To be jealous of people posting their amazing holiday pictures on Facebook

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I’ve now snoozed all my friends who are posting pictures of their holidays this year. They all look so happy, weather is great, they’re in the sea, eating out. I should be happy for them but I’m just jealous☹️
We’ve tried to get away but everything in uk seems fully booked and we daren’t risk abroad. Every day now feels like Groundhog Day. I’m fed up but don’t want to use annual leave because it seems a waste. Final straw was just seeing hundreds of pictures on Facebook of a friend holidaying in Cornwall. Looks stunning and I should be pleased for her.

You need to look at some other threads on here.

One is a family camping (in awful weather) and another is on a seaside break and shit weather is forecast the entire time... These are just the two I've seen.

@CaptainMyCaptain glad i refreshed the page as I was typing the same!
Passing 3cm thick envelope of photos around😂😂😂

And obviously it's the nice and interesting things. It's always been. I like seeing where my friends have been. They all work hard to afford it. Everyone has sometimes that "aw man! I wanna go😑" moment, but otherwise, I am just generally happy for them. That might be though that I have only actual friends and family on my SM...

@PamDemic
why don't you dare risk going abroad? If you really want a holiday abroad, there are plenty of places to go.
It’s the thought of spending loads of money going abroad and having to quarantine either while there if someone on the plane is found to have CV or having to come back early. Also that it won’t be the same with masks and SD and you’ve spent loads of £££.

We love our holidays and feel we desperately need one. Our holiday abroad was cancelled. Everything suitable in this country seemed to be full as presumably everyone is staying at home. I did look at other holidays abroad but realistically don't want to fly during a global pandemic. I'm trying to look on the positive and, once the kids are back at school, I'll get someone in to decorate the house from top to bottom with the money we've saved (I would still prefer to go on holiday though)!

YABU
Comparison is the thief of joy.
You could have a holiday if you wanted to, you have annual leave.
You have chosen not to, where others have chosen to.

[quote Tabithha]@HaudMaDug that’s not what I meant. You were insisting the people on holiday are probably having a shit time that’s not being posted on social media. I just find it weird when people do that. Sure the best bits are shown online but that doesn’t mean the other bits are awful[/quote]
I agree. Assuming that everyone is actually having a shit time and covering up their misery says more about the person making that assumption tbh. Imagine being someone who derives comfort by telling themselves that their friends are miserable (wishing them to be miserable even!). It's an incredibly negative way to view the world.

Personally, I enjoy my holidays and trips away, and I like seeing photos of other people's trips too. I understand why a lot of people are struggling right now though.... things can feel pretty bleak at times.

OP - It's ok that you're struggling with the covid situation right now and it's ok to snooze your friends while you deal with those emotions. I would recommend taking a break from work though, even if you just manage day trips.

I just can't get my head around going to another country during a pandemic.

I'm in Australia, our country and state borders are closed. It seems harsh but feels like it's the smart thing to do.

Dh wanted to book somewhere for our summer holidays in Aus but as we're in Melbourne I doubt we'll be allowed to travel into the other states in November. Maybe by January 🤷

When I read threads like these on MN I wonder if the pandemic will be declared over soon in Europe 🤐

That might be though that I have only actual friends and family on my SM...
I think this is the key to all social media.

Book a holiday down here in Cornwall in September, it's a beautiful time of year, it'll be quieter, the weather will probably be better, and you can make people jealous of your own good time when they are back at work.

the other 99% was probably spent arguing, stressing and moaning, getting lost and blaming each other, spending too much money to fill in time and wishing they had just stayed at home where they might have to spend the next 2 weeks quarantining anyway.

HaudMaDug I’ve never have a holiday like that Not even one that comes close and I’ve never thought I’d rather be at home while I’m holidaying.

I feel sorry for you if your holidays are regularly this bad.

@CaptainMyCaptain

That might be though that I have only actual friends and family on my SM... I think this is the key to all social media.

It makes it a really nice place. I am really strict with it. I am not afraid to ignore requests, mute, or even unfriend. So when someone goes on holidays, it's someone I lile so I like seeing what they are up to.

And Instagram is a great place! So many amazing profiles with cute animals, gardening etc. National trust has really great pics there. So nice. And museums! So many amazing things!

Which reminds me, OP if you don't know what to visit around yours, most visitxcity/visitxregion have profiles on insta (vith web links etc) with tips for day trips and attractions in the area.

Sorry for derail👀

UANBU OP, I felt the same a few weeks ago seeing pictures of friends out having picnics and going on various trips away. I know one person who would be "terrible on their phone" when it comes to keeping in touch, but would be posting self absorbed photos on Facebook on a daily basis of how amazing their life is . I muted/unfollowed the worst culprits for a bit, booked myself a trip for next year and feel miles better now

YANBU. I feel the same. DH and I were both unemployed at the start of the year, then lockdown happened, and until one or both of us finds work, holidays and other luxuries are a thing of the past, pandemic or no pandemic

Some people don't appreciate just how lucky they are to be able to take holidays.

I'm feeling the same as you OP - very very very envious of anyone who gets to go away or even have a few days at home as I have no opportunity to have any days off work for this year. It's a decision I've had to make in order to try and protect the jobs of everyone here but its going to be tough. I might get a day or two at home but will still have to answer the phone and process email enquiries and orders.

That's the way it is this year and its shit but hopefully I will still have a job by next year and be able to structure things so I can switch off for a few days.