Did you have children when you met your OH?

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AIBU thinking that I have missed out at my shot at true love as I already have children?

Did you meet your OH after having your children? How do you feel about their relationship? Do they love them as their own?

Watching with interest. I’ve avoided dating for 9 years because I had a small dc and because I’d had enough of bad relationships.
Dc now 12, I’m trying to pluck up the courage to be a bit more outgoing but was wondering if it was worth all the bother.
Being single can get very comfortable.

So some of these comments are reassuring.

I had four children.

Friendship is also a type of love. I am happy that he is my best friend, it is a beautiful thing to be friends as well as lovers.

DP had a son when we met (he was about to turn two). Wasn't an issue, 20-odd years on I love him as my own, because he is as I raised him. Couldn't love him more if I'd been his birth father. He has always seen me as his dad and me, him as my son

I hope you don’t live to regret your choices. I don’t believe in soulmates (I was engaged within weeks and married within months, and have a brilliant relationship but still don’t think there’s ‘the one’) and would far rather raise my children with ‘my best friend’ and their father. You seem to be far too focused on a fantasy of romance.

You definitely still have a chance. My youngest was 2 when I met my husband. We are a close family unit :-)

I am in the same boat OP, though it was mot my choice to end my marriage (was left for OW recently).

I have 3 young children. I wonder who on earth would want to be with me when I am so busy with my children. But it is early days and I suppose I'll just have to see.

@Noconceptofnormal

I am in the same boat OP, though it was mot my choice to end my marriage (was left for OW recently).

I have 3 young children. I wonder who on earth would want to be with me when I am so busy with my children. But it is early days and I suppose I'll just have to see.

You'd be surprised, there's a lot of men for whom children aren't an issue - although I think it's easier if the children are young. Likely more of an issue if the children are teenagers IMO.

I hope you find happiness

I did, in fact we both already had children. It's not something we talk about that often but we both feel we would have liked to have only had childy with each other.