I'm married, late 50s and was starting to look forward to retirement. Kids are almost grown up, my parents are no longer with us, so it's a chance for us to pursue our dreams.
However. My SO's parents are still around as is his sister. All three live together because his sister tried to commit suicide a while back and is now severely disabled. His parents care for his sister and quite frankly it has ruined their retirement, all their money is gone and their dreams shattered.
His parents know they are not long for this world and have been pushing him to agree to take on his sister and become her carer. I'm furious with this because it's not something I ever agreed to and even before she became disabled I quite frankly disliked her. She receives a flat and money from the state and quite frankly is better off than we are at the moment.
What would have been a pleasant and quiet retirement somewhere warm will now be someone I dislike, joining our family until I die.
I have tried talking about it but all I get are evasive answers.
Am I unreasonable to say that it's all over if he won't accept that I don't want her in our future? I'm repeatedly being told I'm "selfish" for not wanting to scrap my retirement plans? I'm the main wage earner, by the way.