there seem to be a high number of total fuck useless dp /dh on here now.

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covid must have dragged them out of the wood work but i hope it's because women are not prepared to put up with the shit anymore and are looking for support onmn to do something proactive i.e ltb.
anyone who has left, in the process of leaving or looking to leave you have my full respect, be strong, stay strong you can do this, and i wish you much happiness for the future.

I get more horrified every day by some of the threads I read on here.

I can’t believe there are actually men out there that are such nasty pieces of shit!!

To be fair, not many of us come on here to sing our other halves' praises. But there does seem to be a whole new level of uselessness / fuckwittery recently.

To be fair, whilst there are men on this site, the majority of users are still overwhelmingly female.

There are probably lots of shit women too. We just don't hear about it to the same extent.

Wishing happiness to all.

I ended it with my fuckwit DP 3 years ago and I've said numerous times to my mum that thank god I did because lockdown would have been horrendous with him and would have definitely ended us. It took me 5 years to find myself respect and ltb. I absolutely love being single

I think lockdown has been eye opening for a lot of people in terms of their relationships.

There are probably lots of shit women too. We just don't hear about it to the same extent.

Course there is 🙄 useless comment

theres a fair few stupid women on here too !

Why is it that whenever there is a thread about negative behaviour carried out by some men, some bright spark (or two) will almost immediately pop up to remind us "well women can be shitty too!".

No one said women can't be shitty too but MN is a female dominated site and the discussion was about shitty behaviour from male partners.

Behind almost every useless partner/Dh is a wife who is enabling that behaviour. OP complains but does absolutely nothing about it, or just continues to accept it.

And overarching all of that is a society that has little tolerance or support of single mothers, a long history of excusing "lads will be lads" type behaviour, and solid expectations of what constitutes a woman's place.

Nothing more frustrating than listening about and witnessing shitty behaviour in the partner of a good friend, knowing that absolutely nothing will change or improve.

I’ve had to distance myself from one such friend because I can’t carry on nodding with sympathy, offer practical support all the while seeing him doing what he doesn’t do but is supposed to be doing.
It’s too hard.

There’s always been useless feckers discussed on these boards but I have noticed more and more descriptions of blatant abusive behaviour- often with the OP not seeming to realise that what they are describing is abuse.

I've noticed that too @CelestialSpanking.

OP: describes situation that is emotionally and/or physically abusive
Posters point this out
OP: "oh no, it's not like that and I can be just as bad as he is..."

It's sad and infuriating. No one should have to live like that or try justify it to themselves as being acceptable in a relationship, they are all worth so much more than second rate companionship from some dickhead who thinks his other half is his subordinate rather than his partner.

Like @Notenoughchocolateomg said, thanking God every day I left my 20 year marriage before lockdown. If I'd waited until March like I was originally going to, it would have been unbearable.

piscean 10 Many women come here to complain and try to get help or advice from all of us .However society is still structured in a way that makes it difficult for women to leave a difficult R/L .They are usually the chief care givers for the DC ,and work practices make it harder for women to work especially when a SP .Only yesterday on the site a lady complained that she could no longer access childcare ,and her boss had apparently not been accomodating .meaning she has had to give up her job! Obviously ex DP was working as normal and his work structure was completely unchanged!

There are a lot of these posts, and I think CV19 has really highlighted and contributed to making bad situations worse, and barely tolerable situations intolerable. However, I think there is reporting bias - as pp have said, we don't tend to come on to say how great our DPs are!

Especially not on AIBU as we'd get lynched for being smug

I used to make all sorts of excuses for my abusive ex and defended him all the time. Took years to realise what he was and then another 2 years or so to actually have the bottle to leave him with our kids. But that’s what abuse does to you. Hopefully at least some of the OPs on these threads do start/have started to realise what is happening to them and find their way out of it all.

Could not agree more with this statement.

Well tbh people come on here to vent if everything's ticking along nicely in your relationship and I'm sure that's the case for a lot of people than I don't think people would post about it .I don't doubt there are women in abusive relationship,s with shit partners but they will be the ones posting not the ones who are happy

The other thing is we only ever hear the OP's point of view, which will obviously be only half the story.

Twas ever thus. I've been on MN for donkeys years under different usernames. There have always been lots of posts about useless/lazy/selfish/abusive/cheating DP's and DH's and whenever anyone starts a thread about it there's always the same vacuous "yeah but women are shit too" responses Some things never change.

Re Covid

It's an anagram.

@elephantoverthehill

Re Covid

It's an anagram.

nice one !

I’ve been on here for nearly 18 years, it always been the same. Why would someone come on to say their partner is amazing just to be told they’re a cunt?

I'm always astonished at what women will settle for; as if any man is better than no man. It's as if feminism never happened.