Aibu to refuse this Covid test?

[Teacher12345]

Last weekend (not the one just gone) me and Dd woke feeling rough with sore throats. Felt like a cold but DH has been suffering from anxiety, (the worst of it, he only disclosed yesterday and has booked an appt with GP,) so the whole house got Covid tested for his peace of mind.
I'll point out that this is not a small thing as kids are 7 and 4 and it was not a pleasant experience for them.
Ds since then has caught this cold and has had a constant stream of snot running down his face since Tuesday.
DH has said today he wants us all to do the tests again and I have said no.
No one in the house has any symptoms at all so it would be purely for his piece of mind, but I don't think it is fair to keep asking them to do it, just to assure him. At this rate, we will be doing them weekly until Xmas and beyond!
Is it unreasonable of me to say no? I am not saying he cannot do it just that I won't, and I won't ask the kids to either. Our DS was really anxious whilst waiting for results and took a few days to be convinced he didn't have it, even when they came back negative.

@VivaMiltonKeynes

I don't understand the "putting them through it ? It's a swab of throat and nose . I had one last week. It really is no big deal.

It really is not big deal TO YOU. My 5 yo would find the throat one in partic traumatic and given his gag reflex I'd worry he'd puke on it, and given his propensity form owe bleeds I'd worry he'd bleed on that one Yeah, testing is gonna be a barrel of laughs I'm our house Not to mention pinning down 8 mo old babies

No I haven't but I have lived in other situations where I've had to explain to children from a young age where they cannot eg help a child when they fell over and were bleeding and have had to have them vaccinated and blood tested against diseases that are not necessary here ( living abroad) . I took that as my parental role explaining to them calmly why these things had to happen and reassured them that while unpleasant they were necessary .

@Teacher12345 yeah your issue is with your DH I can see that .

@VivaMiltonKeynes you can explain until you are blue in the face.
They understand why, didn't mean me sticking something to the back of their throat making them gag is going to be less uncomfortable just because they understand WHY they have to do it.

@Aridane

Calm down, *@InDeoEstMeaFiducia* - never mind covid, you’re going to stroke out.

Never get these threads where other posters are so much ,ore outraged / apoplectic than the OP

Never get someone who uses a condescending term like 'calm down' (David Cameron tried that, did he not?) to claim superiority of reason. , especially when they all too commonly presume a level of emotion that may or not be there in order to suit their agenda. You have no idea of the level of emotion of a random internet sprite sitting behind a screen.

@VivaMiltonKeynes

No I haven't but I have lived in other situations where I've had to explain to children from a young age where they cannot eg help a child when they fell over and were bleeding and have had to have them vaccinated and blood tested against diseases that are not necessary here ( living abroad) . I took that as my parental role explaining to them calmly why these things had to happen and reassured them that while unpleasant they were necessary .

And great for you if all those kids just say they're calmly and let you take their blood. Bit that doesn't mean that every other child will. DS used to get hysterical just being in the nurses room for blood because of how many times he'd had cannulas in, blood taken. No amount of explaining, cuddling, comforting etc makes that trauma just disappear. Not to mention the number of NPAs taken in hospital which he also found traumatic even with me and the nurses they're. Perhaps all those kids who struggle and get really upset having them just have shot parents who aren't as good as you eh

You need to ask for a different nurse

I'm afraid over here (Ireland) you dont get to choose who gives you your test. 6 of us have had the test twice, and I know 7 other people who have had it. Nobody can ever say what is or isn't traumatic for other people. I know someone who had a migraine after it, I know myself first time was fine, just uncomfortable, second time nose hurt the rest of the day. Ds (12) bawled crying afterwards, ds (5) said he was fine. My friend is panicking now that she'll ever have to have one done, I've a friend who works in a care home and has them weekly. OP is your ds in and around other people/kids at the mo? Why does your dh feel like another one is necessary? When he's talking with the gp you both need to figure out with the gp when you need tests or else this is going to go on all winter. And I agree, this winter is going to be a nightmare

@VivaMiltonKeynes

I don't understand the "putting them through it ? It's a swab of throat and nose . I had one last week. It really is no big deal.

My son has ASC, he won't have this type of test. It's a really big deal to him.

@JinglingHellsBells Mon 17-Aug-20 12:21:53
I despair.

So do I but for the opposite reason.

A quarter to a third of the 'Common Colds' that people get are also a Coronavirus. Quite probably also a dangerous disease when the first crossed over from animals, then the human immune system learns to recognise and deal with it. The likelihood is that this is what will happen with this one.

I will certainly not be testing my 1 and 4 year old every time they get a runny nose. It is well documented that the test is unpleasant for young children. I’ll have to do it enough times for fever/cough, I wouldn’t be doing it more than is necessary. I’ve done 3 tests and they weren’t pleasant for me. The 4yo will probably be bribed. To do the 1yo one of us will have to pin her down.

The test is not traumatic even for children and you could try to manage their anxiety over waiting for the results

Speak for yourself I frigging hate doing that damned test and there's no way I'd be doing it weekly just to appease someone else's anxiety.

Just keep the bairn at home OP. Let your bloke test as much as he wants.

If it's all too traumatic to do the test, then do what you should do if there is any chance at all that any of you have the virus- self isolate for 14 days.

That's your choice.

And the people who can 'diagnose' by the internet and dismiss a runny nose etc as a cold, need to think again; the more we learn about this virus, the clearer i t is that the initial list of symptoms was wrong, that other people have far less obvious symptoms.

So okay- don't test. Stay at home.

People are forgetting here that it's not just a snotty nose out of any context! The OP said she had her DD had a sore throat first. THAT is a symptom even if it's mild.

Or don't stay at home and don't test. It's a choice. Whatever you do, feeding this person's anxiety is a losing game.

Are you ordering these tests on the NHS? Under what criteria?

Viva ive had 3 different people do it and each is no different.

@JinglingHellsBells

Can you please post the guidance that shows the test is done at the entrance to the nostril only?

Dumpling i wish it was lol

@DumplingsAndStew I found it online either on the BBC or as an extract from a feature . Google and you may find it. It came with illustrations and said new evidence said there was no need to poke the swab right up the nose, that they found the virus was just as easily captured by using the swab just inside the nose, and that people were doing it wrongly and causing too much discomfort.

Jingle I might say that to the nurse who does mine this week. Still not had my results from last weeks, they didnt collect them till late Wednesday night.

@InDeoEstMeaFiducia If a mother and daughter had symptoms [sore throat and feeling rough/ unwell ] and then another child has some symptoms that could be the virus, you think it's fine to ignore that and risk passing it around?

Seriously?

They ought to stay at home as family OR be tested.

The father's anxiety is a red herring.

Even if he wasn't at home, or had no anxiety, they ought to follow the guidance.

@DumplingsAndStew and @vodkaredbullgirl Here you are - the link to taking swabs differently from the FDA. www.statnews.com/2020/04/16/fda-changes-coronavirus-testing-swabs/

[quote JinglingHellsBells]@DumplingsAndStew I found it online either on the BBC or as an extract from a feature . Google and you may find it. It came with illustrations and said new evidence said there was no need to poke the swab right up the nose, that they found the virus was just as easily captured by using the swab just inside the nose, and that people were doing it wrongly and causing too much discomfort.[/quote]
And what about the instructions that I was sent with the actual test, which I posted upthread?

But that is an American version, im in the UK