Don't Tell the Bride....

[MidnightCitrus]

Why does the bride always want a stately home/traditional church?

The older episodes are better. It was a lot more subtle and the grooms actually seemed to be trying.

Nowadays it's the same boring couples over and over. She's a princessy Mrs Hinch wannabe, he's a laddish bloke with shit tattoos and a best man who seems to be secretly in love with him. She wants a castle and he decides to recreate Kat and Alfie's wedding on Eastenders for bantz. She's mad but then in the end he dun good. They live happily ever after in their bland house where the walls are so thin the neighbours can hear them yelling accusations of cheating on each other forevermore.

[quote CleanQueen123]@BeingATwatItsABingThing I thought I read somewhere that she was already having doubts about the wedding because he was a lying cheating scumbag and she'd filed for divorce within 6 months of filming.

But it's very heavily staged. For example the grooms are only given a choice of three dresses, two of which are exactly what the bride said they didn't want.

A friend of mine was friends with the couple that got married in Ibiza in the earlier series. The bit where him and his mate turn up in Ibiza with no hotel booked at 10pm and miraculously manage to find a "friend's" sofa to sleep on was cleverly filmed. He actually went to his other woman's house for the night! According to my friend he and the bride were as bad as each other for their extra marital activities and divorced within a year.[/quote]

What people will do for 15 minutes of fame and a paid for ‘wedding’...

Even if I’d shown pictures of dresses I’d liked to my DH before the show, he wouldn’t have chosen one I loved because I ended up with something completely different to what I thought I’d have. Poor guy couldn’t have won that one.

A friend of mine was on it. They agreed what they wanted ahead of time and the pretended to want other stuff for the drama of it. They are still happily married and have lovely children as well.

@cleanqueen123 "I thought I read somewhere that she was already having doubts about the wedding because he was a lying cheating scumbag and she'd filed for divorce within 6 months of filming."

They were definitely divorced within 6 months, I had the pleasure of working for him whilst I was a student and he was a massive creep constantly hitting on his much younger secretary

@MidnightCitrus

so where are the crazy brides / traditional grooms?

I've seen one episode from one of the early seasons where she was really unromantic and wanted something low key and discreet and he was like Romeo on speed and threw in every romantic cliche you could possibly think of.

DP and I watched a lot of it during early lockdown, I think the earlier ones were better when they were really just doing it to have the wedding paid for and some of them ended up quite nice, it wasn't as predictably formulaic as the newer ones.

@Panicatthegarden he came across as really sleazy.

It's amazing what people will do for 5 minutes on telly and a free wedding.

I don't know why they don't either save for their "dream wedding" and pay for it themselves or make their peace with the fact they can't afford that kind of wedding and have one that does fit their budget.

After all, it's the marriage that's the important bit isn't it?

I'd do it - the important bit is the marriage, not the wedding - so i would probably fail the interview

I don't know why they don't either save for their "dream wedding" and pay for it themselves or make their peace with the fact they can't afford that kind of wedding and have one that does fit their budget.

It’s not a generation of wait or buy what you can afford. We have phones on contract. We can buy cars on finance. It’s all about instant.

I remember watching the one where the groom had grown up in Australia and apparently wanted to recreate the Scott and Charlene from neighbours wedding, complete with him getting hair extensions to get a mullet and her dressed in a really 1980s dress with shoulder pads...

I read an interview afterwards where he said he gave 3 different ideas to the producers but they wouldn't go with them, so he came up with that. I don't think he was even that bothered about Neighbours, and the bride hadn't even heard of it so was really bemused!

I think it's very fake and they just give the producers the most outlandish thing they can just to get on the show.

@LockdownMayhem

I remember watching the one where the groom had grown up in Australia and apparently wanted to recreate the Scott and Charlene from neighbours wedding, complete with him getting hair extensions to get a mullet and her dressed in a really 1980s dress with shoulder pads...

I read an interview afterwards where he said he gave 3 different ideas to the producers but they wouldn't go with them, so he came up with that. I don't think he was even that bothered about Neighbours, and the bride hadn't even heard of it so was really bemused!

