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To feel slightly traumatised by this...?

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Davincisvault · 11/08/2020 10:27

Last night just before bed I went to have a wee. Sat down, wee’d, pulled the toilet paper (must have slightly scrunched it up) went to wipe and a MASSIVE fucking house spider was wriggling between my fingers, in the toilet tissue Envy I screamed the loudest I’d ever screamed, jumped up and flung the tissue and spider across the room. DH then came running up after hearing me scream and got it out for me. It was so almost on my bite before I saw it and honestly my skin was crawling all night.

I was shaking, felt sick!! I should add, I have a massive fear of spiders and house/ field spiders whatever they’re called just send me over the edge.

It took me ages this morning to pluck up the courage to go into the bathroom and have a wee!! HOW I didn’t notice that massive fucker last night I’ll never know, but I was dopey and half asleep I’m guessing that’s why!!

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SweetPetrichor · 11/08/2020 11:45

@flapjackfairy I went to a local invertebrate show and I happened to be hovering near a stand where a lady was selling jumping spiders. She had her adult female one out for people to admire, she saw me looking and said 'do you want to hold her' while offering her towards me...I held my hand out automatically and held the spider and it was actually okay! That was the massive turning point for me. I've always been interested in all creatures so I was receptive to change. I'm still not 100% confident with house spiders because they are fast, but I'm not scared of them anymore.

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NancyPickford · 11/08/2020 11:47

Since moving from London to a very remote part of the country, I’ve become a bit desensitised to them, well the small and medium sized ones. In fact walked past one on the stairwell wall this morning with a glance, a shrug and a ‘meh’.
HOWEVER, I was emptying the laundry basket to do a wash, and a gigantic field spider leapt out of it. Honestly, I never knew I could scream like that!
THEN I looked down and it was clinging to the front of my sweater, at chest level. I thought I might just die, at least it would be a way out of the situation.
Husband had heard the first blood-curdling scream and came ambling in, nonchalantly, to see what the fuss was. I was gibberish, “get it off, get it off”, and then I saw his expression - even HE thought it was a big ‘un.
Cue him flapping a hand towel at my chest while I stood with my eyes screwed shut.
He caught it in the towel and threw it out the back door into the forest.

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Theaspidistraiswilting · 11/08/2020 11:49

I was abroad in a country that only really had squatting loos so was very excited when the place I was staying in had a western style proper loo. Sat down, read my book for ages and had a lovely time. Eventually stood up, turned round and flushed and from underneath the seat emerged the biggest, hairiest motherfucker of a spider I have ever seen even on the telly.

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BoreOfWhabylon · 11/08/2020 11:50
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Anotherdayanothernight · 11/08/2020 11:50

I had a massive fat spider on my shoulder once, I came out from the shower and saw it in the mirror. I screamed and jumped around and it ended up in the bath, but was too big to rinse down so I shut the bathroom door for my DP later. Ended up with a blue toe as I kicked the doorpost

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Notarealmum · 11/08/2020 11:51

🙀🙀🙀🙀 YANBU!!

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Coughsyrupsucks · 11/08/2020 11:53

My Mum had the same thing happen with a sleepy wasp, last week. That could have been nasty, especially as she’s allergic to them Envy

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PopsicleHustler · 11/08/2020 11:57

Luckily I use water to wash my down belows. But when I do pat and dry, I once came across a massive one on the tissue just as I was about to use it. Nearly died.

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thenightsky · 11/08/2020 11:58

@cringeworthit

My dd was wiping her face with a bath towel and a wasp crawled out of it.

That is a million times more terrifying than a spider! Shock

This is the reason why I always give my line-dried clothes 5 mins in a hot tumble drier before folding and putting away.
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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 11/08/2020 11:58

I finished having a shower and wrapped my hair up in a towel. Went downstairs to have breakfast and felt a tickle on my neck. Figured I’d missed a bit of hair that needed tucking in my towel but nope. Huge ass spider crawling on my neck. DH woke up to me screaming and sobbing like a baby.

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MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 11/08/2020 12:00

This time of year is massively triggering for me. With pre existing mental health issues my arachnophobia is in overdrive from now until about October. I absolutely hate it and its something I really want to deal with but its hard. I would have a total meltdown if that happened to me. Hope you are OK op

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amusedbush · 11/08/2020 12:00

I'm TERRIFIED of spiders. I'm talking proper snotty tears if I find one in the house and DH isn't immediately available to get rid of it.

