To not go for Sunday dinner

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Well tea, given the time.

I'm due to go at 5pm which I was looking forward to initially but as the day has gone on and the kids have been consistently playing up my mild headache has got progressively worse and my TMD is flaring up.

I'm stressed, overwhelmed and really can't muster the motivation to mess around getting two busses there and back (OH takes the car to work)

Downside is they will be very disappointed.

YABU - suck it up and go
YANBU - stay home

Where are you (not) going?

Is it a bit late to cancel now given it’s already half 3? They would have spent time cooking

Could you get a taxi?

To my aunt's, to have dinner with her and my mum.

Taxi isn't possible as the children's carseats are in the car which is with DH.

I feel bad for even considering cancelling especially so late in the day I'm just really stressed and in pain.

4 busses just feels like too much effort with a headache and TMD flare up to be honest, yet I accepted the invitation so cancelling means I look terribly rude.

If your Aunt wouldn't be too disappointed I'd cancel. Can you phone a McDonalds via Uber for kids for their tea ?

OP never do anything you don't really want to.

Stay home and rest.

Or if they can come over with food ask them to do so.

2 buses is a lot of faff.

Call a TOA type taxi. No car seats needed and a safe seat for smaller children.

Kids don't need to be in car seats in a taxi by law, I took mine in the odd taxi from the age of about 8. Does depend on how little they are though.

It sounds like a massive faff and I can see why you wouldn't want to go but I wouldn't cancel at this stage. Your auntie will have got everything in and be getting it all ready.

Might it be worth it when you get there? Lovely food, no cleaning up and someone else to interact with the kids for a bit?

You'd basically give an hours notice then?

Yes I think it's a bit rude

If it's 2 buses Sunday service I'm guessing you'd be setting of right now.

Can they come and get you or the children?

If it was me, I'd end up being sick on one of the buses. Not good.

How old are the children

bless you op. i'd certainly understand if someone couldn't come because of the reasons you describe. it sounds like you're having a hard time today. yes, they will have already done most of the preparaiton, but leftovers will be fine tomorrow. it's notthing personal, and provided you dont have a track record of cancelling last minute, i would hope they'll understand.

Just take some painkillers and jump in a taxi. It will be fine. Or could they come to you?

You aunt has spend a good couple.of hours cooking a Sunday dinner for effectively two extra people which will go to waste.

Terribly rude. Take an aspirin. Call a cab.

You dont need carseats in a taxi.

I would be annoyed if guests cancelled that close to coming, after I’d been cooking.

I'm going to force myself to go now only because I don't want to upset them.

My MH is shit at the minute, I'm in pain, stressed and this is just adding to it.

I'm not going to enjoy myself at all but I'll suck it up for them.

Too late to cancel without seriously good reason. And transport being a faff isn't one. Take painkillers and get a taxi or ask your mum to pick you all up. You will feel rubbish and guilty all evening if you don't go. Bet you don't regret it if you do make the effort and go.

Don’t know what TMD is but would it not help to have some help with DC? Bit late to cancel. Painkillers?

Good decision. You can give yourself a big tick in the box right now for making it. Now try deciding to have a nice time - might just work. Sorry your MH isn't good and I really hope you do enjoy it, even if just for a bit.

Sorry OP, it does sound like a faff but I think going is the right thing. Hopefully you’ll enjoy it once you’re there!

Where do you live op? If it’s England and your mum and aunt don’t live together just tell your mum you can’t go because of guidelines.