Given your post 5m ago about ex and father I strongly recommend you get therapy.
The freedom course which is run by women's aid is often recommended on here. I've not done it myself but have read many posts by posters who have and found it very good.
The one POSSIBLE benefit of having a similar dad (I've an abusive dad too) is they can be very useful at "seeing off" this type of man.
It certainly sounds as if you'll be financially better off without him there too as you have declared him but he's not paying his way, your UC will likely go up (I wonder too if this is why he's wanting u pregnant?!) and you can get your single person council tax discount reinstated.
He was so good with dd at the beginning I couldnt fault because I could t afford Christmas he bought her all her presents give me his old car bought me a phone and paid my insurance
This is a COMMON con artists trick - give to get! Appear generous yourself, make the other person feel indebted to you and then milk them dry!
I have a branch of the family tree who are genuine well known (to the authorities) con artists. This is how they start!
Read up on love rat con artists and almost every tale starts with "he was so generous in the beginning..."
You are NOT a dick, you're vulnerable due to your upbringing and previous experiences - they seem to be VERY good at noticing this.
I've been watching criminal minds again recently and they often say on there (and it's true!) criminals are the best "profilers" they know exactly how to size up a potential victim, which one has low self esteem, is vulnerable, is least likely to make an official complaint or even scream/shout if grabbed/assaulted.
There are 3 responses to "danger" (and this doesn't just apply to immediate danger which is when these are most often referenced):
Fight - these people challenge, question etc
Flight - runners
Freeze - some people go numb and don't know how to act so don't do anything.
I'm a fighter, on the occasions when someone's tried to assault me or someone near me I've automatically gone into raging nutter mode! Not always advisable btw esp when you're a 5'2" woman with no weapons! But in less immediate situations it's served me well.
My sister is unfortunately a freezer - she just shuts down. Somehow people seem to realise this about her and as a result she's been mugged and even almost abducted several times. In relationships she's succumbed to controlling types and emotionally/mentally freezes and doesn't act to get out. My parents and I have had to extricate her on several occasions.
You seem to be a "freezer" too. These responses are innate BUT they can be overcome with training. My sister has learned some techniques which have helped her and she's done a lot of therapy on the relationship side of things which has helped.
But really my point is that less savoury types seem to have a 6th sense when it comes to targeting their victims - that's NOT the victims fault.