Laughing at a seizure

[AtLastEarwax]

Not sure if this is in the right section but anyway...

Sister in laws partner told a 'story' the other day about someone he knew had a seizure whilst with him in a shop. He said he couldn't help her and had to run outside because he couldn't stop laughing.

He doesn't know I have epilepsy, well controlled but it's likely I'll have another seizure in my life. Knowing that has made me so anxious though that if it happened to me people would laugh??

AIBU thinking like that??

He’s vile.
No decent person would find someone having a seizure funny.

My ex husband used to laugh at me and call me a freak when I had seizures. It’s not nice and completely unacceptable @AtLastEarwax for you.

Sorry, realised that probably not what you wanted to hear when I read it back. Just so you know, 99% of people just want to help and are really kind. I just wanted to sympathise x

My dh went through a period of having stress induced seizures

I never laughed once and I usually laugh when he’s hurt himself

I was terrified instead

He sounds lovely

It’s not nice but sometimes people do laugh in inappropriate situations even though they don’t want to. I’ve seen it at a couple of funerals.

It didn’t sound like this guy was embarrassed or sad that it had happened though.

It's not uncommon sadly. I had a fit in public and someone filmed and ended up in the internet and had tens of thousands of strangers laughing at me. Some of my family forwarded with a lol is this you, I haven't spoken to them since

I've had some since and been helped too so I can't say all bad experiences.

That's vile. My BIL once made an epilepsy joke in front of me, then I told him an epileptic seizure killed my brother. Anyone who jokes about these things is 100% a POS.

He's vile. My husband has epilepsy and funny it absolutely isnt.

I'm genuinely shocked
Can't think of anything funny about a seizure.

Thankyou to all the people who wouldn't laugh and appalled at the people who have been and seen it 😢

My uncle had a seizure and drowned in a swimming pool, circumstantial I know but it's scary

Let's be honest a seizure isn't our finest moment in life

I am absolutely horrified at anyone who would think this is acceptable. And as for posting on the internet? Words literally fail me. I am saddened and angry at this

I would help, not laugh
But some people are... I was doing CPR on a guy in a shop, and had people stepping over my legs in order to carry on shopping. I mean I had a defib, it was obvious what was going on
Security eventually lost it and chucked everyone out and people were still arguing. The best bit? It was a community bookshop. So free, you didn't pay!

What a complete tit. Lets hope nothing ever happens to your sister in law when she is with him. God help her if she has kids with him. I hope someone told him to grow up.

I can sort of see this may happen, kind of like emotional diarrhea that someone can't control overwhelming feeling of fear and it came out as laughing.
I felt like laughing once watching my child go under for surgery. It wasn't funny at all, as normal parents can assume.

But it depends on the context, did he say it's because he found it funny, or he felt really scared to death?

He's just anob. Most people would be concerned and laughing isthe last thing they would do.

I'd worry about someone with such an empathy bypass. My DH found it difficult to be around the children when they had falls, but he'd run out and phone an ambulance (pre mobile days). It came from his friend dying in front of him when they were eight and he had to run for help. He used to go into shock, but would never laugh.

When I was 10 I lost a friend to a seizure because she banged her head. I cant understand what the fuck anyone could find funny about it. That's not a normal response at all unless it's a hysterical response to a high stress situation (I've had that happen before and its mortifying)

That's sick!
I've never seen a person have a seizure, but I can't think it would be anything other than terrifying. A friend of mine had a seizure on a bus and ended up in hospital because of hitting his head.

Soemtimes we do laugh at the most inappropriate things. Maybe it was just this one time and you had to be there? (Giving benefit of the doubt, generally seazures are not funny.)

Could it have been a fear/panic reaction from him rather than laughing at her? It just doesn’t make sense to me, as I would never laugh at someone in that situation. It’s not a funny situation in any way.
My friend is epileptic and she had a seizure at my house once. I was so worried for her. I’m first aid trained and we had had a conversation years before about what she needs when she has a seizure and afterwards so I “knew” what to do, didn’t stop how scary it was being unable to do anything other than pull furniture away from her and watch and wait.
I feel guilty thinking about it, once the seizure was over poor friend then kept reassuring me that she was alright, when really it should have been me assuring her. I watched her like a hawk until my aunty came home and we drove her home to her family (we were uni students at the time) couldn’t have sent her on the train after that.

What a repulsive man. And the person having a seizure was someone he knew? And he just left them and went outside to laugh? What a prick.

Your sister-in-law needs to have a good think about whether this is the sort of person she wants as a partner.

I have epilepsy (fortunately well-controlled these days - touch wood) and on the few occasions I've had seizures in public, I've been touched by just how caring and helpful people have been. One complete stranger even came with me in the ambulance someone called (which wasn't necessary but people panic) and waited with me at the hospital until my husband got there.

Did he bring up this story or did someone ask him about it and he didn't want to say he was scared or whatever and so said he couldn't stop laughing to try and save face. Obviously it's still completely unacceptable but I was wondering what the context of the conversation was. If he started the conversation and was bragging that he couldn't stop laughing then that is vile.

IME, deliberate social embarrassment of the offender is one of the best and most effective defences against that level of bigotry .

 So, next time  you meet SIL's BF amongst other people you say to him  

" Remember when you told us about your bad reaction to your friend who was having a seizure? I should have said this at the time, but I have seizures, I'm an epileptic. So I've decided to teach you what to do next time you see your friend having a seizure " and give him chapter and verse. Don't forget to ask him "Has that helped? Have you got any questions? Do please ask if there's anything else you need to know. I really want to help you."

Not really acceptable, but some people do laugh in embarrassing or awkward situations without meaning it.

It would take a real asshole to actually find a situation like that comical.

Being generous: I tend to laugh at funerals, it's an overwhelmed reaction and i can't help it. A bit like how I smile if someone is angry with me.

HOWEVER

from your post it doesnt sound like that was the situation, and if it was why on earth would you admit to people. He sounds like a scummer, would he laugh at a heart attack or a diabetic hypo? What about a car accident or serious head injury? There is nothing funny about seizures, ever (and just to be devils advocate I assume he meant like a tonic clonic etc seizure rather than say a elastic seizure where someone presents as laughing and you might not know if unfamiliar. I know he wasnt but just incase someone tries it).