Furious with grandparents over bird poo

[BirdPooToddler]

My parents took my DD (3) out for the day. When they came back my DD had dried bird poo in some of her hair and a splodge on her dress. My DP said they hadn’t noticed. I was annoyed at this to begin with but now she’s been in bed for a few hours and I’ve spent time googling how dangerous breathing in dried bird poo can be I’m really upset and worried. Will DD potentially get really unwell? Should I mention to my parents again that they really should have noticed and not noticing was negligent? Or am I overreacting.

I read these angsty parenting threads, and wonder each time how the mother in question gets through life/parenting.
I really hope they don't pass their anxiety onto the child.

[quote BirdPooToddler]@TheVamoosh thanks. My DD was born very early and very unwell. Since then I’ve been terrified of losing her. I am trying with counselling to put this right. The last thing I would want to do is hurt her. But when I googled and all these terrible symptoms/ risk of coma and death came up I completely freaked out. I recognise now that’s not reasonable or proportionate, and have apologised to my parents for being snappy with them.[/quote]
Well done for recognising that you overreacted, and for apologising to your parents.
I hope the counselling helps. Again, the fact that you're doing something about your anxiety is positive. If you mention this incident to your counsellor, maybe they can help you with a strategy for dealing with something like this next time it happens.
All the best.

I get the worry op, I have a daughter who is on a low dose chemotherapy, the illness it is treating is not life threatening in any way, but the consequences of her getting certain illnesses whilst on thus treatment are...think run of the mill childhood illness like chicken pox. So I absolutely get why you are freaking out!!

That said, your parents haven't done this on purpose, they didn't notice, it can't have been a huge amount. And honestly she is far more likely to get ill after playing in sandpits at the park, using a mud kitchen.

Its good you are having counselling for this. It definitely sounds like you guys have had a traumatic start.

Well done for taking perspective.

I sympathise, as on one memorable visit to grandparents with dcs age 2 and 6months, at the height of the Bird Flu panic, a bird that had escaped from the cats claws flew all around my babies bedroom spraying blood across the walls and cot. And then when I got downstairs my 2 year old had accidentally drank grandads orange juice which he laughed and said 'oh dear that's got my medication dissolved in it'. They were fine, obvs. I was rather stressed!

@BirdPooToddler ask for CBT too. Counselling alone may not help you change the pattern. It can be a release and help you understand but CBT can give you the tools to change how your brain deals with anxiety.