To be jealous of people posting their amazing holiday pictures on Facebook

[awaywiththecircus]

I’ve now snoozed all my friends who are posting pictures of their holidays this year. They all look so happy, weather is great, they’re in the sea, eating out. I should be happy for them but I’m just jealous☹️
We’ve tried to get away but everything in uk seems fully booked and we daren’t risk abroad. Every day now feels like Groundhog Day. I’m fed up but don’t want to use annual leave because it seems a waste. Final straw was just seeing hundreds of pictures on Facebook of a friend holidaying in Cornwall. Looks stunning and I should be pleased for her.

YABU but only because you are jealous of the edited "best bits" of their holiday the other 99% was probably spent arguing, stressing and moaning, getting lost and blaming each other, spending too much money to fill in time and wishing they had just stayed at home where they might have to spend the next 2 weeks quarantining anyway.
Or you too could be sat in a caravan in Wales with the rain pishing down and no let up in the forecast and a rave going on outside the caravan next door.
Home is not that bad. Your own comfy bed, your own bathroom and leave available for a couple of good long weekends later when things are quieter and cheaper.

YABU, if you felt that strongly about it then you would have found somewhere and gone away yourself.

My friend has just been to Cornwall for a week however it was booked pre-COVID so your friends might be the same.

Time off from work is not a waste if you're not on holiday.

I just got back from Italy it was fab, I would go there if I were you

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Come off FB and live your own life.

I don’t understand why people like @HaudMaDug insist on saying those you’re jealous of are probably having an awful time that isn’t being posted on social media. People can have holidays without drama you know

I feel like during this pandemic people are forgetting that there is a third choice between a full blown holiday and staying home. I just came back from a 3 day break in a European country. I picked one which was unlikely to be added to the quarantine list at the last minute. Booked literally 2 days before going when I knew we were definitely allowed in without quarantine. Unless you go somewhere high risk, the situation isn’t going to change in 3 days. Ok it isn’t a week or 2 weeks away but it was still a really lovely break. Better than being stuck at home all summer.

Book for a country not on the quarantine list. Go abroad, it's fabulous!

I do understand, we only had a little bit of choice left when we booked a few days after they announced hotels and self catering could reopen. Everything is very booked up.

All you need to do is make some plans for the future. Maybe this summer is out but making plans for some time ahead, even if you don't book yet will help you see there's always another chance for you.

Also plan an awesome day trip somewhere.

@Tabithha

I don’t understand why people like *@HaudMaDug* insist on saying those you’re jealous of are probably having an awful time that isn’t being posted on social media. People can have holidays without drama you know

Exactly! It's the same with marriages - "It's most likely shit but you don't see that", new house - "It's probably subsiding or smth", car - "It's probs on super high repayments and they are just about making it"... 🙄

You don't have to go away, OP. Take time off and have some day trips. Have some fun

@LEELULUMPKIN

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Come off FB and live your own life.

This.

Some friends of mine have posted some lovely pictures of their holiday in Sardinia. It looks beautiful and they seem very happy but I'm not jealous, I just think I'd like to go there in the future.

Jealousy is very destructive and that is down to you not anyone else.

Thanks for the perspective. I know I’m unreasonable and it’s definitely my problem. I dislike this version of myself. I think it’s time to take a few days off and and appreciate what I have.

@Meruem

I feel like during this pandemic people are forgetting that there is a third choice between a full blown holiday and staying home. I just came back from a 3 day break in a European country. I picked one which was unlikely to be added to the quarantine list at the last minute. Booked literally 2 days before going when I knew we were definitely allowed in without quarantine. Unless you go somewhere high risk, the situation isn’t going to change in 3 days. Ok it isn’t a week or 2 weeks away but it was still a really lovely break. Better than being stuck at home all summer.

How did you know which countries were unlikely to be added to quarantine list?

Of course you only get the best bits on social media, that’s what it’s for. Even if you’re not arguing with the other half, or the house isn’t subsiding, you’re not posting about the boring, mundane parts of your holiday / life.

As a PP said comparison is the thief of joy. If it wasn’t for the fact I need business social media I’d come off it, it’s bloody awful.

I am extremely cynical about the instagramification of people's lives- and their need to share their perfect situation with others.

Agree with coming off FB, but also you don’t need to go away to have a good time.

What do you have local to you - lots of attractions are open again now. Book a week off work, plan with your family lots of things you would like to do that week. Put them in a jar and pick out two each? Or just book whatever is available from the shortlist.
Eat out a couple of times, order takeaway too. Have a holiday from home - less expensive and as good as going away in this country.

Countries most likely to be added to the quarantine list are those nearing 20 infections out of 100,000 people on the last seven day rolling average. (based on what Grant Shapps said).

I'm not insisting the OP is jealous, she said it in her thread title.

I found myself feeling jealous of a friend having a lovely holiday and posting all over Fb... then I remembered she’s camping and I bloody hate camping! It’s very bizarre this year op. Our holiday has moved to next year and instead we’ve got lots of jobs done on the house but I’ve literally never had a year without a holiday, even as a dc. It’s weird. We’ve decided to use the time to get and train a puppy. Mnet will tell you we’ll be putting him in a rescue in a few months when we’re bored of him (we won’t, it’s been a long time coming but now is perfect timing).

@HaudMaDug that’s not what I meant. You were insisting the people on holiday are probably having a shit time that’s not being posted on social media. I just find it weird when people do that. Sure the best bits are shown online but that doesn’t mean the other bits are awful

Book for a country not on the quarantine list. Go abroad, it's fabulous!

I wouldn't be going anywhere abroad in the middle of a global pandemic!

@speakout

I am extremely cynical about the instagramification of people's lives- and their need to share their perfect situation with others.

Hasn't it always been this way though? Back when people stuck their photos in albums or had slideshows they showed the best bits. At least you aren't forced to be polite and look at them all now. You can scroll past or click Like without even looking at THEM rather than sit turning pages and trying to comment on each picture. An evening watching someone's holiday slides was the ultimate in tedium whereas I like looking at people's photos on Facebook or Instagram if I've got a few spare minutes.

Not sure why THEM came out in capitals.