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In wanting to thump my childless sister when she says...

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tullytwo · 02/10/2007 08:21

"Oh don't worry babies are pretty adaptable ...just bring your blackout blind and you will be fine.."

This is in reference to a trip next June for my other sisters wedding and will be the first time dd has travelled and mine aren't the best sleepers when they are little.

I wasn't stressing about it just saying that b&b was out of the question as I wanted dd to have her own room so that she continued sleeping though.

I felt like smashing the computer screen at that point! (We were on msn)

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LadyMacbeth · 02/10/2007 08:23

Hmmm... perhaps one day she'll learn

My childless brother keeps suggesting that I 'pop' over to see him in Dubai for a weekend with the dds (age 3 and nearly 2)...

suzywong · 02/10/2007 08:23

next June?

as in 9 months' time???

she may well be absolutely fine by then

YABU

LilBloodRedWantsGore · 02/10/2007 08:24

Don't worry Tully - she'll get hers

LadyMacbeth - take him up on the offer or give me his address!!!!!

belgo · 02/10/2007 08:26

Oh yes I'd go to Dubai!

tullytwo - it's true actually - niether of my dds sleep well but that has never stopped us travelling! And actually they do adapt - it may take a few sleepless nights for them to adapt, but they do, and it's worth it.

MeMySonAndI · 02/10/2007 08:27

This is the sort of thing, that when you will look back in a few months time, you will think how on Earth did I worry about that.

In a few months time they will sleep through whatever you do.

WaynettaVonBlood · 02/10/2007 08:29

Sorry, have to agree with your sister.
Babies are adaptable, and although it's brilliant if you can keep your DD in a separate room, but surely not the end of the world? (and i speak as someone who has outcast her young to their own rooms from when they were teeny, but can still sleep in a room with both of them on hols etc)

LowFat · 02/10/2007 08:30

HI Tully, YANBU at being cross at your sister for making comments on a subject she knows nothing about....but

LO's are pretty adjustable, aprticularly if it's something out of the normal routine. We have just had a weeks holiday (DD is 4 and DS is 9mn)

We had 2 nights a my cousins where they shared a room, DD in the bottom of a bunk bed and DS in an old rickety cot, much smaller than his own.

4 nights in Butlins D in her own room and DS in with us

And 1 night at another cousins DH in his own room, DS in with me and DD again on her own.

And to be honest I would never have known they were'nt in their own beds, they slept through every night, despite late nights, strange rooms, no night light etc.

So you sister, as much as you'll hate to hear it has a point.

However no one knows your children as well as you so you need to do what's best for you - but if it;s only for 1 night why not give it a go, your DD may surprise you!

WaynettaVonBlood · 02/10/2007 08:30

(and instead of bringing your blackout blind, large refuse sacks do the job just as well)

belgo · 02/10/2007 08:30

and the blackout blind thing is quite a good idea. I have to remember to take a night light on holiday for my kids.

LowFat · 02/10/2007 08:30

should add in butlins DS was in a travel cot at the foot of our bed

LadyMacbeth · 02/10/2007 08:32

Yeah I know I should go over there but for now I think we'll have to make do with webcam and Skype.

(Lilred - PMSL at thought of Mner turning up on his doorstep "But your sister gave me your address...")

LilBloodRedWantsGore · 02/10/2007 08:33

DD & I went away with PIL for a week and shared a sleeping compartment in the awning of their caravan and she slept brilliantly. Then we flew home, DH picked us up at the airport and we drove down to Dorset where DD, DH & I all slept in the same bed in my sister's trailer tent and she slept fantastically again!

At home, she will only sleep in her cot and only when alone! Just goes to show really! Ignore your sister's niavity but don't stress either. They do adapt!

LilBloodRedWantsGore · 02/10/2007 08:33

LadyMac - DD & I are house trained if that'd help his acceptance :}

LadyMacbeth · 02/10/2007 08:35

I'm sure you are, in fact probably more so than he is!

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tullytwo · 02/10/2007 08:39

I wasn't stressing at all about her sleeping because I have booked a cottage so that she will have her own room - I want my own room too

I do understand what you are saying and tbh I would take it from you lot because you have EXPERIENCE unlike my sister

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bozza · 02/10/2007 08:40

How old is your DD? TBH if she is a tiny I don't see how either you or your sister can know what she will be like. Also don't see what the problem is with sharing a room from your DD's point of view - more disruptive for the adults IME.

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tullytwo · 02/10/2007 08:40

It is for 2 weeks as well so thats why I definitely want the cottage.

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LilBloodRedWantsGore · 02/10/2007 08:41

Oh, you are not being unreasonable for a wanting to thump your childless sister at all!

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tullytwo · 02/10/2007 08:42

I actually don't have a problem with someone saying that it is just she has no kids, no friends with kids and doesnt live near me so doesnt even really know my kids very well - certainly nothing about sleeping routines etc.

This is a woman who stays up til 3/4 am because she cant sleep and then surfaces at @2pm - so tis a bit trite to then comment on babies sleeping routines as well!

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LucyJones · 02/10/2007 08:51

oh yes, there is nothing worse than childless people giving mum's advice

harpsichordcarrier · 02/10/2007 08:53

well some children are pretty adjustable but lots aren't! just because your children sleep well anywhere dones't mean it will be the same for all children.
I know plenty of adults who don't ever sleep well away from their own beds

kslatts · 02/10/2007 09:24

I think your sister has a point, we have always travelled with dd's even from an early age. They might not sleep quite as well as they do at home, but that wouldn't stop me going.

MaryAnnSingletomb · 02/10/2007 09:30

does it really matter for a night or two ? YABU

flowerybeanbag · 02/10/2007 09:38

YANBU to be fed up with people who don't have experience giving advice.

However, she is very possibly right. We recently took DS away for the first time, to France for a few nights then Ireland for a couple of nights.
I was dreading it, assuming he would be all disrupted, stop sleeping through, and that we'd suffer having him back in with us.

He was absolutely fine

Hopefully you'll feel a bit better about it by next summer.

newlifenewname · 02/10/2007 09:39

Your sister is right.