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Harrassment? What do I do?

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Changeofname14 · 30/07/2020 20:06

I have name changed for this as it's a very unusual situation so I am guessing it may be identifying.

My young teenage son is a public figure of sorts. Not famous in any way but starting to be known locally. He seems to have attracted a very strange middle age woman to is public page. At first just seemed like a slightly odd follower but now I am pretty concerned.

She is telling people she manages him, she is making up stories about her involvment in his public/tv appearances and has now been on FB live taking credit for something he has done recently. We have never met her or even had contact with her other than via facebook.

There is a whole lot more to the story involving a child protection issue (not just to do with my son) which has been reported to SS but she has also been using my son's name plus the company he is contracted to for her own campaigning (which is something I don't really agree with as it is a load of lies). In addition to this I tagged a place we were at near our house and she turned up the next day (it is a really random place and not near her so it is unlikely to be a coincidence). My other concern is that once lockdown is completely over then due to the public nature of what he does she will know where he is (although we are always with him of course). I can't really say too much more about her as it is probably way too personal but she has some very serious mental health issues and I am concerned she would be dangerous.

I have googled and even if I block her it doesn't block her from the public page so she can see where he is.

I have no idea what to do really and just wondered if anyone has any idea about our legal position here. Thanks

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SickToDeathOfThis · 31/07/2020 02:29

I am a musician and had an older man being inappropriate towards me when I was 18. He also went around claiming to be my ‘manager’... not the most adult solution but as I still was a uni student living at home my mother gave him what-for the next time he made one of his dirty old man phonecalls. I still get harassment & sexual advances now in my late thirties. it’s a nasty aspect of the industry.

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Changeofname14 · 31/07/2020 07:28

I will log with the police today.

@SickToDeathOfThis the trouble is that her mental health conditions are so severe she can't see what she is doing is actually wrong. I am fairly sure she actually believes most of it. When i confronted her again yesterday she actually asked me what my issue was.

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Whichoneofyoudidthat · 31/07/2020 07:43

Does he have an agent? Or any PR? I imagine they might know how to deal with this sort of thing?

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Changeofname14 · 31/07/2020 07:59

He starts with a PR company tomorrow actually so they may be able to advise.

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Changeofname14 · 31/07/2020 21:13

The police were unhelpful. Not interested at all and suggested I was wasting their time. They said I can phone back if she turns up at a performance or something. They suggested a solicitor for a civil case. The trouble is that a lot of the messages are to other people about him and not directly to us. The police officer said the main issue is that she is fabricating stuff about him but that it isn't a crime.

I tried sending a PM again one last time and just asked if she could stop using his name in her campaigning without our permission. I got a load of abuse back and she has completely re written everything by saying we asked her for help etc which is completely untrue.

I have blocked her from all Facebook pages. She can still see the public page but not a lot I can do about that. She has put loads of statuses on her public page cryptically saying horrible things about us but she is too clever to name us. I am hoping she will move on now. I am speaking to a colleague of my friend who works in litigation on Tuesday so that may help to give me info of what we could do next if need be.

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Babymabel · 31/07/2020 22:13

I would put a post onto his page and stipulate categorically that this lady has never been involved in any aspect of your sons career. I think you need to name and shame to be honest. Most people will probably have put two and two together already and know she's making it all up.

LouiseTrees · 31/07/2020 22:27

PM me her page. I’ll see what can be done based on her comments.

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Changeofname14 · 31/07/2020 22:34

@Babymabel I have been looking at the comments on her page and there are a few people who definitely are onto her but she deletes anyone who doesn't agree with her very quickly. DS has a PR company running his socials as of tomorrow so it will be good as they can help with a post of that sort.

Thanks @louisetrees I will do

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PrincessForADay · 02/08/2020 09:10

Did you try contacting FB to ask if they can somehow block her from his public page?

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Changeofname14 · 02/08/2020 17:32

I have tried but they are not particularly helpful.

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