AIBU that saying no to alcohol is really hard

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We (myself and DP) drink most nights, I wake up thinking that I won’t drink tonight but I do end up drinking. It’s so hard to say no, yet even as I’m drinking I’m wishing I’m not. I find it so hard not to have a glass of wine or two. Please tell me how you cut down/gave up or only now drink socially. Am I at the stage where I join al anon? Has anyone joined al anon and is able to control their drinking eg only socially or once a month?

Also what to do if your partner is the same? Have they given up/cut down if you have?
How do I change my habits?

Hi, just a quick update. I have been alcohol free for 23 days now! My OH has been alcohol free for 10 days. Not a sip has passed our lips. It is unbelievable how much better I feel! It hasn’t even been hard, the hardest part was making the decision I think. I have been to two dinner parties, a bbq and several “eat out to help out” meals. I have read a few books which definitely changed my mindset. Hopefully I’m on the right road now.

Well done! Keep it up, nice feeling isn't it?

It is. I feel like I’ve flicked a light switch in my brain.

Well done OP! Fantastic work.

Well done OP! I didn't realise as I was reading it that you'd originally posted few weeks ago so lovely to see a positive update

I have just seen this OP...well done!
I have done exactly the same thing! I found my face looked puffy and middle age spread was looking even more 'middle aged' and harder to shift!

Ah well done!!
I need this to inspire me to say no this weekend. I’m only a weekend drinker, but I don’t really want to drink at all. I don’t even consider it Sun-Thur, but there’s something about finishing work on a Friday that has become a habit. Will think of you tomorrow and so my very best to refrain.
Great work!

Great news, OP!