Aibu?

[Pinkandblue20]

Would you be annoyed if someone came to your house and announced about an hour after being there that they'll have to go home soon as they have an upset stomach after they ate something they shouldn't ?

She's lies before, a few years ago we went to their house and fil was shoooed upstairs when I asked if he was okay she sort of quietly said he doesn't feel well but he is okay... turns out he had been sick a lot and she had me sat there 24 weeks pregnant because she wanted to do birthday cake even thou he was unwell so this is probably why I'm not trusting of her

She also refuses to come if any of us have a cold because she doesn't want to get a cold but seems my worries don't matter to her.

This appears to be a non event - move on.

OP it sounds like your MIL has done nothing to you, YABU and making a situation out of nothing. It seems she probably didn’t have anything infectious, you probably don’t either, and she probably only started to feel unwell when at your house. So there has been no bad impact and no bad intentions either. Move on.

She has food poisoning not a bug. You couldn't catch it. She also didn't use your loo so really nothing to be worried about or annoyed about. I get you have anxieties but you can't push that on other people.

But the first time, you could have left.

I think yabu. Upset tummies can come inn all shapes and forms and I doubt if she did get you sick, it was on purpose.

Some people have really big MIL issues but yours just seems to want to spend time with you.

She's lies before, a few years ago we went to their house and fil was shoooed upstairs when I asked if he was okay she sort of quietly said he doesn't feel well but he is okay... turns out he had been sick a lot and she had me sat there 24 weeks pregnant because she wanted to do birthday cake even thou he was unwell so this is probably why I'm not trusting of her

Only you know her, OP. Your gripe does sound a bit much on paper but if she's got form or is generally selfish, then thats, sonething only you know.

I'd be annoyed. Unless they have an intolerance and know for a fact they ate something they shouldn't thats given them symptoms. If she knew she was feeling dodgy and came anyway, she could have passed it to you.

If she knew she was unwell before coming to your house then she shouldn’t have come. But these things can strike quickly, so it’s possible she didn’t know she was ill until she was already at yours. And it’s still very possible that she had food poisoning rather than a bug.

I would try not to worry too much - hopefully yours is just related to your period and won’t make you sick.

Thanks for the replies
The first time she lied about fil being sick I got up and left straight away.
I've always respected her wishes when she has made it clear she doesn't want to come if we have colds and always been fair and told her, it seems different when it's the other way round

Be annoyed as you want. It doesn't change anything.

I know it doesn't change anything but I'd like a bit of respect from her

it seems different when it's the other way round

Not necessarily. You’ve decided she’s lying but equally she may have eaten something bad and you mad have a stomach upset due to her period.

Anyway, you know the details best so it’s too difficult to tell from my point of view.