for being pissed off at living away from family and friends?

[mimi03]

this is long but i just need to talk about it

moved house 2 weeks after ds was born. we moved about 300miles away- thats approx. 5 hour drive, to a new city, as my dp job is based there. its a good job with the potential for a nice pay rise at some point....he loves this job. im not working and at home all day with ds. i dont drive.

the company are paying our rent and bills at the mo....although this wont last forever. so on the one hand we have got it good.........on the other, IM BORED SHITLESS!!!. have met a few ppl through meet ups but have no family or long term friends. i feel like a hamster in a cage. like i say arrangements are temporary but what im i gonna do if we have to buy a house and stay up here? am i being unreasonable???

Mimi I live just south of Lincoln- where are you roughly & I'll see what I can find in your area?

we r no better off even tho the house is being paid for, we have other houses rented but have to top up the morgages on those so its just the same as paying out for our owm place. plus dp work is very unpredictable. he left at 5am and probably wont b home now till 8 or gone.....it all depends on the weather, so i make appointments for stuff and just hope!

but i will try

im just north of city centre, thanks!

Ok I'll get back to you later or tomorrow depending on how my research goes!!

YANBU.

We moved here 2.5 years ago because there was no Uni near enough to home. Dh's woprk is in the middle of the two towns so that ahsn't vchanged. wre're only an hour away but my aprents etc don't drive, and I can't atm so it can be very isolating. Dh feels it too- his hobby simply cannot be carried on here as its unique to where we come from (a sorta local tradition LOL), and thats where all his friends were. Here, we have a nice house, the boys are settled, they have Sn so Statements / apeds etc established..., back home they;d have none of that and we'd have a much less nice house because of the price differential but still weboth yearn for it. Don't know if it will happen, in all honesty. It would if we came into some money, certainly!

I moved from a large city in Hants to a market town in Kent 24 years ago. I was homesick for about 10 years.

My kids were born here and I had to really make an effort to get to know people. Now I know more people than DH who was born here.

I have been reading all your stories and feel so sad. I moved away from home 4 years ago just before birth of DD1. Not as far as some of you guys but nevertheless it was a huge wrench for me from my family, friends and job. DH had gotten a job and was the only option available to us. I cried for about 6 months before we moved but my dad put it into perspective for me. He said that me, DH and DC are the most important thing here and not anyone or anything else. For quality of life with my DH and kids we moved and I never looked back. I am v happy but I was one of the lucky ones!

My point is that money and promotion are not whats important here. You are part of this life away from the people and things that make your life happy and fulfilled and if it is not working for you all then its not working full stop. Move back home and be happy. I can totally imagine how you must feel.