AIBU...cant stop thinking about this man.

[MyNameIsIKEA]

I just cant stop thinking about this man. I've never really ever seen anyone thats made me feel this way based on looks.

So a few week ago had some stuff removed from the garden. OH left some stuff in the front that the guy was loading into his van, while I was in the back garden sorting other bits. When the guy finished he walked through to the back garden and that's when i first saw him.

The most breathtakingly handsome man i have ever seen, i had to actually take a deep breath, totally blew me away. He was tall, naturally athletic build, the most gorgeous olive skin, brown eyes, soft short light brown curls on his head, i noticed his hair was thinning a bit on the back but it really didnt matter just showed maturity.
He was a cross between a maori rugby player and a love island contestant. I was tempted to say something as he was wasted doing what he was doing. He was wearing a plain black tshirt with black trousers and work boots but looked amazing. He walked passed me and I felt so shy, he looked at me and acknowledged me and said hi, i said hi back, i was absolutely mezmerised Everytime he walked past he would leave a trail of his aftershave and his smell, i loved it. It was raining heavily and it was mucky work but he just looked even better with rain dripping off him and mud all over his top (not in a pervy way, just looked so effortlessly beautiful). I made small talk by saying sorry for not being much use, he smiled and replied i was useful. When he finished i asked if he wanted a coffee and he said yes. He started making small talk asking where im from and it turned out we were from the same area and he lived not too far from where i grew up. I didnt want him to leave.

OH paid him and he shook his hand, the guy waited for me, waved and said bye. OH told me to save his number on my phone for future work. I now find myself looking at his whatsapp dp quite often.

AIBU feeling like this?
Have you ever experienced something similar?

Im not pervy or the desperate housewives type. I cant quite understand why i just cant stop thinking about him. The first 2 days were non stop nut it been 2 weeks and i still find myself thinķing of him.

Waste doing what he was doing? What should he have been doing 🙂

I used to get crushes like this when I was with my ex, though it was mainly on famous people and I would fantasise about them constantly. I was unhappy and unfulfilled in that relationship though so I think I was subconsciously looking elsewhere.
Since I've been with my DH I don't get this anymore at all. I think sometimes in a happy relationship it can be normal on some level to look at someone and think they are attractive but not to the point where you yourself are attracted, if that makes sense. Maybe you need to refresh things with your partner, spend quality time together and remember what drew you to him.

I work in a shop and see beautiful men coming in every day. A few of them are so gorgeous that I get all discombobulated talking to them. Some of them even flirt lightly with me. In their case I have to assume that it's habit and they flirt with anything that looks vaguely female, as I am nearly 60 and old enough to be their granny.

Makes the day go faster, that's all. I do not intend to take any of them up on their offers to go for a drink!

I don't think it's unusual to have an instant attraction to someone else regardless of marital status. It's happened a few times, once ending in a doomed relationship the others nothing.

This happened to me when I was 17. Went to Greece. My aunt said her husbands cousins son next door was going to take me out... yes, right I said, not too bothered...until I came downstairs and this young man with his back to me was talking to her, when he turned round and our eyes locked, that was it. Thunderbolt city. It has never happened again with anyone else. Oh, and he also kissed like a god. I am 46 now, and married, and I can still remember that moment, it was so intense. there lass, you are normal.

I’m imagining him sweeping his head to the side in slow motion with large droplets of wAter slowly flying through the damp air from is foppish curly hair. Ideally he would have been stripped to the waist resting his tanned muscular forearm (which I imagined wrapped tightly round my waist) reacting on the well worn garden fork.

There you go OP

YABU and stalker like.

*resting not reacting 😂

😂😂😂

Aw how sweet. I would be telling my husband though, so we could laugh about it, and the unseemly feelings will die a death.If he's as gorgeous as you say, he'll have dozens of admirers and well aware of his beauty.

I simply cannot imagine looking at another man that's not my husband. I have a lot of respect not only for him but for myself.. I'm very lucky. Hes got the looks and the personality. Hes gorgeous and he makes me laugh til I cant breathe. Women stare at him. And I don't even care.

I cannot believe you are actually looking at this man's display pic and daydreaming about him when you have a husband or significant other. Give your head a wobble. If the shoe was on the other foot and your husband wrote, this gorgeous sexy woman came over to help my wife with something. I just couldn't stop staring . She was totally gorgeous with a sexy body and in the rain looked even better and am staring at her.picture oh my god why cant I stop thinking about this woman.
Seriously , get a bloody grip. This is a total slap in your husbands face.

I had the same thing!!
When I was 19 I was walking down the high street and saw the single most sexiest man I'd ever clapped eyes on. Shaved head, dark olive skin and like greek ocean coloured blue eyes in full builders kit, covered in dirt,carrying a meal deal as he strolled along.
I felt like I could just drop dead at how gorgeous he was 😂 never forgot him and he became my imaginary one that got away.

Anyway, 6 months ago The Same Man walked into my local pub, stood next to me at the bar and said 'christ I remember you dancing in the Astoria 15 years ago'
We ended up chatting for 3 hours and very very proud to call him my boyfriend now

You enjoy your crush OP. He sounds delighhtful

Thanks I mean he is not perfect. He forgets to say pardon if he burps, throws his socks off rather than putting them in wash basket, is a bit sweary in day to day language but other than that hes a great human being

It's only a problem if you plan on attempting anything. People saying you're a stalker etc are wrong. We are all human and unless you allow it to affect your relationship in any shape or form carry on.

Enjoy the attraction/crush @MyNameIsIKEA but perhaps don't keep looking at his photo, and keep it as a fantasy.

At least he's not my cat's a gorgeous vet who needs to see my your pussy every few weeks...now that is awkward

You went into a lot of detail there. Have you considered writing a Mills & Boon / 50 Shades style book about him.

The sudden attraction at random I don't see an issue with: as someone else said, you don't go dead from the waist up when you get married! The constantly staring at his WhatsApp pic is problematic though. You're prolonging the feelings, building on them and edging into dangerous territory. Delete his number and distract yourself before you do something you'll regret.

I felt like this about my now DH when I first set eyes upon him from the stage in a crowded nightclub. I was completely thunderstruck. Never felt like it before or since. Still feel like it now occasionally and genuinely feel heart palpitations (when he’s not being a twunt). It’s just pure primal animal attraction I think (we are animals after all).

Danielle Steel must be quaking in her Monolos

If a married bloke wrote about a woman working on their garden or home they'd be ripped to shreds!

It happens, I’ve had it twice.

The first was when I went to see a band at the rescue rooms in Nottingham, I would have been 19, and there was an actual god in the audience, everything about him was pure perfection, if I closed my eyes now I can still see what he looked like, what he was wearing etc.

The second was when I took my cat to the vet for the first time, the vet Chris when I saw him it was like I was transported back to being a teenager having that “OMG hes beautiful” experience. The worst bit was I had to restrain the cat while he examined her so he was literally touching me and I was mortified because I was thinking what if he realises that I have a 14 year old teenage crush on him? I then changed which vet I saw, however I went to my neighbours NYE party this year and there the vet was!

Creative writing course?

Room for improvement.