shouldn’t play with our dog in the garden as he makes her bark and that’s abuse. When my husband told her not to be stupid she had to be physically restrained by her husband as she was trying to come over fence.
Part of me thinks leave it but she just finds more ways to interfere.
Was I wrong? WWYD?