How do I approach this?

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My family love curry. I mean make 2 or so a week, if we go out for drinks it ends up with a takeaway curry. I like curry. I really do. But curry does not like me!

I have really severe Crohn's disease at the moment which will not respond to treatment so I'm starting a biological medication soon and I hope that works. Curry and my Crohns means I'm in a fuck tonne of pain and I'm usually up all night puking and 💩. I don't want to have any more curry, but tonight I was bullied into getting another one I've tried going to a different takeaway for me but I just get told I'm a party pooper (I'm
Not I'm just a pooper) I tried ordering chips with curry as rice is another huge trigger but I got told I'm ruining dinner .

I don't know what to do? Let them
Order their curry and stay out of it ? I'm in so much pain tonight after dinner. Maybe I should stop using vipoo and leave the window closed. That would render the bathroom
Out of action for hours..

What is wrong with these people?! You've told them it makes you ill and they still pressure you into eating it? Why can't they have it while you have something else? There's absolutely no reason people in the same house/family have to eat the same food all the time.

I wouldn't care what they thought, if they're happy letting you feel ill just to suit them. Tell them you're not eating it because it makes you sick, but they're welcome to eat what they like. And if they have the temerity to continue to complain or pester you about it, I'd ask them outright: "Do you want me to be miserably ill? Don't you care about my well-being?"

Who are these people? They sound awful.

Stop letting them fire you to eat food that is making you I'll. They are abusing you and you are letting them.

I would consider moving away from these people if at all possible. They care more about curry night than your health and happiness.

Force you. .. Not fire you...

Bullied by whom, OP?

If this is your family, surely they understand you have a medical problem?! And either way why can you not order what you like? Depending on where you are ordering from most places you can get something not spicy.

Also, why can't you just do your own thing? Let your partner (if that's who's doing this) order for him or her and the kids and then order what you like.

Last night a family member visited and we sat in the garden. She wasn't planning to say for dinner but we were talking about takeaway. DH always wants Indian or Chinese and that's what we often get. I said no I want at Italian from a nice authentic place nearby. I ordered for me and relative and DH sorted himself out ate our leftovers

My daughter is coeliac. If we're having takeaway, and the person whose choice it is, wants something that doesn't provide her with a safe option that she wants, then we get her what she wants to/can eat, and we get the other option for everyone else.

If we're going out, then we go somewhere she can have a decent meal, as well.

What’s the family dynamic here? It’s really disturbing that your family can bully you into eating something that makes you so chronically sick. Why can’t you say no?

I have a vague idea about Crohn's, enough that if I knew someone who suffered with it I'd immediately defer to anything they say in terms of food.

You not eating curry doesn't mean they can't eat curry. The people making you feel pressured in this way do not care about you if you've told them you have Crohn's so don't give a shiny one about their feelings regarding food.

If you haven't told them, please do and send them links to the many online resources that explains the symptoms and long term consequences of Crohn's.

Stop making yourself physically ill because of fuckwits!