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AIBU?

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Furious with grandparents over bird poo

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BirdPooToddler · 01/08/2020 23:45

My parents took my DD (3) out for the day. When they came back my DD had dried bird poo in some of her hair and a splodge on her dress. My DP said they hadn’t noticed. I was annoyed at this to begin with but now she’s been in bed for a few hours and I’ve spent time googling how dangerous breathing in dried bird poo can be I’m really upset and worried. Will DD potentially get really unwell? Should I mention to my parents again that they really should have noticed and not noticing was negligent? Or am I overreacting.

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TheMamaYo · 02/08/2020 00:00

How precious that your parents took her out for the day. 💖 Lucky you.

You’re completely overreacting. Do you usually fret a lot?

Dancingdeer77 · 02/08/2020 00:00

Put down google. She will be fine. It’s happened to many people and it’s a shame they didn’t notice but not a big deal. It’s kind of a funny family story type of scenario not serious safeguarding issue.

saraclara · 02/08/2020 00:00

Jeeze, when it comes to the MN award for 2020's most unnecessarily dramatic OPs, this one will be nominated.

You're being ridiculous, and the grandparents have done nothing wrong.

Katinski · 02/08/2020 00:01

@tankflybos

"I think you are overreacting. Shit happens."

This is the most genuinely funny and apt reply to a thread I've read on here in a long long time.

ViciousJackdaw · 02/08/2020 00:02

I had no idea that bird shit was actually a mix of shit AND piss until I read a thread here on MN last week! Anyway, as a PP has said, it's supposed to be lucky.

Scrumptiousbears · 02/08/2020 00:02

Isn't it meant to be lucky having a bird shit on you?

MeanWeedratStew · 02/08/2020 00:02

If you told me I was negligent for not noticing bird poo in your kid’s hair, I’d never babysit for you again.

YABU. Kids get all sorts of dirt and crap on them. If that bothers you, then motherhood is going to be a long, rough ride.

Goingprivate2020 · 02/08/2020 00:05

Ffs. Ridiculous.

beautifulxdisasters · 02/08/2020 00:05

You are massively overreacting.

The chances of your DD suffering some kind of harm by being shat on by a bird are absolutely miniscule.

Do you suffer from anxiety? I'm not really sure why you would even think to Google how dangerous bird poo is, to be honest.

Yes it would have been better if they'd noticed, but please don't fall out with your parents by accusing them of being "negligent" over such a minor issue.

beautifulxdisasters · 02/08/2020 00:11

Cross posted with your post about anxiety.

I mean this in the nicest possible way OP but based on your reaction to this, your level of anxiety is far more likely to cause long term issues for your DD than the bird poo. Are you getting any help with your MH?

I say this as someone who has suffered very badly with anxiety in the past, and I sympathize

Original poster

BirdPooToddler · 02/08/2020 00:11

My DD was born very early, I suffered badly from PND and she has ongoing health conditions. I am very anxious about her. This has been a reality check.

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Flowers009 · 02/08/2020 00:12

YABU but how they didn't notice is crazy

TableFlowerss · 02/08/2020 00:15

OP don’t worry, as a one off, it’ll probably do her more good than harm and build up her immunity. A bit like covid- too much exposure is a no no but a little exposure (such as a vaccine) can be good!

I also read that young kids exposed to mud and more germs etc outside had less chance of getting childhood cancer such as leukaemia - as they’re bodies are exposed to more germs.

Anyway just ignore the horrible replies. People love striking people down and putting them in their place for being OTT. Although this particular thread I think the harsh response isn’t necessarily a bad thing, as it will hopefully put things in to perspective.

Don’t google though or it’ll drive you mad 😉

TheHighestSardine · 02/08/2020 00:17

I hope the reality check is that you shouldn't be so anxious about a bit of filth, and probably need to work on that anxiety more.

The adults responsible have been pathetic though!

saraclara · 02/08/2020 00:17

If you told me I was negligent for not noticing bird poo in your kid’s hair, I’d never babysit for you again.
Yep. I'd be too worried about the responsibility. Little kids fall over, bump their heads. Accidents happen even when they're with the most attentive of parents. I'd be worried sick about how the parent would react if that happened in my care, if unnoticed bird poo was going to have them accuse me of negligence.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 02/08/2020 00:19

FGS calm down. You're in for a nasty shock in the future, when real problems happen, if you're worrying this much about bird poo.

How nice of your in laws to take her out for the day. What a shame they didn't foresee a bird having a poo above Precious

I really fear being an in-law one day, it seems some are pitted against them from the off and they can never do right.

GinWithASplashOfTonic · 02/08/2020 00:19

@Esspee

I think you are overreacting. Shit happens.

Couldn't put it better myself

Chuly · 02/08/2020 00:20

I got psittacosis.

I promise you, I didn't get covered in parrot shit, I wasn't licking up seagull droppings or hanging around pigeon fanciers race meets.

I contracted it from the less than 1% of wild birds that carry it, most likely from a picnic bench, or similar. It took a long time and a lot of courses of AB's before it was discovered. Once the pathogen had been identified, it was treated very efficiently.

Keep an eye on your DD and if she displays any symptoms then contact the GP. Honestly though, she will be fine.

saraclara · 02/08/2020 00:21

@GlummyMcGlummerson

FGS calm down. You're in for a nasty shock in the future, when real problems happen, if you're worrying this much about bird poo.

How nice of your in laws to take her out for the day. What a shame they didn't foresee a bird having a poo above Precious

I really fear being an in-law one day, it seems some are pitted against them from the off and they can never do right.

It was OP's parents!

So yep, if I was her PIL I'd be even more terrified to babysit.

SD1978 · 02/08/2020 00:21

You're over reacting. Using worlds like negligent would seem to indicate a degree of health anxiety on your part. She got crapped on, they didn't notice. They didn't lock her in a barn of bird crap for hours. She'll be fine.

Tiredmum100 · 02/08/2020 00:23

Yes you are over reacting. You can tell your parents they were negligent but I doubt they'd want to babysit for you again. As other posters said your anxiety could end up causing more problems for her in the long run.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 02/08/2020 00:24

My mistake! Still it's a massive over reaction, and it was lovely of them to take her out

Kids massively pick up on anxiety OP and your over protectiveness will cause far more damage than a bit of bird poo in her hair

Thisismytimetoshine · 02/08/2020 00:25

It's good luck to have a bird shit on your head...

ifeellikeanidiot · 02/08/2020 00:29

It's okay to be worried and anxious. I too would have googled. I hope you are now feeling better about the risk to your daughter.

It would never occur to me to be angry at my parents. They didn't notice - it was a genuine mistake. People have to be allowed to make mistakes. I understand that you're upset and angry, but directing that to them is upsetting and unfair.

LivingMyBestLifeNOT · 02/08/2020 00:29

Sorry but there are far more important things to be worrying about at the moment. YABU

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