To have lost 20lbs and nobody has noticed

[babylukesmum]

Hi everyone
During lockdown I went up to 12st 8lbs (I'm 5'10) and over the past 8 weeks have managed to lose 20lbs which I'm really proud of! :) I now weigh 11st 2lb. Would like to lose another 2lb so I weigh 11st exactly but I'm happy either way. The only thing is, nobody seems to of noticed. I'm feeling great in myself so don't mind (although would be lovely after all my hard work ) but it's got me wondering how much weight do you think you have to lose for it to be noticeable to other people? I would say I started feeling "lighter" after I lost 7lbs, and could see it myself after I lost 14lbs.

I once commented and it turned out to be a medical condition that had caused the person to lose many stone- it was very embarrassing.

Well done though!

People can't have it both ways.

If it's rude to comment that someone has gained weight, then it's rude to comment that they've lost it.

Also, some people get offended when others remark that they've lost weight, when they actually haven't. They then interpret "You've lost weight" as "You need to lose weight".

It's a total minefield OP. Just keep doing what you're doing for you and don't worry if anyone notices or not.

Congratulations op. Great achievement. Don't worry about people not noticing. You didn't do it for them.

That’s amazing op well done! I always notice but I never say anything in case I’m wrong or I offend! I’ve lost about a stone over lockdown and I’m not sure I can tell on myself but my clothes feel much better. I take people not commenting as a good thing.... if they don’t notice it coming off then hopefully they don’t notice it going on either!

Well done on losing the weight.

Tbh, us tall people carry our weight differently and people don’t really notice if you lose weight.

People notice but don’t always comment as they don’t want to imply they notice your weight.

Well done by the way!

That's impressive! Well done. Now I need to motivate myself.

Well done!

Personally I don't comment on someone's weight loss, I think it's rude unless the person brings the subject up themselves. That might be why some people aren't saying anything. It's too easy to cause offence around these things.

I lost four and a half stone in 2017 and nobody noticed or commented until I'd hit the four stone mark. I think part of it was the fact that I'd been wearing massively baggy clothes for ages as I didn't want to spend money until I felt happy with myself! I bought myself a size 12 wardrobe (I'd previously been a size 20) and everyone went nuts with compliments.

Some of the compliments were nicer than others. One colleague is not known for her tact and she said, "You look amazing, much better than before. When I first met you I was concerned, I thought you didn't care about your life."

Well done! I never comment on weight as it's such a touchy subject. Unless I know someone is actively dieting ect

I’ve lost a stone and hardly look any different. I think I’ll have to lose 3st to be noticeably thinner.

Well done - I am struggling to lose the 1/2 stone I have gained post lockdown - and I was overweight before . Therein lies a problem. I am overweight so at greater risk of complications of covid. However a few years ago my DM was seriously ill (literally deaths door) for 5 months. She lost 2/3 of her body weight. She was very overweight before but had she not had that excess weight she would have died without a doubt. You hear people who have come out of ICU after Covid having lost 3 stone, what if you don't HAVE 3 stone to lose? Difficult one. I'll still keep trying though...

I agree that it's very tactless to comment about weight, I lose and gain weight very easily and I hate people mentioning it. I also never comment, unless I am 100% sure that someone it's actually trying to lose weight.

I've had both the 'are you pregnant?' and 'have you got cancer?' comments. .

I would never comment on anyone's weight, I lost a lot of weight when my grandmother died and hated it when anyone "congratulated" me on the weight loss.

I think people are more wary now. That would definitely be noticeable- anyway said you look ‘well’?

That’s normally the standard euphemism

I'm with you OP, I've lost 23lbs during lockdown but with the exception of my kids and best mate no-one has noticed 😢 I feel do much better in myself though and that's what's important.

Well done.
I can empathise.
I have lost over 2 stone since the beginning of the year.
I saw a group of people from my son's sports club for the first time since February recently and I was a bit disappointed that nobody said anything. It left me wondering if actually I don't look any different.
But when I reflected on it, I thought that actually people are probably scared of saying the wrong thing. If you compliment someone on their weight loss you are effectively saying that they were fat before, if you say they are looking great then it is suggesting that they didn't look good previously etc.
Actually, I wouldn't mind - I was fat before. Obese in fact. I could still do with shedding about another stone to be honest, but I do look radically different than I did at the beginning of the year. So I think it is unlikely that nobody noticed, more likely they just didn't want to put their foot in it.
Plus of course my weight is not that important to other people, so maybe not worth commenting on. It is however important to meand I know that I look, and more importantly, feel, totally different so I'm just happy with that.
Give yourself a pat on the back and don't worry about other people.

I’m the same height as you and I think when you are tall you carry weight differently so it may not be so obvious - people think you are slender anyway.

I probably wouldn't notice. I worked with someone who lost five stone. She was three stone down, and I hadn't noticed until someone else said it. And it's a subject that one has to be careful about broaching with anyone, imo.

First 3 stone of my weight loss- no one said a word- last 1.5 stone everyone noticed! I'm tall, too!

Congratulations. Are you still wearing big clothes which disguise your shape? I expect people don't want to make personal comments so don't feel disheartened. Could it be that they're a bit envious of your success if they are struggling to lose weight? Congrats again.

People probably don't want to upset you.

I've lost four and a half stone over lockdown, the only people who have commented are my partner and parents, and they knew I was trying to lose it and are being supportive. No-one else has remarked on it unless I brought it up first. Voluntarily commenting on weight is a minefield as pp have said, most people are uncomfortable with it, you might be ill, pregnant, on medication, or it can been seen as commenting that you were larger in the first place, which is never acceptable Congratulations by the way, I bet you look and feel fantastic, I have a way to go before size 12

Well done OP. I don’t comment on other people’s weight unless they’ve lost a lot and I know they’ve been really trying.