Don't Tell the Bride....

[MidnightCitrus]

Why does the bride always want a stately home/traditional church?

is this a serious question?

A) That's the traditional dream.
B) Couples are cast to fit the bill. The programme wouldn't work if they wanted a skydiving wedding.
C) The production team push them in certain directions and edit to get the best programme.

They don’t.

Because it’s a TV show and the aim is to create drama. Brides who want to get married at a club in Ibiza are unlikely to get through the auditions. I’ve also seen articles where the brides are told to react a bit OTT and the grooms are pushed to do something out there.

Because a bride who says ‘I don’t mind really - it’s not as important as the guests and my fiancé’ would be hard to piss off.

so where are the crazy brides / traditional grooms?

@MidnightCitrus

so where are the crazy brides / traditional grooms?

They like gender conformity. So even in same sex couples, there is a masculine one to do the planning and a feminine one to get upset that it isn’t perfect.

yes - you're right, its always the one planning that has to be the wild one

We've been watching on netflix. It does get a bit boring doesn't it that the bride always wants the same thing. But as others have said, I guess it's the producers of the show who make it that way.

It’s all fixed and the groom has to authorise all of his purchases through the producers. They want their formula that works for entertainment purposes.

The earlier episodes are way better, they're on all4 at the moment.

Because it would be boring if they gave the bride exactly what she wanted. The producers want conflict.

I do wonder about the dress though - surely beforehand she tells her groom "I want a dress like this"? And she's NEVER happy about what he's picked (some have been bloody awful or don't even fit though)

Surely the couple would have a conversation away from prying cameras where the bride says, I’ll pretend to be drama queen who wants a horse-drawn carriage and castle, and you can “surprise” me by booking the chilled out beach day that I actually want without having to pay for it...?

The earlier ones are better, not everyone wants a trad Church wedding. My fave was the wedding in Central Park where they had fish and crisps as the NY caterers misunderstood "chips".

The woman is always shown to be a complete diva. She kicks off and nearly declares the wedding cancelled because he chooses a strapless dress. The man is always portrayed as useless or selfish because he spends 50% of the budget on a stag do. Not great for eliminating stereotypes.

Why is the groom always a selfish wanker?

At any rate, the weddings are usually fake.

I hope it's written in the contract that the groom
has to behave like a twat with the stag do and spend comparatively no money in the hen do, because honestly, I don't want to believe that many men are idiots.

The worst groom ever!! on that show had to be the one who took his mates to Vegas to plan the wedding, then surprised the bride with tickets to the Vegas wedding but because he spent all the budget enjoying himself with his mates there was nothing left to bring ANY of her family

@Bunnybaubles

The worst groom ever!! on that show had to be the one who took his mates to Vegas to plan the wedding, then surprised the bride with tickets to the Vegas wedding but because he spent all the budget enjoying himself with his mates there was nothing left to bring ANY of her family

That was an absolute classic. Poor poor woman. I can still remember her sobbing 'you've ripped the whole family apart'. IIRC she did go to Vegas and marry him though.

Agree the earlier episodes were much better and often focussed on the groom making the bride happy, rather than now just being so blatantly for entertainment.

I've also started watching it on Netflix, thought it would be an easy watch but it's actually quite depressing.

Just watched the one with the groom who likes to play pranks on his partner, so got the bridesmaids in orange and blue body con dresses that were so tight you could see their belly buttons, and so short you could " see what they had for breakfast" as my nan used to say. They were really unflattering and the girls looked so uncomfortable, I'd be mortified if my boyfriend did that to my friends on tv.

Does anyone remember the thread on here from someone who had been on that programme? Was it the bride? She described all the details and the production team were awful making her do all kinds of stuff. She took it down in the end for fear of breaking the contract by talking about it and having to pay back all the money.

@MidnightCitrus

so where are the crazy brides / traditional grooms?

Probably on a show called Don't Tell the Groom

@Bunnybaubles

The worst groom ever!! on that show had to be the one who took his mates to Vegas to plan the wedding, then surprised the bride with tickets to the Vegas wedding but because he spent all the budget enjoying himself with his mates there was nothing left to bring ANY of her family

They’re already married before hand aren’t they? There is definitely a contract in place to ensure they go through with it at least otherwise I can imagine she wouldn’t have gone to Vegas. I wouldn’t have.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing I thought I read somewhere that she was already having doubts about the wedding because he was a lying cheating scumbag and she'd filed for divorce within 6 months of filming.

But it's very heavily staged. For example the grooms are only given a choice of three dresses, two of which are exactly what the bride said they didn't want.

A friend of mine was friends with the couple that got married in Ibiza in the earlier series. The bit where him and his mate turn up in Ibiza with no hotel booked at 10pm and miraculously manage to find a "friend's" sofa to sleep on was cleverly filmed. He actually went to his other woman's house for the night! According to my friend he and the bride were as bad as each other for their extra marital activities and divorced within a year.

The show makes me laugh when they all slag the groom off saying 'I can't believe he's done this....(wedding dress example)'.
Then on the actually day everyone states how amazing he has done!!
It'd be really interesting to find out who is still actually married following the programme.