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AIBU?

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Aibu?

37 replies

Pinkandblue20 · 15/08/2020 22:52

Would you be annoyed if someone came to your house and announced about an hour after being there that they'll have to go home soon as they have an upset stomach after they ate something they shouldn't ?

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SchrodingersImmigrant · 15/08/2020 22:53

No? They have upset stomach, they should go home to be comfortable

dwiz8 · 15/08/2020 22:54

No. Why would anyone be annoyed about that?

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Pinkandblue20 · 15/08/2020 22:55

I've got an upset stomach two days later and not sure if it's that or my period ( quite often get upset stomach but not like this ) this person has a tendency to lie and make out it's something Else

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Twigletfairy · 15/08/2020 22:56

Not at all. Better than them sitting there too scared too fart in case they shit themselves

Feelingconfused2020 · 15/08/2020 22:56

Do you mean they already knew they had an upset stomach before they came? If so then yes that's wrong if them and I would be annoyed.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 15/08/2020 22:57

@Pinkandblue20

I've got an upset stomach two days later and not sure if it's that or my period ( quite often get upset stomach but not like this ) this person has a tendency to lie and make out it's something Else
What? I am confused. Are you the annoyed or the sick one?
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Pinkandblue20 · 15/08/2020 23:00

Mil came over the other day and when she was here said she needs to go home soon as she needed The loo, she said she had something that didn't agree with her but now I've got an upset stomach so I'm wondering if it was the food or if she was feeling off anyway and still came, I'm not completely blaming her because I often get an upset stomach when i have a period but not usually as bad

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merryhouse · 15/08/2020 23:01

So, your mum turned up and was chatting away, then suddenly announced that she was ill; now you're also ill and suspect you've caught something off her?

Yes, that's annoying.

Of course, it might actually be something she ate and your period... It's also entirely possible that she assumed it was something she ate even if it really wasn't.

merryhouse · 15/08/2020 23:02

oops, cross-post. Mother in law.

BlueSlice · 15/08/2020 23:03

So you’re not annoyed that they left, you’re annoyed because you suspect she was ill and passed it on to you?

LittleHootie · 15/08/2020 23:06

If she thought it was food poisoning, its forgivable to visit as that isn't contagious.

Yabu to write such a vague thread title though!! Wink

SchrodingersImmigrant · 15/08/2020 23:08

Bloody hell. It could be a coincidence. I shall now too fake an upset stomach and leave this confusing conversation. Apologies. Toilet calls?

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Pinkandblue20 · 15/08/2020 23:15

I don't actually find it funny I suffer with panic attacks and emetophobia

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SquirtleSquad · 15/08/2020 23:20

Not as irrationally annoyed as I get when people use AIBU as a title.
If she was previously feeling unwell then it was a pretty shitty ( Wink ) thing to do.

BlueSlice · 15/08/2020 23:21

@Pinkandblue20 do you know that we don’t actually know you?

We don’t know that you actually suspected your MIL was ill unless you tell us. We don’t know that you are emetophobic unless you tell us. Don’t be vague and withhold details and then get upset at everyone for not knowing the details.

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Pinkandblue20 · 15/08/2020 23:27

I also should have added that mil knows how I feel

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MiddleClassProblem · 15/08/2020 23:35

I’m a bit confused what you are annoyed about. That she left so soon? That you think she got you sick? That you think she knew she was sick and risked coming despite knowing you have emetophobia?

It seems to change in each post.

Yester · 15/08/2020 23:37

Yabu. As soon as she felt ill she left.

Monsterjam · 15/08/2020 23:38

Why would you be annoyed? Are you suggesting you caught her sickness caused by food? Did you eat the same food? Or are you annoyed as you think she lied? Either way, you also think it could be something unrelated.... I think you need to try and distract yourself from giving this too much headspace

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Pinkandblue20 · 15/08/2020 23:38

I'm concerned that she knew, she didn't leave straight away she sat around for half an hour saying she'll be okay for a minute

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1Morewineplease · 15/08/2020 23:39

I’ve had to leave meet ups due to IBS.
I’d be mortified if someone thought that I had a hidden agenda.

Monsterjam · 15/08/2020 23:40

So you are concerned you have caught essentially food poisoning without eating the food?

SquirtleSquad · 15/08/2020 23:44

Maybe she initially thought she just needed a big shit and didn't want to stink your house out and it later transpired she actually had a dodgy tummy.

Cam2020 · 15/08/2020 23:47

OP, I think unless you have any real reason to think otherwise, you have to give your MIL the benefit of the doubt here and say she probably started feeling unwell at your house, gave it aiftle while and then went home. I think your phobia might be making you over-think things.

SquirtleSquad · 15/08/2020 23:48

Plus with social distancing between separate households..etc I'm sure you weren't close enough to catch any germs anyway Wink

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