I think it's very fake and they just give the producers the most outlandish thing they can just to get on the show.

oh thats interesting - i just watched that one ( i say watched, i do as i do for them all now, watch the buying of the dress, what her dream dress is and then her reaction of the wedding)

@mummyh2016

The earlier episodes are way better, they're on all4 at the moment.

They really are. It’s just got sillier and sillier as time’s gone on.

She's a princessy Mrs Hinch wannabe, he's a laddish bloke with shit tattoos and a best man who seems to be secretly in love with him

This is so true! 😂

I binged watched about 10 episodes of this yesterday when I was feeling sorry for myself due to heat/pregnancy. It's so formulaic but weirdly addictive.

@nevermorelenore

The older episodes are better. It was a lot more subtle and the grooms actually seemed to be trying.

Nowadays it's the same boring couples over and over. She's a princessy Mrs Hinch wannabe, he's a laddish bloke with shit tattoos and a best man who seems to be secretly in love with him. She wants a castle and he decides to recreate Kat and Alfie's wedding on Eastenders for bantz. She's mad but then in the end he dun good. They live happily ever after in their bland house where the walls are so thin the neighbours can hear them yelling accusations of cheating on each other forevermore.

I am crying laughing especially at the best man bit 🤣🤣🤣

Aw the Ibiza one was my favourite, I'm a bit gutted that they aren't together any more!
Scott Mills on Radio 1 today did a DTTB special where he finds out what's happening with a previous couple. He might do it every week I don't know. Anyway Alex and Kara (they had a wedding with all of the outside games like a coconut shy) aren't together any more.

I used to love it when it was on bb3 but haven’t watched it in years.

Apparently the production company picks three venues (I mean, who could stumble into a venue/photographers/dress shop/vehicle hire/catering/chair hire etc two days beforehand to ask if they’re available for that Saturday for 200 guests?!).

Ive read somewhere if there’s not enough drama on the day the producers will mess up with reordering wrong size shoes/flowers/cancel the cake which I think is unfair.

I’d be more happy if half of them where actual weddings where the bride got what she wanted and the show wasn’t so dramatic.

There are episodes on Netflix, so im watching

The best/worst one I watched years ago, the groom was a bit of a tit. He had a wild party in thier small flat and put it on social media. The bride saw it and went to thier flat the next day and was devastated at the mess she saw.

They did one of those "what happend next" and he said his nan was really upset with him.

This is my guilty pleasure. I watch it with my teen DD and use it for educational purposes - tell them what type of man (child) not to marry!

The thing that astounds me the most about DTTB is that, no matter how selfish and self-serving the groom is, the bride always goes ahead with it. I have sympathy for the grooms who try to please their brides, but get it wrong. But I have zero sympathy for the brides who know their grooms have done everything to suit their own tastes and nothing at all with their bride in mind. Imagine living with and being married to someone who chooses, for example, a velodrome to get married in - because they like cycling.

@nevermorelenore

The older episodes are better. It was a lot more subtle and the grooms actually seemed to be trying.

Nowadays it's the same boring couples over and over. She's a princessy Mrs Hinch wannabe, he's a laddish bloke with shit tattoos and a best man who seems to be secretly in love with him. She wants a castle and he decides to recreate Kat and Alfie's wedding on Eastenders for bantz. She's mad but then in the end he dun good. They live happily ever after in their bland house where the walls are so thin the neighbours can hear them yelling accusations of cheating on each other forevermore.

This is brilliant 🤣🤣🤣

@Whatafustercluck they go through with it because they're tied into a contract that says they have to get married or pay it all back.

I don't know the repayment details but I think most people would go through with it to avoid a 12k debt. Divorce is cheaper!

The 'going through with it' of which you speak is just for show.

I wonder what proportion of the 'loving' couples make it to a legal ceremony once the cameras have stopped rolling?

If they don't go ahead with it they have to pay back the money i believe.

My favourite was the greek wedding on the battleship. She was so over the moon with everything, and not a great actress - theirs must have been one of the ones who had agreed beforehand what they were going to do!