Husband said I'm not pulling my weight

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Had an argument with my husband as I was upstairs playing a word search game on iPad. The children are ready for bed so no issues. They're happy and will be going up shortly. My husband has been doing DIY today and has had some down time in between watching his programmes. I've cooked lunch, dinner, dressed kids, vacuumed and mopped all downstairs. Done washing drying and put clothes away. Also dealt with kids which is constant.

Is it normal to never stop or have any down time? I'm not lazy by any means but the way he said that suggested he thinks I am,

Haha..he should see me shamelessly binging on Netflix- tell to do one.

Another man who thinks he is his wife's manager. Tell him to piss off.

Well you could try to talk to him about this or

As someone else said just excuse crap behaviour because "it's hot" - god so glad my kids never got hold of that excuse or

He's not lazy but neither am I. I don't like the assumption though that if I'm sitting down and he's busy then I'm lazy as when I cook dinner he sits down and watches tv

Give yourself a week and every single time he sits down and watches tv while you cook go in and repeat EXACTLY to him what he said to you. If he says wtf then tell him "but you say that to me when I sit down? or

Do what my mum would have done (born 1926) and tell him forcibly to get over himself for fuck sake who died and made him king of anything

My DH and I had this very argument last night so I know how you feel. I feel like he places no value on my role either, value is only placed on who is bringing in the money. He feels I should do absolutely everything because he works, he even moans about doing the washing up and says things like, that plate and cup are mine yet I am having to wash it all up. Like the children's mess is just my responsibility. I have told him to F off and had lots of arguments about it, it doesn't change his attitude though, it always comes back out as fundamentally that is his attitude.

Exactly the same as @MyShinyWhiteTeeth said.
My ex was always complaining he did more, the house was a mess etc. (As well as other things)

Live alone, 50% with DD. I manage to keep my place lovely, look after DD and work full time and get my own time off 😁

I would kick off big style

Your work is invisible to him

This. He sounds like a twat. You're suppose to be working together as a team, not policing each other's contribution.

Any one not notice he wouldn't of had down time if she was cooking he would be looking after the kids 🤷 so really he has not had any either sorry but you could have waited and put the kids to bed first with his help

Did you see how old the children are? Do you honestly live your life like this? Chill out and take some time for yourself. You're missing out!

Show him what you do every day by not doing it.

He's 10 years older than you...is he one of those husbands that "parents" his wife?

Can't imagine how awful that is.

Unless you tell him this morning that you are deeply upset with his disrespect and rudeness and will NOT put up with it.....this is your life.

He sounds like a right PITA.

I had an ex like that. Couldn't live with him. Left. If I'm having a chill out my current bf chills too and gets the kettle on. Life is too short to be bossed about and made to feel like crap by someone.

@GisAFag

It's hot.. He might just be fed up. Cut him some slack

That works both ways.

@Hamm87

Any one not notice he wouldn't of had down time if she was cooking he would be looking after the kids 🤷 so really he has not had any either sorry but you could have waited and put the kids to bed first with his help

😂🤣😂

A 6, 8 and a 10 year old child doesn’t need constant monitoring. They can entertain themselves pretty well. If we were talking about a toddler, than yes, maybe.

And at those ages my kids were putting themselves to bed regularly.

Ugh this is why I am so much happier living alone. You are an adult, if you want to sit down and play a game on your iPad that is totally your choice. Ok, it would be different if you were sitting doing it surrounded by mess with the kids running riot but that wasn’t the case here.