My mum and dad live in a "spidery" house so my dad was on constant alert when I was growing up. I remember once I was sitting on the end of my bed, opposite the chest of drawers, and I saw what I thought was a huge knot in my hair extensions, which were sitting on top of the drawers. I moved closer and realised it was a fucking massive, hairy bastard of a spider on the wall. My dad came up to get it and even he said, "Christ, that thing might be carrying a knife!"

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Daisydoesnt · 11/08/2020 12:00

Please don't tell me September's come early??

Yes I think it bloody has, and I thought we had at least another month before it was THAT TIME

in the last few days I have found three humongous house spiders indoors; one was lurking behind my tube of moisturiser and I nearly touched it when I went to pick up the tube. I was shaking for about five minutes!

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Cauterize · 11/08/2020 12:02

I went to pull down the blinds the other night and a massive one charged at me - I screamed the house down and then hid in another room whilst my husband captured it. He was then instructed to throw it far out of the window

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Tarantallegra · 11/08/2020 12:03

@romeolovedjulliet Grin brilliant! Give Sindy my best. My DP is terrified of them and a bit murderous so I have a secret family in the shed

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 11/08/2020 12:03

@amusedbush

I’m the same. I actually stood at the bottom of my stairs, desperate for the loo for an hour and a half because a beast of a spider was on the stairs. Our only toilets are upstairs. DH wasn’t at home and my dad refused to drive to my house (10 minutes) to come and remove it for me. I stood there in a sobbing mess just staring at it.

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RandyLionandDirtyDog · 11/08/2020 12:04

Spider phobias are one of the easiest phobias to cure.

My DH is a hypnotist and he usually sorts the client out in one session. Years ago, I remember a work colleague of mine coming to the house as she was so terrified and thought she’d feel safer being hypnotised in our home. He spent about an hour or so with her and then they joined me in the garden and actively went looking for spiders in the grass and the shed.

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missrks · 11/08/2020 12:04

Presumably you've put your house on the market and already moved out?

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Fallsballs · 11/08/2020 12:09

There was a spider in my loo roll too OP, scared me to death and I was wondering how it got in there. Last night a daddy long legs and another creature flew at me when I went for a pee. Then a daddy long legs appeared on the kitchen window looking leggy and ugly. Spiders are everywhere but I was putting it down to the weather ? Do they come indoors for a wee break ?

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WeepinWailinGnashinOfTeeth · 11/08/2020 12:09

OMG! I let out a whimper as I read that part, OP! I would have ran, bare-arsed, out of the house or something. I'm traumatised reading all of this. This is why I don't come on spider threads. I agree with pp, title needs a warning! 😭😢

YANBU OP. Sorry that happened to you.

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Puzzledandpissedoff · 11/08/2020 12:16

Don't ever go to Arizona, OP - they have tarantulas there, and if you happen to leave the door open they're not shy about coming into the house Wink

As it happens I love the things, but I genuinely feel for you; this wouldn't have been much fun if you're phobic

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Callipygion · 11/08/2020 12:18

I’m having palpitations reading your post op. I hate spiders too, I think I’d have a heart attack if that happened to me.You are definitely NOT being unreasonable! Flowers

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Hopscotch27 · 11/08/2020 12:18

YANBU - spiders scare the living daylights out of me, too many legs. Don’t like the way they move or drop down into your bloody hair. Literally cannot being myself to be near one. The bigger they are the more horrific the experience. You have my sympathies

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amusedbush · 11/08/2020 12:21

[quote BeingATwatItsABingThing]@amusedbush

I’m the same. I actually stood at the bottom of my stairs, desperate for the loo for an hour and a half because a beast of a spider was on the stairs. Our only toilets are upstairs. DH wasn’t at home and my dad refused to drive to my house (10 minutes) to come and remove it for me. I stood there in a sobbing mess just staring at it.[/quote]
I don't blame you! I can't even walk past them because I'm convinced they'll jump off the wall at me Blush

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Justaboy · 11/08/2020 12:22

Poor little spider! i think it warrants compensation for the hearing damage it suffered;!..

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